1st Time Pain & Bleeding 101

[astral_body_awake]

Hello, I'm a newbie to this message board as well as to penetrative sex. I lost my virginity two days ago to my boyfriend, whom I'm very comfortable with. I'm 21 and I'm glad I waited for someone who respects me and appreciates my needs, so I will certainly not regret this decision

My biggest fear was the pain and the bleeding. However, the most I felt was discomfort and there was no bleeding at all. I suppose this is due to fingering from masturbation and by partners, as well as oral sex. I guess all these things helped in loosening my hymen and resulted in my experience being more comfortable than I anticipated.

We had sex twice that night, and while I felt very clumsy it was still very nice, and I was glad I was wet, otherwise the experience would have been extremely uncomfortable. However, I'm still feeling a bit sore and that's not a very nice feeling.

Well, I just felt like sharing my experience, and we are looking forward to exploring one another and what positions work best for us

[Riverwalker]

I have a slight problem. I have a girlfriend, we've been dating for about 5 months now, and I'm going to be her first. We made an attempt at having intercourse, but things just didn't work out. She took one look at my penis, and just coyuldn't do it. I have no idea what I'm going to do. I thought she was ready, but I guess not. Just for the record, we're both twenty.

[thetease13]

it's not really a matter of if you were ready it's a matter of if she was ready.
she may have thought she was ready but obviously, in some way, she was not, and well, you're just going to have to respect that.

[Riverwalker]

Of course, I'm going to respect that, I never had any intentions of doing otherwise. I've just been beating myself up about it, and thought there would be some decent advice here. Most of the message boards here have good advice, I thought I'd try my luck.

[monkeygirl]

just talk to her. that's what i'd say. sometimes someone thinks they are ready, then figures out that they aren't right before they get ready to do it.

[Heb69]

Hmm me and my girl had sex the other day (we WERE both virgins) and to be honset I thought there'd b a lotta blood, like i'd actually get some on my bed, but that wasn't the case. I had fingered her a lil b4 the intercourse (lol that wasn't planned to loosen her). I just wasn't sure if i was ready so I thought if i got her off, she wouldn't want it as bad. Anyway, turns out after some misunderstandin (coz i stopped when she interferred with her hand) that she hadn't had a orgasm yet and she was just interferring to see if I was using a finger.

Later on we had sex and it was really hard I g2admit. We're around the same height pretty much except she has longer legs than me and I have a longer upper body than her. The hard thing for me, I guess after talking about it with a friend, more keeping it in the hole then getting it there (at first i was surprised at the difficulty in actually locating the hole). Anyway, I got my whole penis in and I'm pretty sure I broke her hymen coz my buds got to b at least 6inches atm when erected (i don't measure but judging it, that's what it looks like). The funny thing was that there wasn't that much blood at all, I was expecting some on my bed and never got it, I did break her hymen right?

O yea and another thing, I've gotten my girl 2 a orgasm before a lotta times but never with my tongue alone. I enjaculated before her during sex and got her orgasm by giving her head. The weird thing for me was that she had a HUGE orgasm, like 10-20 times more than what a guy gets outta theirs. SHe's never done that before and I was wonderin if breaking the hymen or anything else could've caused such a effect.

Thanks

[demonbuttercup]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] ]Anyway, turns out after some misunderstandin (coz i stopped when she interferred with her hand) that she hadn't had a orgasm yet and she was just interferring to see if I was using a finger.

hmmm pretty bad if you have to check to see which it is.
sorry

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] ]Anyway, I got my whole penis in and I'm pretty sure I broke her hymen coz my buds got to b at least 6inches atm when erected (i don't measure but judging it, that's what it looks like). The funny thing was that there wasn't that much blood at all, I was expecting some on my bed and never got it, I did break her hymen right?

doesn't matter the length.. its more the girth. the hymen is located right at the entrance of the vagina...not way up in there. if you had fingered her before and she's used tampons then its more than likely her hymen was already gone or pretty much gone. especially since there wasn't blood and you didn't say she said it was real painful. a lot of girls now a days don't experience as much pain/blood b/c of using tampons,masturbating, or guys fingering them.

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] ]I enjaculated before her during sex

hmm this is a new one?

[Pandora]

i have never had sex but have masturbated since i was like 4 years old. i've always used those supersized cardboard tampons as my family is ghetto and we don't use anything else. plus i can stick three of my own fingers up my hole. any pain you think?

(i've never been fingered by somebody else i don't think)

[demonbuttercup]

yeah pandora i think you should be safe.
for me its wasn't painful i just felt more like a uncomfortable pressure at first since i'd never had something that far up in me.
after awhile, once i got used to it and relaxed...it felt better.

[dreamwrter]

I've been masturbating for a few years now, and in the last couple I've experimented with more penetration than before. And though I'm nearly 20, I've only had two boyfriends- one which I practiced no sexual acts, and my current boyfriend.

My boyfriend and I have decided not to have sex for the time being, but we do give each other oral and he loves to finger me. I love feeling his fingers inside of me..making me squirm.

HERE'S THE PROBLEM: I can't tell you how many times I've penetrated myself and that he's penetrated me. On some occations, however, I still bleed!

Any idea why??