1st Time Pain & Bleeding 101

[WildF17]

Thanks a lot for the responses, they were helpful. Have a good Sunday.

[Dirrty LiL Duckie]

I know people vary on whether or not sex hurts for the 1st time, I wanna know, from all of our ladies opinions... did it hurt you the 1st time, and how much, or how little was the amount of pain? And, does gettin fingered and using tampons really help reduce the pain (if there is any)? Thanks.

[Brandye]

You are correct: it varies from a non-issue to screaming pain. There are three things that make the difference:

1. Hymen. If you have an extremely tough hymen (unusual but not rare), it will hurt. If you have had a gyn exam (and if you are old enough for sex you should have had one) the doctor will usually comment on this and give you the opportunity to make a little cut - practically painless. If you have used tampons regularly the hymen is likely worn down and will offer only minimal resistance. Try with a super sized tampon in a cardboard applicator. If that works, you will have no problem with a penis.

2. Lubrication. Generally, the first time you will be a bit nervous and arousal may not be too great. Your natural lubrication may not be sufficient. Use a liberal amount of a spermicidal vaginal jelly (KY Plus, Ortho II or similar). This is a good idea all the time as the spermicidal lube will offer increased protection over condoms alone.

3. Relaxation. If the muscles of your lower abdomen are tight, as from nervousness, they will resist entry. Be relaxed as you can get at such a time. It often helps to be on top because it gives you confidence that you are controlling things and can back off if you want.

Mostly, look over the stuff here on birth control. You are embarking on a great adventure that includes sweating out your period for the rest of your life. That monthly stress is pretty tough to handle as a teen. You get used to it but much damage can be done to your life if you spend your teen years constantly worrying about pregnancy. There is no perfect solution but you want the greatest odds in your favor possible.

[Shorty43]

No, it did hurt as far as I remember. I was so happy at that moment with my boyfriend that if it did hurt my joy totally took over. I guess I do remember things feeling awkward, but no pain, suffering, agony, or anything.

And listen to Brandye, she is right. Having sex will change your life. I have spent many days just wondering if my period would come and be on time and stressing out.

[Junocozmos]

It was uncofortable for me, never didnt really "hurt".
Buy it wasnt orgasmic thats for sure lmao!!!

[e14h15a13]

for my first time, it did hurt, it was like a pinching feeling. I teared up, but as long as he goes slow, its not that bad. [B][I]

[Vixen916]

For me it was a slight hurt. I made sure my boyfriend at the time went slow and at one point he said he was going to stop but I asked him not to.. it's a 'good' hurt..

[girlygirl]

My first time was extremely painful. In fact, my first EIGHT times were extremely painful.

[honeyb16]

i just ha da slight pain, but you begin to get used to it, and it doesnt feel like pain anymore, being on top helps and makes it easier to.

[bunners101]

hey i just had sex for the first time VERY recently, and i was freaked out, mainly about the pain, i was scared shitless...but he had fingered me before hand, and for weeks we had been using two fingers, instead of the one, and that REALLY helps...once you can get past two fingers (which isn't all that bad to begin with) you're fine...and before we had sex, he fingered me again (with two fingers) and that helped, and we used lots of lube, and i was wodnering how much it would hurt, and it didn't hurt at all...he went slowly and it was fine...so as long as you get fingered before, use lots of lube, and he goes slowly, you'll be fine