1st Time Pain & Bleeding 101

[sania]

I lost my virginity to my husband at the age of 23. We had a nice candle lit dinner. I made our bed ready. Spread some rose petals on bed. He was excited. We started with kissing and slowly he asked me to undress. I refused. I told him to switch of lights. Finally he did. In dark, we undressed each other. He was very much interested in Vaginal sex . He was on my top. He raised my both legs up on his sholders and touched by entrance. After little inserting I was in pain and pushed him. He was upset. I told him sorry. He again started but same thing happened. He came by my side. and kissed me. I told him sorry and requested him that I would give him in morning. He agreed but asked my for some Oral as he was already hard. I did it. I gave him nice oral pleasure to his satisfaction. We slept . In morning, he woke up and started licking my pussy. I woke up. I smiled and he understood my permission. After some foreplay, he slept on me with my legs apart. He pushed a little and I again resisted and cried a little. He stopped and kissed on my eyes and told me that this happens to all. Just bear for some time. And finally, he pushed and gave a big thrust . This time he had hold my hand under his hand. He just went on. He was right. He knew he had to take some lead. He just teared into me. I was satisfied seeing him drop on me after he was over. I kissed him. He patted on my cheek saying ' you have done it'
I was in pain. little feverish in morning. But from next day, slowly, everything was fine. For a week we enjoyed only regular sex. We enjoyed everything.

[dancingdoc2]

Please read my reply in this thread.

There is information about an exercise that a woman can do to help make the vaginal opening and the hymen more pliable. I suggest that the two of you try this over the next several days and see if there is any improvement.

It is possible that there is a medical issue instead of a small opening and/or intact hymen, so if the exercise does not help, I recommend visiting your doctor for help.

[girlygirl9999]

how old is too old to be a virgin? i;ll be 23 in january and i still am!
i know im supposed to wait until the rigth person but i cant help but feel retarded!
im such an old virgin!!
help me!!!!

[sania]

Originally Posted by girlygirl9999

how old is too old to be a virgin? i;ll be 23 in january and i still am!
i know im supposed to wait until the rigth person but i cant help but feel retarded!
im such an old virgin!!
help me!!!!

You are never too old unless boys dont look at you. But sooner the better. Dont try to look older. Find a nice chap and let him deflower you. You are missing a lot ...

[Brandye]

You are in a minority at 23 but certainly have not lost all. There have been a surprising number of both and women post here over the years, some in their thirties. You are not "supposed" to do anything. At this point in your life, you make the critical decisions. Learn all you can about how your body works, how to protect yourself and what you can do to please yourself.

On the brighter side, you are still eligible, in many countries, to have the Gardasil shots. Once you are no longer a virgin, that will not be available. Something to ask the doctor about when you go for a thorough gyn exam preparatory to sex.

[theus]

girlygirl,

I know how you feel.. I was 22 the first time I had sex... You shouldn't feel alone because you are not.. I would suggest that you find a man that will appreciate the moment you are sharing with him.. You might also consider that sex brings on emotions in many people.. Some people develope emotions for the first person they sleep with. If you have decided you are going to have sex take your time chosing who and when. You may remember that moment for a long time so take your time getting there.

[CLVR-HNDS_GUY]

Im sure is other people who are alot older then you who are still virgins, i know of a female myself from the net who is 28
i wouldnt worry about the age you are being a virgin, i lost mine when i was about 23, when its the right person, it will happen

[Blondie21]

I'm 21 and just recently lot my virginity. I wanted to wait until I was completly reaady.I was also afraid it would hurt as we tried once and had to stop. The 2nd time we tried I was much more relaxed.It still hurt but only for about 10 seconds and after that it felt good. We started with girl on top and after I felt the pressure/pain subside we moved into missionary and let him take over. I was 100% sure I was ready and relaxed and the guy I lost it too I've known for 9 years and dated several times so I was completly comfortable.We took it slow with lots of foreplay and just tried to have fun. My point is it's going to hurt alittle it all depends on your body.I bled more than average but I didn't even know it until he mentioned it after we were done. Just take it slow and make sure you and your body are 100% ready.

[shay-bayb]

i'm a virgin but plan on loosing it this weekend formy bday. i'm ready an i know the person that i plan on losing it with very well we have been together a little over a year but the problem is im really nervous like what if i do something wrong? will it hurt if so how bad? will i bleed if so how much? please help....

[aimee]

a have had sex twice and bled both times my second time was last night. and i dont know why.