1st Time Pain & Bleeding 101

[michelle2004]

Originally Posted by goldrush1251

I now have a mental block about sex, I've had sex once with one guy with absolutely no pain (he was pretty small :\) but my new guy has a very wide girth. We've only had sex twice and the pain is just...immense.
Now every time I get close to having sex I tense up and I know its going to make it worse.
I've been thinking recently, and they always tell you to put a tampon in as far as it will go, yes? Tampons go in fine not a problem, but they just aren't very long, and you push them in until you feel it hurt at the top. But then I thought, well, most boys penis' are longer than the tampon and part of the string, so how are you supposed to get most of the boys penis in there when it hurts to put a tampon in anymore than it is designed to be?

Should I just stick it out until it stops hurting anymore? Tell me it'll stop hurting, because right now I'm failing to see sex as enjoyable. Which is a terrible thing. I love dry sex, which makes me think I will love sex, its just the pain at the moment which isn't helping.

You also have to remember that during foreplay before sex you body is preparing itself for sex, this is not the case with tampons. A lot of foreplay will really help you out, but some will taking it slow and getting your body used to it. Sex toys are a good idea.

[Laura&Andrew]

I sometimes still bleed while having sex. i find lots of lube and experement with different angles during penetration help

-Laura

[n_s10]

i keep reading that its normal to bleed if you break your hymen. however i had sex regularly for the first time all last summer, and i cant remember if i bled or not. and i didnt have sex again until about 10 months later, which is now. and i had it 3 times within about 2 weeks and then this morning i had it again and i bled a little afterwards when i went to the bathroom. is that normal?

[VirginInLove]

Ok so here's my situation.

For the past several years I thought I had broken my Hymen with a tampon when I was younger (I started very early and probably used a tampon that was too big... ouchie!). Then the other night my bf and I were messing around and he was fingering me like he had several times before, and I bled like crazy!! It scared him like crazy and I was a little freaked out myself. It finally quit bleeding like an hour or two later. I thought this was a little long for just a hymen~

Whats really weird to me is that I've been stretching/masturbating and he's fingered me before without any pain or bleeding...

so yeah... any ideas?

btw... my abdomen is a bit sore from all this...not bad... less than cramps... but still...

[sera300]

Originally Posted by VirginInLove

Ok so here's my situation.

For the past several years I thought I had broken my Hymen with a tampon when I was younger (I started very early and probably used a tampon that was too big... ouchie!). Then the other night my bf and I were messing around and he was fingering me like he had several times before, and I bled like crazy!! It scared him like crazy and I was a little freaked out myself. It finally quit bleeding like an hour or two later. I thought this was a little long for just a hymen~

Whats really weird to me is that I've been stretching/masturbating and he's fingered me before without any pain or bleeding...

so yeah... any ideas?

btw... my abdomen is a bit sore from all this...not bad... less than cramps... but still...

Perhaps it's the onset of your period or close? Next time maybe have him be a bit easier?

[learngrl]

If you are a virgin you will not bleed much at all. A few spots wherever you are doing it and a little in your underwear but nothing that will be noticable.

[lay.con]

very cooooool ,, hooooooot

[crazyhorse_9000]

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Hi im an 19 yr old guy and ive never had this issue with any girl before. Ive been seeing this girl for well 9 months now. The problem is that weve been trying to have sex for a long time now (Roughly 5 months) but we cant because on entry she always gets alot of pain. Shes a virgin or well if it still counts and we have been trying desperately to figure this out. Any advice is appreciated.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by crazyhorse_9000

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Hi im an 19 yr old guy and ive never had this issue with any girl before. Ive been seeing this girl for well 9 months now. The problem is that weve been trying to have sex for a long time now (Roughly 5 months) but we cant because on entry she always gets alot of pain. Shes a virgin or well if it still counts and we have been trying desperately to figure this out. Any advice is appreciated.

Has she considered seeing her Gyn doctor and discussing it with him/her????

[crazyhorse_9000]

Originally Posted by sera300

Has she considered seeing her Gyn doctor and discussing it with him/her????

Yeah shes said that she would a few times now but I think she feels awkward discussing it with another person even a doctor who speciallizes in that area. Just from knowing my girlfriend she has assumed that I would find an answer.