1st Time Pain & Bleeding 101

[mj2003]

I have to say that my first 10 or so experiences with sex were horrible and I didnt know why until recently. It was so painful for me and honestly my boyfriend was a horrible guy but thats a whole 'nother story... so yeah intense pain, it never felt good (I was 15 when I lost my virginity) at my ripe old age of 22 I have realized I am very allerigic to latex. condoms feel like they are made out of sand paper to me (latex gloves make me itch and burn anywhere they touch me too) so yeahm that was the whole problem now sex is amazing since i figured it out! haha but more on topic it hurt a lot when I first had sex for the obvious reasons and I didnt bleed that I can remember but I was also and athlete and a tampon user. My advice is stop, think and most of all be safe... there are so many bad std's out there. 80% of the girls I know regret their first partner but I think thats life because what you want at 15 16 17 is not usually what the mature you will want! good luck

[pjm1990]

Hi

Me and my gf last weekend were fooling around, i started off fingering her and was doing so for about 15 minutes, not something i find a chore though, anyway so after the 15 minutes she lies on her back and i get in position. so when i penetrated her it was fine, i put roughly an inch in only and took it back slightly but then when i pushed it in further she got hurt. she is abput 5.5 foot tall and im 6 foot and was wondering if there is a possibility that we CANT have sex because of her being too tight. i have just over a 7 inch penis with what she says is a 'wide' girth but i only think its average being roughly an inch wide or so. i think i just rushed in there and didnt take time for her too get stretched, thing is during fingering she said she wanted it now and i said i want 2 get her as wide as possible, to which she replied i think this is as wide as ill get. also i wasnt using a condom, so lubrication wasnt really there and i wudnt say she was all that wet. so please give me some advice to avoid hurting her. thanks

[sera300]

Originally Posted by pjm1990

Hi

Me and my gf last weekend were fooling around, i started off fingering her and was doing so for about 15 minutes, not something i find a chore though, anyway so after the 15 minutes she lies on her back and i get in position. so when i penetrated her it was fine, i put roughly an inch in only and took it back slightly but then when i pushed it in further she got hurt. she is abput 5.5 foot tall and im 6 foot and was wondering if there is a possibility that we CANT have sex because of her being too tight. i have just over a 7 inch penis with what she says is a 'wide' girth but i only think its average being roughly an inch wide or so. i think i just rushed in there and didnt take time for her too get stretched, thing is during fingering she said she wanted it now and i said i want 2 get her as wide as possible, to which she replied i think this is as wide as ill get. also i wasnt using a condom, so lubrication wasnt really there and i wudnt say she was all that wet. so please give me some advice to avoid hurting her. thanks

First no condom? Why? Second if she is not all that wet you both need to add some lube.

A persons height has NOTHING to do with their ability to accommodate a penis.

Perhaps you rushed a bit, you could have just left it where it was and stimulated her clitoris. Probably she tensed up and tightened her muscles. And yes, her vaginal opening does stretch out more then the size of a penis--remember someday children get through the same opening!

Summarized: Some myths are dispelled for you both and hopefully using birth control is something you both do, add some lube (KY), and take your time.

[pjm1990]

thanks, also regarding no condom, we had none at hand and wasnt planning on ejaculating nside her anyway

[sera300]

Originally Posted by pjm1990

thanks, also regarding no condom, we had none at hand and wasnt planning on ejaculating nside her anyway

Not good enough. Withdrawal methods of birth control have a very high rate of failure. Furthermore, you ooze precum without even knowing it, this fluid semen contains sperm...

Condom & spermicide.

[skipgirl]

sex for me hurt really bad the first and second time...then i started usin lube and i use it every time i have sex, and i'm never in pain. seriously lube is awesome!

[Carrina]

Originally Posted by sera300

Not good enough. Withdrawal methods of birth control have a very high rate of failure. Furthermore, you ooze precum without even knowing it, this fluid semen contains sperm...

Condom & spermicide.

Very true. I actually met a virgin girl in a college class that was there to show her son to us. All the male did was rub his penis again her lips a few times. Never going inside of her.

Becareful out there always use a condom.

[Carrina]

Originally Posted by pjm1990

Hi

Me and my gf last weekend were fooling around, i started off fingering her and was doing so for about 15 minutes, not something i find a chore though, anyway so after the 15 minutes she lies on her back and i get in position. so when i penetrated her it was fine, i put roughly an inch in only and took it back slightly but then when i pushed it in further she got hurt. she is abput 5.5 foot tall and im 6 foot and was wondering if there is a possibility that we CANT have sex because of her being too tight. i have just over a 7 inch penis with what she says is a 'wide' girth but i only think its average being roughly an inch wide or so. i think i just rushed in there and didnt take time for her too get stretched, thing is during fingering she said she wanted it now and i said i want 2 get her as wide as possible, to which she replied i think this is as wide as ill get. also i wasnt using a condom, so lubrication wasnt really there and i wudnt say she was all that wet. so please give me some advice to avoid hurting her. thanks

Height never has anything to do with it. Im 5'2 and my husband is 6'2.

[lustforlove]

my first time felt like i was being snapped in half but after that it has been easy i think it's probably just one of thoughs things where you have to go through the pain the first time to get the pleasure someother time, once you've done it properly once the worst parts over and you can just enjoy it

[TheSenseMaker33]

I will say my first time it hurt pretty bad, I won't lie and i've used tampons my whole life, I have a heavy cycle so they weren't small ...but I will tell you this..after the first few minutes the pain decreases extremely..doesn't dissapear actually the first couple of times I did I had discomfort but about the middle of the 3rd to the 4th time you start to feel small waves of ecstasy ...you'll enjoy it..give it a bit of time..if it hurts that bad make sure he's extremely gentle my guy was understanding..and if he won't be gentle tell him they your not doing it till he agrees to and if he continues on the rough path maybe you should consider someone who better understands you sexually.

hope that helped.