1st Time Pain & Bleeding 101

[kitkat23]

Hello. I'm new here; I signed up because I have a problem that has been worrying me for the past week now. I lost my virginity last week Friday and everything went fine. Yes, it was a little awkward, but overall a comfortable and enjoyable experience. It barely hurt at all. However, the morning after I noticed that I was bleeding, not a lot just a little bit. As the days passed on however, I started to bleed more. It's been 9 days or so since then and I'm still bleeding. It's not like my period, which is normally heavy (plus I had already had my period a week before I lost my virginity). It's light sometimes and heavier others. I'm getting worried that something is wrong. My boyfriend is worried, too. I've heard that for some people they get their periods after, which I would take as a possibility even though I already "had" my period for the month. If this continues then I'm definitely going to see a gyno, but do any of you have an idea of why this bleeding is occurring so that I don't feel that scared? Thanx

[sarabeth86]

Hey! I just want to let you know that you're not going to get away from the pain of having sex the first time. When I lost my virginity, I had been fingered for at least two years before hand and I used tampons and I masturbated. But it still hurt the first, second, and third times that I had sex. There's no way around it because you're stretching muscles that you haven't used before. But over time, it will get better. But to make it easier, the more foreplay, the better. Have him finger you...have him perform oral sex on you. The wetter you are, the better. So once you are ready to have sex, have him use a lubricated condom and then get some KY jelly (I prefer the warming jelly). Use the KY jelly on the outside of your vagina, while he has the lubricated condom to help.

Remember, the more nervous you are, the more likely you are to hurt during sex. Just relax, and you'll find that it might not hurt as much as it did before.

You can also do Kegal exercises. These will strengthen your vaginal muscles. I'm not sure if you've ever heard of them or not...but the next time that you're going pee, try stopping the flow of urine. Once you get this down, try doing the same action throughout your day. I try and do these as much as I can. They not only strengthen your muscles, you also can affect how strong your orgasms are. The stronger your muscles, the stronger the orgasm...

I hope all this information helps you! Have fun and stay safe!

[PunkChick]

well I've wanted to do it with my boyfriend for ages and I wanted to break my hymen before we do it, so it would hurt less and I would enjoy it more. So i put a pen up there slowly and it hurt a little bit but I've had blood since I did it, and quite abit of it. Is it normal to have alot of blood or could I have made myself start my period early or something? =( how embarrassing, I'm just worried that I mightve done something else?

[jsontan]

i have a stupid question, so please dont laugh about it awrytie? nyway here goes.... will u still consider a girl virgin if she had his bf inserted his thing but just quite ddint do it coz it hurts...?!?!?1 thanx

[bryrw06]

well technically if he didn't break her hymen then she has not been fully penetrated but who would it matter to by this point?

[PunkChick]

If a man has entered her, whether her hymen has broke or not i still think she shouldn't be classed as a virgin, seeing as she has been penetrated

[hellsbells483]

ok so i got a couple of questions, first there is this girl that i likes me and i like her too and she said she wants to have sex. I said ok we are both virgins and i was wonder are there any good positions for her first time to make it more pleasurable?

[sexkitten69616]

OKay ive had sex with 2 guys
both big
and i dont know if thats why
but after each time
i bled excessively
i really want to know whats wrong with me
i dont really want to keep trying and getting embaressed when i bleed
what can i do?
whats wrong with me?

[iceman4]

maybe try having sex with an avg. guy. (5-6in) sexykitten69616

[sexkitten69616]

grr.
well ive had it wit h average and nothing happened
but i dont want to stick with just average
cus my bf is def. not average
so im confused
and
i just dont know what to do