1st Time Pain & Bleeding 101

[!!abbot]

The overall topic was very helpful to me too as I just got married and was wondering about the same thing we both being virgins. However I made it sure that I gathered ample information from the various available sources before I could proceed with the lovemaking job. Well all seems to be going fine till now. However I have one query. as prior to this I have never experienced sex other than X-rated movies I noticed that my wife's pussy does not open up the same way as the ones I have seen in movies, can this be due to the fact of she never had sex? Looking at it I wondered how on earth can my penis go inside that? So am I wrong in my thinking?

[humbug]

Hey

My boyfriend and I have been trying to have sex since april, we have got past the hymen, bet he tells me that there is a muscle barrier preventing him from entering, we've tried everything. Do you have any idea what this could be? I know it's not normal, but I am too shy to see a doctor right now. If it gets touch the pain is unbearable for the both of us, so much so we have to stop, i have no idea what's happening.

[Letsride]

I posted to the wrong place

[yar123]

me and my boyfriend are feeling the same way about sex. we want to have it... im just soo afraid of how much i'd bleed.. i mean, i dont care if my parents are home, i just want to know how much i'd bleed... so i should use a spare blanket or not ??

[yar123]

how much do i bleed having sex ? . ii want to soo bad. but im afraid i'll bleed too much

[unknown11]

juss take it slow and top when pain occurs

[lil princess <3]

try gettin tipsy haha i was tipsy the first time i had sex because i was so nervous about doing it, so i harldy felt any pain but i did bleed!

[john12]

u just hav too go easy that first time, then its not bad at all

[browneyedgirl]

Sex doesn't have to hurt the first time. I experienced no pain at all. In fact, I had a lot of fun my first time. I didn't use extra lube, but the condom was lubricated. A couple months before I had sex I started working up to it by masturbating and putting my fingers inside. I know my hymen was already broken (I noticed a little blood but no pain when it broke while I was masturbating when I was about 13). So... I advise that girls masturbate and stretch themselves out a bit.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Any bleeding and/or discomfort is momentary and transient. Both of you should be aroused in a private setting and have some degree of care for the other. Condoms are always mandatory. Slowly, gently enter but do not stop. When resistence is met, take a deep breath, relax into it while he slowly continues to press against the hymen. When the hymen breaks he has to be careful not to plunge forward as hitting the cervix hurts so he has to remain in control of the motion. Once this has been done, you can begin working on having orgasms.