1st Time Pain & Bleeding 101

[Honeydew]

Ok, so...we just did it for the first time. I mean, he left like half an hour ago and we just did it. So at first, it was really funny because he couldn't get it in, and we were awkward, but we're so comfortable with it, we just laughed it off...and then he figured out that he was pointing up instead of going down...so once he fixed that, he slipped right in...and I didn't bleed directly afterwards or during, so I'm waiting to see if it's coming or not...but thus far, it was a pretty great first experience. Good luck to everyone else

[xsrtlwl22]

ok ,hi ,well me and my girlfriend do it 2-3 times a week and well it hurts her after like 30 mins,is there anyway to help this from not happening,like lube,and if so can you make you own lube,becuz i don't have access to any

[xsrtlwl22]

oh ya and when i try to use a condom(lubricated,or ultra thin lubricated)it hurts my gf , why is this?

[redneckfiregoddess]

Ok so I had "sex" for the first time today. I'm fixing to turn 18 and the guy was a really good friend who is 23. He's married but things arent going well in his marriage which I know isnt an excuse for him to cheat. I;m not looking for a lecture on morals. I've know him for about a year and a half now. He's my captain at the fire station I volunteer at. We've gotten to be pretty close and talk about everything. I trust him with my life. The sexual side of the relationship kinda blindsided both of us. We didnt rush into anything it took a month before we worked up to us both being naked. We were have what i guess is called dry sex today when I moved my hips just as he thrust and well....he ended up inside. we both kinda froze liek idots for a second before he asked if i wanted him to stop. Well i let him ( i hate to put it this way but) go at if for a few seconds before i told him i didnt think we needed to risk it. (we didnt have protection) So he stop and he fingered me until i came.

I've read most of the pther posts on here but I'm still unsure. OK so there wasnt any bleeding or discomfort when he entered me or after. I've rode horses sense i was little and I played sports in high school. I'm not the most experienced with guys and sexual acts. Theres only been him and my current boyfriend (0nce again no lecture on morals I know i;m terrible ad I'm goign to hell in a hand basket).

I'm guessing my hymen was gone. But shouldnt there have been discomfort? Soreness... am I just one of the "lucky ones"? I'm not complaining I'm really glad it didnt hurt or bleed... He wasnt exactly slow or gentle when he enter granted he didnt know he'd be going there but could there be something wronge? Should I be worried?

[fortuna2007]

okay - i did it for the 4th time last night - with my new boyfriend. And the Pain was unbelieveable - i was definately wet enough spent ages with foreplay but there was so much resistance. My new boyf is a lot bigger than guys ive been with before - is it possible that previously my hymen simply just stretched and did not break?

We had to stop eventually because it was hurting too much - i bled a tiny bit but not much at all...

[mrsbeef]

so my bf is 17 im 16 on our 8 month we lost our virginity together

we actually did it on my parents boat where i was concieved the first time! haha

so the first time wasn't painful at all and i didn't bleed, then an hour later he like pounded me and it was fine. why didn't i bleed?

[lulu]

i agree with brandye,
just because it doesn't hurt for some girls doesn't mean they aren't virgins.
i hardly even felt anything and it only lasted for about a minute or so.and i don't know if it has to do with me being in dance? or just the fact that it just doesnt hurt some people
dont get too scared! it will make it way more painfull,

[luce1991]

I'm 15 and recently me and my boyfriend decided that we love eachother enough to lose our virginity together. We talked about it alot before deciding and felt we were both ready. But when it came to it, it hurt so badly he stopped and said he refused to let me go through any more pain. And i was in REAL pain! he kept telling me that i should have told him it hurt, but i wanted him to enjoy his first experience. I really feel like i'm ready to have sex, i love him and i know that he loves me, but i'm terrified it'll hurt again. I bled the first time, and we didnt even finish. I want to experience sex for the first time with him, because i feel its right for both of us, but the pain was unbearable last time.

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[AverageJack]

I'm new to the whole sex thing too. I'm 16 and I've been with my girlfriend, also 16, for nearly 6months now. She is my first ever girlfriend.
We are very familiar with foreplay but when it comes to sexual intercourse she is worried. We tried having sex a while ago but it wouldn't go in, she thinks it's all her fault. The problem was positioning, i don't think we were positioned correctly. She got upset when we didnt have sex because we both wanted it and she blamed herself, of course i comforted her and told her it wasnt her fault. Now when we want to have sex she doesn't want to because she will feel really bad if it doesn't work again.
Can anybody suggest any positions for first time sex? (we're both virgins)