1st Time Pain & Bleeding 101

[IndianaEMTlady]

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[analabella88]

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[Spottedthong]

Just wanted to thank everyone for posting! I didnt bleed right away after my first time... It wasnt until I got home tha I noticed the blood stains on my pants. Kept thinking there was something wrong with me... Why didnt I bleed when I was first penetrated? I felt pain! After reading everyones posts I am reassured that I didnt do anything wrong and that I am NOT the first person to experience this. THANK YOU!

[Curiousityisking]

Originally Posted by Curiousityisking

Hey, this may have been answered before, but I havent seen it :P

If i am having sex with a virgin girl, and she bleeds a bit, I suppose it is appropriate to stop, right??

Any answers would be appreciated

[mariaevangeline]

ok so I know I want to have sex but when we tried it hurt soooo bad.....but I mean I'm a sucker for pain anyway......I've been using tampons for a while now but they are like the slender kind....hehe so they aren't very big........I also think I tense up down there so I was just wondering how you get over that initial OUCH! lol I have been reading some of these posts and they are giving me tips....like taking a warm bath....using some sort of lubricant like KY.....but do you think maybe if I used like a super sized tampon before hand that might help?? lol I know that sounds ridiculous but I don't want to get him all worked up then blow him off b/c I hate pain........

[SouthernFF]

ok the guy im goin' out with is 19..and we've grown up together, and we already experimented with sex, but it was EARLY..like he was 10 and i was 8.....and know were back together but my parents hate him with a passion, but i really really really really like him, and he wants me 2 have sex, but he will be my actual first, and im afraid of it hurting, and stuff like that...and when do you know if your ready for nethin' like that, cause wat happens if somethin' goes wrong and i dont know wat to do on ne of it, and i mean ANYTHING....the only thing that we've done since being together this last time was he fingered me..and thats it..cause i dont know how to do anythin else..HELP

[Honeydew]

Use protection and take it slow, and if it hurts ask him to stop. If you don't think you're ready, you can ask him to stop too.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over three years and are still virgins (I'm only 17, he's 18). I went to the doctor to get birth control because we started talking about having sex so I figured I should be prepared/protected. My doctor was really nonchalant about it though, and just handed over the prescription. Is that weird? I figured she would be more probe-y and discuss it with me. I've been on the pill for a month now, but I'm wondering if we should still use other forms of protection? I'm assuming it would be a good idea. And if we use other forms of protection, he ejaculates early most of the time so should we try those extended-pleasure condoms or something? Or is there another way of keeping that from happening? Not that the first time has to go on forever or anything...Sorry, I have a lot of questions. I think we're ready, I mean...we really care about each other and we've talked seriously about it. Thanks in advance.

[Spanish Flyy]

Does anybody know what the best brand of lube for virgins is?...My boyfriend's friend told him that KY and silk aren't that great for virgins because it has an ingridient that stings during sex when the girl is a virgin because the skin is tearing. If anybody has tried any good brands out there, please, let me kno!

[Brandye]

K-Y is as pure as anything available and would be recommended. K-Y Plus contains spermicide which add adds valuable protection but could conceivably cause stinging, if, in fact the hymen is still there and not loose enough.

The two old standards, both water based, are K-Y and Surgilube. Stick with them.

[moooojii]

Here's an alternate remedy to lubricant, relaxation and so on (although all of the above work, too!)

My boyfriend and I were both virgins before we gave it a go, and since then we've had sex about five or six times. The first few times were unbelievably painful, but he was patient and would stop and wait whenever I asked him to. (Sweet boy, hey?) But it got really frustrating, so he went and talked to a notoriously promiscuous friend of his. She told him about this position she tried with HER boyfriend when it hurt at first.

So what you do is...
1. Put a pillow under your bum to lift your hips up off the bed
2. Have your boyfriend on his knees between your legs
3. Wrap your legs around his hips and have him hold onto your thighs behind him
4. And go for it, but slowly. Make sure you stay at an angle.

I was so relieved when we tried this and sex finally felt good!!! Use lube just in case & don't forget the condom!

Good luck y'all