1st Time Pain & Bleeding 101

[clare33]

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Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Satans_Intimacy @ April 28 2005,18:57)]This is a litte bit offtopic...but I thought I'd mention it while I was on. I saw him the other day, and he had cuts all over him..up his arms, his back, his stomache...and who knows where else. When I asked him about it he simply said he was mad. I don't want to report this to anyone, because I know he doesn't do it to try and commit suicide...he does it to feel better. I called him later that night to see if he was okay, and he said he was, but what can I do to make sure everything will be alright for him? His parents really don't care.

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It seems very possible that he is self-mutilating aka &quot;cutting&quot;. People cut themselves (with anything, knives, scissors, pens, etc etc) when they have emotional problems and then express their pent up emotions ( be it anger, sadness, etc) by feeling physical pain instead of emotional pain. Feeling the pain of cutting themself &quot;numbs&quot; the emotional pain. It is NOT the same as attempting suicide at all. It is completely different- it is NOT an attempt to kill oneself. However, it is an EXTREMELY big psychological problem. Therapy is needed and if it gets to be too bad, a psychiatric hospitalization is sometimes required becausing the cutting becomes like an addiction (and can be very dangerous- leading to extreme blood loss or the accidental severing of an artery).

I don't know anything about this guy, but from what you said in your post (got arrested, might go to juvi), it sounds like he has issues. He needs to get help. I would urge him to get counseling or talk to a trusted adult instead of trying to have sex with him. It is generally not a good idea to be in a relationship with someone having those kind of emotional problems (nor is it good for them to be in a relationship). Wait until this guy gets help for his emotional and criminal problems then try dating - it could cause you a lot of pain to get drawn into this kind of problem. Of course this is just my advice (however I do have a good bit of personal experience in these areas), take it as you wish.

[michael.b]

How Do You Get Vaginal Blood(or Whatever You Call It) Off Ur Bed Sheets?!!!!
Someone Tell Me Quickly Before My Mum Finds Out Lol

[CuriousChelle18]

Hey, I just joined and im wondering about having sex...if you use tampons does that break your hymen?? i wouldnt think but im not sure...

[demonbuttercup]

Originally Posted by CuriousChelle18

Hey, I just joined and im wondering about having sex...if you use tampons does that break your hymen?? i wouldnt think but im not sure...

Yes it can tear or partially wear it away

[fixiepixie]

i joined this fourm looking for advice and info.

well im wanting my bf to do me. its like his bday present to me(my bday is tuesday). so first off we dont know where were going to do it @. my mom doesnt let me go places that much and shes a bitch and like ya. so like a friends house(nearest my school cuz that where i basically get to see him) or where? one day last week me & him were dry humping and his hip bone hurt my thighs. i mean i want him on top of me because im self concious but like how else woud i solve that problem?
okay so ive been fingerd b4 and ive used tampons for a while. am i stretched out enough? how much am i gunna bleed? how much is it going to hurt? any other advice?

[Lackadaisical]

It's different for everyone...but I'd say to expect a bit of pain. It all depends on the person, situation, comfort between the two people, and many other factors. The first time I had my boyfriend inside me, it didn't hurt, but we had been doing other things beforrehand, and he's been fingering me for months. It depends on your age, size, etc as well. Day to day can be different, at least for me.

[Lonewolf*]

Originally Posted by michael.b

How Do You Get Vaginal Blood(or Whatever You Call It) Off Ur Bed Sheets?!!!!
Someone Tell Me Quickly Before My Mum Finds Out Lol

Very good question. I was worried about that since I plan to have sex with my boyfriend soon (ya I dont think I'll wait till I'm 18, I never had a reason to wait till then, I was just setting a time, and since I know I dont want to wait, and I know I'm ready...) I was wondering about the blood. Yes I've read all the posts in here, I've used tampons for a while... two-three years (my first period was nice enough to start the morning of my very first day of highschool that was a shock lol) but I've never been fingered so I'm going to assume I will still bleed.

We cant do it at my house, for obvious reasons. (Parents rules are door stays wide open when theres a guy in my room) My preference would be to do it at his place. (I would never be able to do it at a friends house, too weird. And being unemployed for the last two months means theres no one I can afford to rent a room or whatever) But then I was worried about the blood, I would find that weird to get up and theres blood on his sheets. I figured I could use a towel like someone wrote earlier, but my friend kept telling me that there would be too much and that it would just soak through. But I wouldnt think there would be that much.

I also dont know how to tell him, because he knows I wanted to wait till I was 18. But that ..isnt so anymore.

Someone wrote earlier that it was better for a girl to be on top to have control, but then another wrote that it was better for the guy to be on top (assuming that they are gentle and will stop if you tell them too) so which way is better? Which one causes less pain? My bf and I talked about it and said that he would definitly be on top for the first few times because we both figured this would be easier/less painful on me. So now that I'm hearing the opposite..I'm not sure. I would think the guy on top would be better?

[Goddess on her knees]

im a frequent tampon user and i use objects when i masterbate, will i bleed the first time i have sex. im pritty sure i wont, but i still worry about it.
plez help.

[foxycat666]

hey, im new 2 this forum. im thinking of having sex 4 da 1st time, bt im a little worried bout da pain nd bleeding nd stuff-do u bleed 4 a long time afterwards or jst at wen he penetrates u?

[Curiousityisking]

Hey, this may have been answered before, but I havent seen it :P

If i am having sex with a virgin girl, and she bleeds a bit, I suppose it is appropriate to stop, right??