1st Time Pain & Bleeding 101

[rainydayzsunshine]

i was reading the above posts about being fingered before sex... do you mean immediately before sex ... or like on previous occasions before ? just a little confused !! thanks !

[thetease13]

Both really.
Fingering on ocassion before will help you get used to something being inserted down there and can help on the stretching thing

However, right before sex it is definately a good thing because it helps you losen up and be able to accept what's going to be inserted into you.

[yetagainsorrows]

I agree with Tease, it is also so important that you are relaxed and comfortable when you are exploring your body with someone or alone. Best of luck!

[rainydayzsunshine]

also...

[DannyMac2m]

Reading the first time and hurting, and if it didn't hurt they may have had sex. I have been with my gf for about 3 years, and having sex for about 1. The first time was just as easy as it is now. There was no pain for her, and she came her first time. I had stretched her out many times before, and i dont know if thats enough to make it that easy?

[cassandria]

God I remember my first time... It hurt so much, I was walking like John Wayne for 2 days afterwards! Seriously though, as long as you're relaxed and comfortable with both the guy and the situation - it's always worse if you're nervous. Take it slow, is the best approach.

[Satans_Intimacy]

Well, I just spent a hell of a lot of time reading every reply to this post, and I've got to say it's been very helpful to me.

I'm in quite a situation myself, and I really am confused.

I currently met a guy that I've found myself drawn to...he's pretty much everything I've ever looked for in a relationship, plus more. He's two years older than me, and he's definately not what you'd call a virgin. However, I am a virgin to many things. Really, the farthest I've gone is making out and, well, having my breasts "groped". Still, I really thing he's the one I want to lose my virginity to.

I have a problem though. He does have a girlfriend, but she's never around him, or vice versa. When she calls, he doesn't answer often, and she's cheating on him. He knows this. Him and I have gotten very close; I'm over at his house all of the time, and recently we even got arrested together. I've picked a winner, huh? Well, despite all of the shit we've gone through, I really do love him. I'm just nervous...I've always been somewhat self consious about myself and my body, even though I know I'm not "fat" or completely "horrid". Whenever I'm around him, I just know I want to lose it to him and that I am ready.

I just don't know how to express this to him, knowing he does have a girlfriend. And I'm worried that if I do end up talking to him about it, how weirded out he may be. I don't know how guys usually react to things like that. Any advice?

Shaina

[mmparks]

And your age is???

Well, Id say find someone who isnt attached. Barring that tell him when he isnt attached youd be very interested. I figure if he didnt have something for the girl he is never around.. well he wouldnt be "with" her. Why set yourself up for being hurt if you can avoid it?

[Satans_Intimacy]

Don't laugh, I'm 14. I understand this, but really...I don't think he likes her. More or less, he uses her to get by. He has nothing better, and he's never really felt "love" from somene before. I have a hard time letting go when I start to like them, especially when I see them almost everyday. I was as his house earlier today, and since I'm grounded from seeing him right now, I could only be over there for a little while. Still, he seemed interested, asking if anyone was at my house or not so he could come over. Sadly, my family is at my house, and their first impression of him wasn't great. He's 16, almost 17, but to me age has always been just a number. It's more of a maturity thing in my mind. I figure that maybe if I do just bluntly ask him if he's interested in me at all, I can get it all over with. If he's not, that's fine with me...I can deal with just being friends. I'm just worried that it may make him uncomfterable and I'll lose my friendship with him.

[uncreativename]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Svetlana @ Dec. 26 2003,17:33)]I don't know if I have broken my hymen. I use tampons..so I just wanted to know how far in your hymen is inside of you. My boyfriend has fingered me befor and he has gotten his whole middle finger in. So I just wanted to know how far it is up there.

isnt the hymen on the outside of the body?