1st Time Pain & Bleeding 101

[demonbuttercup]

well are you putting too much pressure on him?
i mean, if he feels uncomfortable and doesn't want to jeopardize his relationship w/ you or your father, then you should consider that.
is it worth losing a great friend over?
are you just bound and determined to lose your virginity?

[foolishxemotions]

No, I'm not putting too much pressure on him. He was about to come over one night and I told him that I wanted him to come over but I needed to explain a few things to him first. I told him that I had never done anything with anyone before and if this was going to happen, I figured that I would let him know before I led him on again. I told him that IF something were to happen, I would want it to be with him because I trust him and feel safe with him. I don't see any pressure with that. He simply told me that it shouldn't be a one night stand kind of thing. He's clarified that he cares about me and he doesn't want to hurt me. He never said that he was uncomfortable about any of this. And we talk just about every day.

My dad knows how I feel about him. He just doesn't know that we are talking about doing anything together. I'm afraid of his reaction if someone ever found out and told him. He knows that I care deeply for him, though...and he's fine with it.

I'm not bound and determined to lose my virginity. Its just that we have been talking for a while now and I feel that I am ready for this. I've told him, if something happens..it happens. If not, then it doesn't. I've also told him that if things came close like the last time he almost came over, I wouldn't want him to feel the need to stop himself. And like I said, that is why we are taking things slow and not jumping straight into sex.

[demonbuttercup]

thats good to hear.
i was just curious as to how he really felt about the whole situation.
well good luck w/ everything and i do think its good you are taking it slow.

[foolishxemotions]

Thank you.

[missgiggles]

I've been reading through this thread, feeling relieved..that I'm not the only one. I'm still a little embarassed though.

I'm 23, and only a few days ago, I had sex for the first time. Actually, it wasn't my real *first* time, but I think my hymen was broken then...so maybe the first time I had sex, which was pretty brief wasn't enough..

Anyway, my boyfriend kept trying to penetrate me, but it just kept on hurting. It seemed like there was a huge barrier and that his penis just wouldn't fit. I was SO embarassed. But he was really patient with me (a complete gentleman) and he *blush* went down on me..which is something that I never thought I'd allow out of sheer embarassment, because I don't get a Brazilian or anything... but basically I was really wet, and he kept on trying, being as gentle. After initial pain..it started to feel right, and he came...

I thought he'd stopped because it didn't feel right, or it was just awkward cos I wasn't feeling the *most* pleasure..but it was because he did. We tried for a second time a while after, and oh yeah...it felt better.

Now that I've had a try..I'm SO horny all the time! I just wanna keep trying! Sorry about the long post..

[SweetiePup]

Hi...Ive never had sex before, but I have used tampons, and I was wondering if I still have a hymen.

It's right at the enterance to the vagina right? Is it visible? What does it look like?

I had my first obgyn appointment a few months ago. It included a pelvic exam, but I was too embarassed to ask about my hymen.

[thetease13]

It's doubtful your hymen was there if a full pelvic exam was performed.
I would think that if it was still there, the doctor would have asked if you would like it cut so they could continue on with the exam. (Granted, I don't know. Brandye would probably shed some more light on this subject.)

And yes, it's right at the entrance.
It's pretty much a layer of skin. You should be able to see it if you still have it.

[demonbuttercup]

Yeah I was thinking the same thing Tease.
I didn't have my first PE until I became sexually active.
here is a pic.
its up to you if you want to see it lol.

[SweetiePup]

Wow, that site is really helpful. I can't tell you how long I've been searching for something like that.

Unfortunately I still don't really know the answer to my question.
I don't see a definite open entrance to the vagina like there is in that picture....uh I guess that's probably too much information... I guess I'm just weird down there

[thetease13]

Evereyone is different down there.
If you go to google.com and do an images search for the hymen, various pictures will come up and you will see various pictures of the hymen and the vaginal opening.

You also haven't engaged in sexual intercourse yet so teh hole itself probably isn't as "open" so to speak as someone who has.