Hi I'm a 17 year old girl and was a virgin up until recently, I am involved with a man who I deeply love, and we have had sex a couple of times, however today he wanted me to give him Oral Sex (He's done it to me). But every time I put his penis in my mouth I started to gag and didn't really know what to do with it. I Was wondering if you could give me some advice as to how to over come the gagging sensation and how to perform Oral Sex on him and how I go about pleasuring him in this way. I know he is more experience than me (He was my first) and that doesn't bother him I just feel I'd like to be able to show him how much I care by pleasuring him Orally.
Also today we had sex for the second time. The first time we had pentration but he didn't really move around inside me or pump (sorry about terminology), today he did and it hurt more than the first time we had penetration. I also bled a little bit and didn't on my first time. I Was wondering is this normal?? Looking at myself in the mirror since we had proper sex today, I seem to have changed down below, could it be that the hymen didn't break properly the first time we had penetration but because we had proper pumping sex today it did??
I look forward to all your replies and deeply appreciate the information conveyed to me on this site it has made me feel more comfortable.
Thanks.
i don't know about your down below problem, but the oral thing i can help with. If you trying to fit it all in with one go, try sucking on the head and slowly work your way down your saliva will help it slid in with a little easier (plus he likes it to). If your gagging form the taste have him shower and wash his penis (or join him in the shower and wash if for him), somethings when i go down on my guy after we had sex i can taste the condom and it's not a plesent taste, but usually he taste nice. good luck
Secind issue first: It is not uncommon that the hymen is not completely ruptured or removed on the first experience. In those cases, some bleeding may occur for a few times. I do hope that you have had a gyn exam - all women should before they become active. You guessed the answer!
Like everything else about sex, we women have to learn some things that seem natural to men. Oral is among these. You may be more comfortable using a dry condom. Tell him so; we all had to learn sometime. The penis requires more space than most of us have used before and the psychological effects, even subliminally, of putting a penis in your mouth takesome getting over. Just try taking him a few times and remove him before you start to gag. The time you can tolerate will increase and just the sensation of being in and out will keep him up and ready.
Eventually, there is that first ejaculation. It is a shock no matter how ready you think you are. I generally made a fool of myself gagging and counghing. Did not stop him from letting me again a few days later! The taste and consistency are not particularly pleasant for many of us women. Keep a thumb pressed lightly at the bottom base of his penis. There you can feel the ejaculate as it is pumped. And it comes fast. As soon as you feel it, press the back of your tongue against your hard palate. This prevents that first hard shot from hitting your gag reflex at the back of your throat. Again, you may want to practice with a condom a few times.