Hi I'm quite new to sex. I had one expirience at the age of 18 from a "hooker"
curiosity of the age. I know it wasn't nessecary and I really don't much count it as a first time
My first time was about 2 weeks ago . and until now I can count about 5-6 times of having sex(i'm 19 now).
My girlfriend is apparently more expirienced than I am and allthough she pleases me I want to know if I satisfy her as well. Cause when I know I do i'll be less anxious during the act and have some better time..
Now here are a list of the problems I have
1) cumming too soon: excluding the good time we had in foreplay when I get in i get too turned up and end up cumming in a minute or two. Now I read on topics about this and heard that it's mostly due to inexpirience. however once I thought about giving it a second round soon after I cummed the first time. and the second round lasted quite some time about 10 mins but wild. This until now was my most satisfying time.
Questions: should I worry or is it normal for the first 5 times to cum early and is it a good way to fight this problem and get more used to it to give it second rounds or even masturbate some time before starting the act?
2) I'm not sure I please her: it is quite obvious when a man finishes off due to the cumming, but i can't really tell when my girlfriend finishes off. I mean she's wet most of the time, she moans and quite loud some times. I know this is a sign of pleasure but is she supposed to finish off every time or is she satisfied judging by those signs mentioned above..
So here is my biggest question in short terms: does she have to finish off? and WHEN do I know she did..
3) Another small problem that I have is that sometimes during the late foreplay she gives me a hand job, and once or twice she got me cumming. I'm not sure if she wanted to finish me off or simply warm me up but my question is: Ok when I get in I know that to make it last longer I can slow down, get out of her and generally there are a lot of techniques to slow the proccess. when she gives me a hand job I could just pull back if i have the wits. But should I blame my self if I get off there?
I am mostly interested in the two first questions and it could help me very much to hear the opinion of someone more expirienced than my self
that's all I need to know. I'd appreciate your replies very much
> 1) Questions: should I worry or is it normal for the first 5 times to cum early and is it a good way to fight this problem and get more used to it to give it second rounds or even masturbate some time before starting the act?
The biggest fix is not to worry as in doing so you become your own worst enemy. It's sometimes like a self-fullfilling prophecy.
Masturbating can help. So too will just having some more experience and confidence--both gained from knowing yourself and your partner better.
> 2) I'm not sure I please her
Please read the following Sticky message,
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?
specifically the embolded section near the bottom of:
More On Oral-
About Gals-
> So here is my biggest question in short terms: does she have to finish off? and WHEN do I know she did..
Asked and answered, above.
No, she doesn't have to finish. In one of Brandye's recent posts, she repeats the information that about 25% of women are unable to achieve a climax, so, for these women, it would seem that their pleasure is in the overall experience.
It is also important to know and understand that not all women learn to masturbate, and, if they do, they often learn later in life compared to boys. It is important for you to know whether your girlfriend has transmuted into an orgasmic woman. In otherwords, has she learned to masturbate and have regular and consistant climaxes. If not, her first order of business is to learn how.
For Women Only- Help! Why Can't He Make Me Orgasm?
> 3) Another small problem that I have is that sometimes during the late foreplay she gives me a hand job, and once or twice she got me cumming. I'm not sure if she wanted to finish me off or simply warm me up but my question is: Ok when I get in I know that to make it last longer I can slow down, get out of her and generally there are a lot of techniques to slow the proccess. when she gives me a hand job I could just pull back if i have the wits. But should I blame my self if I get off there?
Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controling Premature Ejaculation
You will have to ask her if and when it is her intent to bring about your climax. On the flip side, because making love should be a partnership, your part in this matter is to let her know when you are about to climax, yet when you can still maintain control. This way the two of you have options.
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Humping
Please read the entire thread, above, beginning with Chapter Two and then reading the opening chapter, second. You can read the rest of the thread in any order you want.
> I am mostly interested in the two first questions and it could help me very much to hear the opinion of someone more expirienced than my self
All of your questions are extremely important and relevant. Your questions and concerns are exactly why these and other Sticky posts were written.
> that's all I need to know.
For now?? I encourage you to continue reading and asking questions.
When you do have more questions and concerns, please do not hesitate to ask. This is the why of this website.