Okay so as the title says, I met a new girl. She is everything I pretty much want sexually. I mean super open minded. Tight body, nice features into bondage as horny as I am (if not hornier). I mean I have had a few women who were just like whatever about sex. (either not into it t all, or they werent into me...I have yet to figure it out). But this girl is ino me and has made it extremely clear with some text messages.
The only thing is, I get into it. We will be having phone or web cam sex. I will cum and then after I am like...totally not in the mood. Usually when I cum I am tired but just need a minute to recoup and wanna go again. But now I finish and I am finished. Like I dont wanna talk about anything or do anything sexual with her for about 10 minutes. Even thinking about sexual things is almost an annoyance to me...
Anyone have any idea why I want her, yet after I cum for about 10 to 20 minutes I dont want anything to do with her? I mean after that I am ok and like talking to her and stuff but for that 10-20 its like ugh!
Have you had sex in person yet? My first sexual partner (would not necessarily say girl friend now) had a sky high sex drive and always insisted on both of us having multiple orgasm per session. Before her I would never have more the one orgasm at a time because I would loose interest, but when she was there and pushing me (in a good way) I could just keep going. So what I am saying is maybe when you get together in person the problem could be solved.
Nah we havent had sex yet. Both been really swamped with things (me with work and her with family dinnners and such with christmas) all we can do is phone and webcam sex
The thing is I have never lost interest before. I mean with my past few partners I will cum and even though I wont be hard, I am still wanting to screw around some more.
But with her I cum and I dont wanna do anything (even talk or think about her) for about 10-20 minutes. Then afterwards everything goes back to normal and I wanna be with her...its weird.
I understand what its like to not have time. I have not yet slept with my new girl friend because we did not have time during finals and then she went away with her family for Christmases. (I was doing my fuck buddy though so I can’t complain, we have an open relationship). Anyways, I still say go for the real thing when you have the time and see if that solves the problem.
Did I get this straight? You have cyber sex, text sex, or phone sex with her and then are disinterested in sex for about 10 minutes, but have not had real in the flesh sex with her yet?
When you have "real" sex with her let us know if you continue to loose interest in her afterwards. That could indicate a genuine problem in the relationship---for her.
Well I can relate to this guy. I had webcam sex and then lost interest...like please dont talk to me now I am done and need to get on with my life...
BUT when I was single I solely used it for the selfish purpose of cumming with the help of someone else because it is better than porn...there is no feeling or emotion in webcam sex, its just masturbation with human interaction which is more real than porn!!!
So that guys need for her is a selfish one, and to be honest like dlb says - when you have 'real' sex it's a problem...
why don't you just switch her off and try a new webcam girl mate...lol...
I wanna do it in person lol. just a little worried at hh\ow i will react after
There is a problem seen in younger men of being interested in a girl - wanting to talk with her, get to know her, spend time with her, yadda yadda yadda - until he has sex with her. After that it is yeah, right, whatever. Even occurs in person.
Ducy, you may have to force yourself to listen. Because when such men get around to seriously hunting for a mate/wife they find they have no skills beyond that first hunt. They have no idea how to develop or to sustain a relationship - because they stopped listening and learning.
Next please consider the statement regarding frequency at the bottom of The Program. If you, in effect, mentally and then physically train yourself for "one shot and its over" - you will never be able to sustain the frequency outlined in The Program leaving you 'unarmed' when she still expects another 24,026,523 orgasms. So much for your prowess. You'll go down in her notes as either a "one trick pony" or, even worse, as a "teaser pony".
Do not permit yourself to develop bad habits, Ducy.
I know :( I really hate it, I mean its the first time this as ever happened. The girl I lost my virginity to, I would come and wanna be with her after, talk etc. The girls I would hook up with at parties, even thogh it would be a 1 time thing, I didnt mind laying with them. I enjoyed it.
But for whatever reason I am just whatever...Like the first two days I would be wanting it more and more. Then next thing I know I was kinda whatever.
Perhaps its just stress. Been working a lot at work. Pretty much burning the candle at both ends (up at 9 every morning, hanging out with work friends then working 8 to 3am and in bed by 4. I never realized the problems with being an assistant manager...err the stress at least lol)
[QUOTE=Ducy;231221]I wanna do it in person lol. just a little worried at hh\ow i will react after[/QUOTE]
Yeah and we both know what worrying causes LOL... limpness....
My girlfriend is coming over tonight and fuck knows what will happen or what wont haha I've decided not to worry about it...
But yeah if that girl is really into you...she could be a bit stalker-ish :) sounds like you both want to have sex for real so just go with it, deal with your feelings after.
After my first time with my girlfriend, it did leave me a little like ..well I've done it now...and then was slightly less interested - but that is because all the chasing, wanting, needing it all came to an end... now I need my girlfriend to stop giving me sex again lol so I can earn it haha.
Actually after assisting her to have those 242,407,396 orgasms - don't be surprised if she doesn't let you get out of the bed or at least throws herself into your arms at every opportunity. Ah well! Tis a small price to pay.
Yea I think I solved my problem cuz I slept 15 hours and was feeling great when I woke up. went to work and totally annihilated a group of kids who were talking trash on a few others. Basically one group was feeling badass for beating a group of 12 year olds at a game, so I got announced a Gears of War tournament, me (the assistant manager) vs the five bully kids. Totally beat them, won all ten rounds and it took me all of 5 minutes (with a 20 second load time in between rounds). So I felt good for not only smoking these kids in front of probably 80 people, but the fact that I got them to stop picking on the younger kids, and that everyone was complimenting me (even a few amazingly attractive females)
Just got dont having phone sex with the girl, and still want her. Guess it was just the stress, lack of sleep and the fact I wasnt too happy the last two days
I know Im prob in the wrong thread...but if anyone remembers my little erection issue LOL my girlfriend came over yesterday and the issue has totally been resolved...totally..
Told you brah....just dont sweat it. Everything works out