Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 months, we're not having sex or doing oral (unfortunatly shes not down with oral, but i love her and dont care) neway, so ive had to stick with using my hands, but nomatter how hard i f***ing try i cant find her spot!! The only way ive been able to get her off is by rubbing my dick against her pussy. Basically dry sex. Every other girl i have been with i have been able to find the G-Spot in one makeout session, I HAVE YET TO FIND HERS!! Are some girls just like REALLY REALLY REALLY f***ing hard to find their spot or wat? If so what can i do to help get her off and find this ever so illusive spot of hers? Please i hate asking for help cuz i rarely need it but i need it now. Thanxs!
Sat, 11/26/2005 - 08:26
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New Girlfriend
Sorry uncreativename, i didnt mean to offend you, i dont look at woman as "something to make orgasm" the other guy is right im more frustrated because she can get me off easily, and when it comes to pleasing her i cant seem to do it. I just feel like im letting her down or something. She said her past boyfriends never had as much trouble doing it, and that right there is another reason why im so darn frustrated about this. I just want to be able to make this work both ways instead of just one. Thats all im trying to get help with here.
moose hd-- nothing perverted about looking for your g-spot or masturbating, so get that notion out of your head.
and as for the original problem addressed, i'm going to try to read your slightly misogynistic statements as an expression of frustration rather than a true way you think of women, but i do have to note: women are not yours to "make orgasm"; they are partners in orgasm, who you share a bond with.
that said, try a little less hard to make her orgasm and relax and take an afternon to explore each other's bodies, no orgasm (intentional, that is) involved. Touch her, look at her, get to know her body in the most intimate ways you can. Use your fingers, tongue...
once you've grown to understand each other, you'll be better able to please.
best of luck.
One of my female friends told me she can't find her own "g-spot."
And believe me, she is a huge pervert, so I'm sure she has tried extensively.
[QUOTE=Quote (Devastator_333 @ Nov. 26 2005,03:26)]Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 months, we're not having sex or doing oral (unfortunatly shes not down with oral, but i love her and dont care) neway, so ive had to stick with using my hands, but nomatter how hard i f***ing try i cant find her spot!! The only way ive been able to get her off is by rubbing my dick against her pussy. Basically dry sex. Every other girl i have been with i have been able to find the G-Spot in one makeout session, I HAVE YET TO FIND HERS!! Are some girls just like REALLY REALLY REALLY f***ing hard to find their spot or wat? If so what can i do to help get her off and find this ever so illusive spot of hers? Please i hate asking for help cuz i rarely need it but i need it now. Thanxs![/QUOTE]
hun, girls aren't conquests. you shouldnt be comparing her to ur past gfs as this will put pressure on her. you should be enjoying the sexual intimacy in your relationship, not stressing because “you can’t make her orgasm”. Every girl is DIFFERENT. What works on 5 other girls won’t work on 10 other girls. It’s all relative. Treat each person as an individual. The point of sexual intimacy’s to find out what YOUR PARTNER likes not questioning why she doesn’t respond in the same way to past girlfriends/partners.
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"Are some girls just like REALLY REALLY REALLY f***ing hard to find their spot or wat? If so what can i do to help get her off and find this ever so illusive spot of hers?"
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I find this offensive. Im sure if your girlfriend saw this she would be rather offended too! There’s a high percentage of girls who can only orgasm from masturbation by themselves and some can’t even orgasm at all…ever. When you stop treating this as your problem only, then you may find things get easier. Guys are known despite their “profound knowledge of porn” and sexual “intellect”, to actually know very little about how to please their partner. What I’m saying is that guys have to be more open to their partner’s needs. Do not treat them as strange if they don’t orgasm and don’t put pressure on them.
"Please i hate asking for help cuz i rarely need it but i need it now."
Also, why do you “hate asking for help”? Nobody knows everything about sex so why be naïve and say “I rarely need” help…there’s always stuff to find out that you won’t know. You’ve already shown there’s a lot to be learnt on your behalf, esp as it’s her orgasm not yours.
Communication’s the key, and without it, sexual acts become meaningless.
uncreativename