So I had this HUGE post typed out about my new g.f. and all this junk. But then I realized for the "Pleasing Her" section you prolly just want the nitty-gritty. So here it is.
I have a new girl. She's about 5'3 100-110lbs. Korean.
Whenever we get to fooling around she gets incredibly turned on. We flirt via texts and phone conversations. She always (always) comes over for booty calls, cos' she lives in my neighborhood. (My dad is never home because he's retired and rich, and I don't go over her house cos' her straight-from-korea-parents don't really approve of WASPs, anyway...)
She recently confessed to me that she's never EVER had an orgasm. And she's been faking it with me. I mean I'm not by any means someone who just wants to bust a proverbial nut and move on. I've always put the lady before me so that after she's had hers it's like "woohoo do wat I want :P" and no one has complained ever. She says she enjoys the sex and it feels good after a while (Implying it hurts early on) but she doesn't cum.
Now I do believe her to a degree. I mean if you could rub in between her legs when we get started you'd understand, she is FLOODING. The gates are open, as it were. Lube is not the issue.
My question is, how can a girl be this turned on, and always be ready to go, and always seem to want more (like a nympho almost, srsly) and never have an orgasm. Is this a "common" problem for women? Not being able to Orgasm?
She claims she doesn't care and that I shouldn't worry about it. But I do worry about it, i mean the reason I like sex is because EVERYONE should be enjoying it you know. (And by everyone I mean both parties involved.) Do you understand my problem sexinfo101? LoL plz help me. :P
Also, she won't let me go down on her.
ahh someone help. we have tix for a dinner//theatre next wednesday and I want to make it the time of her life after w/out the use of alcohol ):
Ok...first off if you read around the board, this question would be answered (There is a thread that talks about womans orgasms.)
Let me break down the numbers
25% never cum
25% need both thrusting and clit stimulation
25% can only cum with clit stimulation
25% can cum from penetration alone
99% of all woman CAN and DO enjoy sex without having an orgasm and some time or another.
(sorry the last statistic isnt from brandye just what I have gathered from much of these posts. An inference if you will)
Also take a deep breathe and relax. Your post has only been up a few hours. And people will eventually see it.
Finally, dont involve alcohol. It rarely does anything more than make it impossible for you or her to cum. A little will make her more open and lower any inhibitions such as her not letting you perform cunninglus. But its such a fine line between inhibiting inhibitions and inhibiting sexual performance and abilities that there is no point.
If you want to really get her to start cumming, find out if she has ever orgasmed by herself or through any act you have performed with her (fingering and such) If not, encourage her to masturbate. If she is too embarassed, or worried about her parents catching her, she can come over and you two could masturbate together. Once she starts finishing regularly by herself, she will be able to stimulate herself in a way that will make her cum during intercourse. (And maybe even show you how to do it to her)
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Your circumstance is not unusual. Girls/women must make a concerted conscious effort to learn how to orgasm, unlike boys who pretty much learn automatically right out of puberty.
Please look at the Index at the top of the main screen and look at the three or four articles that deal with the female climax. Ducy is right as far as he goes, no read the articles for how-to info, and the physiology about it.