Well, remeber this first of all: the act is about stimulating yourself as much as it is stimulating your partner. So with this said, you will enjoy it more on top at times because you can vontrol the rythm and pressure. It is a know fact that men aren't stimulated that greatly with woman on top, because they feel they can't control it. I beleive that if the roles would change between men and woman and woman always have all the control (like men have during sexual intercourse) that more woman will orgasm and more men would go without. So, I am of theopinion that if a guy let you be on top, he wants to look at you enjoy what he is offering you. The best thing, and the only thing for you to do is to enjoy it, because he will be getting off your display of pleasure and arrousal. As for "what" to do, grind yourself against his pelvis, using deep and sensual rotating movements. You could also consider touching your breasts, giving him a show he will never forget.
Just remember that you are in that possition to please yourself, if he likes what he sees, you don't have to worry about him.
I used to ride my ex, but he always came quickly. I get exhausted from riding my current boyfriend, who has INCREDIBLE stamina, after only a few minutes. I am in shape, and can run for miles. I know he enjoys me being on top, but I get so tired so quickly. I want to be able to please him if he's not up to doing all the work. Does anyone have any tips for increasing sexual stamina for a woman who wants to be on top?
You could always just switch it up..be on top til you get tired and give him a chance to show off. When you feel you have the energy again, go back on top.
ok this is kind of an odd question, but what exactly is meant by "grind yourself against his penis"... i think my mind has been warped by the porn insdustry where u usually just see a girl riding up and down... so i guess in my head its odd to picture a girl sorta grinding... do a lot of people do that? it seems like it could be interesting... ive been with my bf about 1,5 years and we 've never done that, although i do occasionnally go on top... but its got me thinking that it could be something that i would enjoy... cuz i never come during sex because there is no clitoral stimulation... and occasionally i have tried to rub my clit during sex but then usually my bf ends up coming before i get that chance to lol ......
> what exactly is meant by "grind yourself against his penis"... i think my mind has been warped by the porn insdustry where u usually just see a girl riding up and down... so i guess in my head its odd to picture a girl sorta grinding.
Hi,
This position favors the woman because it places her in control of:
* penis placement (against a hymen for initial intercourse)
* angle of penetration (somewhat)
* speed of penetration
* depth of penetration
* speed and length of stroking
* speed of thrusting * and, is one of the few positions that makes it possible to achieve an orgasm during intercourse without help from a finger
In point of fact the woman does not "grind" against the man's penis, rather, his pubic mound. "Grinding" is accomplished by sitting on him in order for your pieces-parts (inner lips and clitoris, and surrounding area) to rest against his pubic mound.
In order to trigger an orgasm we all require continuous friction in one form or another and this is a great position that gives nearly constant and ongoing friction, rather than the touch and go sporadic contact of other positions. The latter being the reason one or the other of you needs to use a finger when thrusting away.
> do a lot of people do that? it seems like it could be interesting.
Absolutely, positively, indubitably, yes!
"Grinding" can be any of the following
* rocking back and forth
* rocking side to side
* undulating in a more or less circular motion against him
* possibly including some gentle and slight bouncing to the other actions * whatever feels good to you in the moment and heat of passion as this position makes it all about you and your satisfaction first and foremost
The Woman Superior position favors the woman's pleasore more than the man's because the bouncing can be a distraction and the angle of penetration does not give us the best contact against the vaginal wall for the friction we require.
The Woman Superior position is ideal for use for first time intercourse and when trying to penetrate the hymen.
The actual posture can be any of the following:
* squatting facing him
* kneeling
* Kneeling and leaning forward on your arms while somewhat above him
* as above but touching his chest
> its got me thinking that it could be something that i would enjoy.
Ya just might! Be sorta "selfish" and give it a try. If your boyfriend needs some help, later, you can always roll over into the Missionary position or get him off in another position or way.
> i never come during sex because there is no clitoral stimulation... and occasionally i have tried to rub my clit during sex
OH DEAR! Not enjoying a climax from intercourse; it's just not right.
Who says that intercourse is just about a man getting his rocks off? Why not a woman's pleasure and ability to bond one-on-one psychicly with her man?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with fingering yourself while he is bouncing away in utter bliss; however, let's face facts: a kind, compassionate, knowledgeable, skilled, creative, lover will also see to his lover's needs. For your boyfriend (and anybody elses) to adopt this philosophy and role, he should reach around with his finger and provide the fingering you require. After all, making love is a partnership (always joint although not necessarily equal every time, depending upon the focus of the event). All y'all reading this might just want to give your guy a heads up by letting him read this.
As an alternative, he should see to your climax before and/or after intercourse if this is your wish.
> usually my bf ends up coming before i get that chance to lol
This is just not good manners. It's not a matter of who climaxes first, rather, that you both are given the opportunity. (I really dislike "lol" at the end of a statement. This is one situation where proper education, consideration, and attention to the needs of a partner would eliminate the frustration and exasperation of "oh well...." To me, "lol" is the same as the saying "if it wasn't for the bad luck I'd have no luck at all." I'll say it again: making love should be a partnership and joint effort.
ok ok i guess i didnt give my bf a fair chance in what i wrote in my previous post.. i do come with him, but usually by touching myself while he will either usually kiss me or play with my nipples... so its not like he's super inconsiderate, i just have a hard time to come when im not in control (well with him so far anyway)... so because when i masturbate i can make myself come like 95% of the time that is how we do it... he has made me come probably 2-3 times only from oral... its something we're in the process of trying to work on... hence why im curious about the grinding... but again the only position i usually am able to come in is lying on my back so it will be different for me to be sitting up trying to focus on orgasm...
the worse part is that i did date 1 guy for about 4 months who could make me come alot easier than any other guy ive dated (ok not that i dated "that" many people, but a few over the years)... anyway... so i try to tell my bf to do things that i think would make me come (without saying oh by the way thats what so and so used to do and it worked well :P)... but so far no great progress has been made so i usually just masturbate then we either have sex or oral sex or other stuff... but its definitely a work in progress i dont give up that easy... but there are other issues such as my bf is really shy so i kind of pick up on that and find it hard to truly completely let go while in bed... there is a loving connection going on, but i can probably count on 1 hand the number of times i found myself clinging on and screaming for more at the end (meanwhile he doesnt virtually make a single sound)
So to sum up, thanks for the descriptive and useful advice, and its something im workin' on :)
My hubby is a "silent ejaculator" too!!! I am like you as well--I want to hear him! When he does let a groan or moan slip, it makes me so hot its hard to control my orgasm. I can't figure out why he doesn't make these noises more often. They are so hot.
Being on top can be the most frustrating or the most satisfyling place for women. If we sit straight up, the rising and falling is very tiring, but does great stuff for cellulite! Lean forward a bit and you rock rather than rise up and down. It is much less tiring. How far you lean is up to the geometry of the two of you. Find what feels best.
I find it pleasant to move side to side. That allows me to rub my clitoris over his pubic bone and will sometimes allow me to reach orgasm - I do not usually from thrusting. If wgile you are moving side to side he begins to soften a bit, give it a few pumps up and down and he will firm up again.
The angle of the penis can be an issue especially if he is very rigid. If he angles up, the rocking will follow the natural curve; if he angles down, the pressure will be against the back of your vagina and you need be careful that he does not pop out. A slightly flexible penis, my preference, allows you to move easily and should not put undue pressure on either him or you.
I find that grinding on his pelvic bone in a "figure eight" motion feels good for me. Any time I am on top he seems to enjoy the view and the sensations, but he rarely cums unless we are in reverse-cowgirl (me on top, facing towards his feet). I think its a good way to slow down guys who tend to cum quickly.
P.S. My current boy is vocal enough for me, but a previous fling was always completely silent during sex. It wasn't too bad because we almost ALWAYS had sex in the shower which made it's own noise, but still, it's unnerving to have a guy cumming in my mouth without making any noise to indicate that it feels good.
hmmm even when i am on top my guy still does all the work LOL
mainly because i cannot go nearly as fast as i want when i control thrusting...i usually lean all the way forward (also putting most of my weight on him :p ) while biting and moaning in his ear while he does most of the thrusting :D
also i like this position because he can wrap his arms tightly around my waist
Ok a few things to comment on all of the replies to this thread. Me on top of my man is absolutely my FAVORITE position. It is the ONLY one that makes me cum EVERY time! As far as "what to do"...there really isn't a right way or a wrong way. Once he is inside of you and you start moving, you will figure out what feels good and that's what you will do. Laying close to or on his chest will allow you to go longer without getting tired as opposed to sitting up straight. However, I find that when I lay close to him, the angle is perfect and I can cum in less than a minute so usually I start by sitting up straight for a while so I can last longer and he can enjoy it longer. Secondly, as far as increasing stamina, sitting up straight does take more energy out of you because you have to move up and down with your legs instead of grinding with your pelvis. But, try this...position yourself over him in the same way you would if you were doing doggystyle and have him do the thrusting. That way, he can have some control too and you won't get as tired. Then, when you are ready, let him relax and you do some of the work. This works well too if he starts to get soft on you while you are doing your thing, as he sometimes might because "woman on top" is more for your benefit than his. Also, just a side note...my man doesn't make much noise either...which I find strange because he is turned on a lot by dirty talk during sex, so why can he talk dirty to me but he can't let out a little moan here and there. I am NOT quiet during sex and he LOVES IT...so men...START MAKING A LITTLE NOISE...your girl will love it!
Im starting to find being ontop annoying, since I can't make it work. :( My guy likes it when Im ontop, but everytime I get ontop of him I feel like theres pressure inside, like air being trapped or something. All I know its uncomfortable for me, but I do still want to try and make it right since I've only done this position 3 times. Any tips?
the other night i went on top for the first time with someone and i was leaning forward alot and had my hands rested on his chest near his shoulders. i think i had most of my weight on him. at one point i was going pretty hard and fast and he pulled my arms up so they were resting on the bed above his shoulders and said "settle down"
now im wondering if that was because i was hurting him or causing him unable to breathe or something, or if it was just too much and he was going to cum?! i dont know if it was good or bad! any thoughts?
Okay, so I am not the only person who doesn't understand much about "girl on top" ... I did not ask earlier because this could be a silly question ... when he sit on the couch and put me on top of him, I expected that I was the one doing the job, but he actually did everything and he did it real fast. I had to "follow his pace" and in fact, I would prefer taking it slow but I was not sure if I should ask him to go slow. Question: does a guy get the pleasure out of this? We did so for a long time, then he took me to bed, this time, he on the top, and again he come in and out very quickly ... gave me pain but I did not tell because I wanted to please him. Now, thinking back, I am not sure if he got pleasure from doing that?
He finally ejaculated .. after a few short rest. I just want to know if he had a good time, and was I considered "bad in bed"?
[QUOTE=4love;189511]Okay, so I am not the only person who doesn't understand much about "girl on top" ... I did not ask earlier because this could be a silly question ... when he sit on the couch and put me on top of him, I expected that I was the one doing the job, but he actually did everything and he did it real fast. I had to "follow his pace" and in fact, I would prefer taking it slow but I was not sure if I should ask him to go slow. Question: does a guy get the pleasure out of this? We did so for a long time, then he took me to bed, this time, he on the top, and again he come in and out very quickly ... gave me pain but I did not tell because I wanted to please him. Now, thinking back, I am not sure if he got pleasure from doing that?
He finally ejaculated .. after a few short rest. I just want to know if he had a good time, and was I considered "bad in bed"?[/QUOTE]
Sounds like he's the one that should be considered bad in bed...
Thank you for the comforting reply, Oedipussy. If he is the one who doesn't know much about sex, I am the one who know nothing about it. I have the impression that (young) guys have the ability to stay hard and can go real fast, he is young, so it is natural for him to keep it very fast. And I thought women are supposed to like the fast actions -- supposed to be excited by it. But how come in my case, I was not? We both felt very well during foreplay, but then when it come to sex it was not as good (!) for me -- I don't know about him.
Speak up woman! Take control a bit! Don't be the sex doormat for him. If he knows no better both of you read through the stickies and posts here. You get on top of him and he is to hold still, you plug away finding out what feels good--face it; he can get his cookies off you need to find out how for yourself with him as a partner.
You may know "nothing" about sex, but he has the wrong idea about it, which is worse. It sounds like you're still at the starting line as far as knowledge and experience goes, and he's already taken off but went in the wrong direction. It may be natural for him, but it isn't good for him, or you.
I'm not a woman so I can't say as far as liking really fast actions, but from my experience, no, not like that at least. It's more important to start slowly and build a rhythm that satisfies both partners, it can get faster as it progresses.
Hope I'm not bring this slightly away from the point, but I've started to rethink my moves on top. So far I've only everbeen up on my feet going up and down with a gently circular movement or I've been on my knees but still trying up and down... I'm just wondering what this is about going back and forth? Doyou mean that you do this at the same time as you are going up and down? Or is it that when you have him fully inside you, that you keep it there and then do the back and forth or gyrating thing??
Circles? Okay - do whatever you want but up and forward, back and down - yes like that, hits the G-Spot (up and forward) and Posterior Fornix (back and down) alternatively. My legs are far too long to have my feet flat on either side of him.
Thank you! I've got it, and it's definitely better for me than plain up down: I think it's best with your hands on his chest, cause you can move way more than if you are closer to him. I do like my whole body leaning against him while I'm on top, but you can't move so much. I'm guessing that for this it's the guy that mostly does the thrusting yea?
Really appreciate your posts. Thanks so much :D
Oh yea, was also wondering if someone could explain what they mean exactly by 'grinding'.. like is what we are talking about known as grinding? And also, was wondering what other moves you can do on top that would be different just so to vary it?
*when I said circles I meant corkscrew motion..* sorry for bad explanation
Well, remeber this first of all: the act is about stimulating yourself as much as it is stimulating your partner. So with this said, you will enjoy it more on top at times because you can vontrol the rythm and pressure. It is a know fact that men aren't stimulated that greatly with woman on top, because they feel they can't control it. I beleive that if the roles would change between men and woman and woman always have all the control (like men have during sexual intercourse) that more woman will orgasm and more men would go without. So, I am of theopinion that if a guy let you be on top, he wants to look at you enjoy what he is offering you. The best thing, and the only thing for you to do is to enjoy it, because he will be getting off your display of pleasure and arrousal. As for "what" to do, grind yourself against his pelvis, using deep and sensual rotating movements. You could also consider touching your breasts, giving him a show he will never forget.
Just remember that you are in that possition to please yourself, if he likes what he sees, you don't have to worry about him.
I used to ride my ex, but he always came quickly. I get exhausted from riding my current boyfriend, who has INCREDIBLE stamina, after only a few minutes. I am in shape, and can run for miles. I know he enjoys me being on top, but I get so tired so quickly. I want to be able to please him if he's not up to doing all the work. Does anyone have any tips for increasing sexual stamina for a woman who wants to be on top?
You could always just switch it up..be on top til you get tired and give him a chance to show off. When you feel you have the energy again, go back on top.
ok this is kind of an odd question, but what exactly is meant by "grind yourself against his penis"... i think my mind has been warped by the porn insdustry where u usually just see a girl riding up and down... so i guess in my head its odd to picture a girl sorta grinding... do a lot of people do that? it seems like it could be interesting... ive been with my bf about 1,5 years and we 've never done that, although i do occasionnally go on top... but its got me thinking that it could be something that i would enjoy... cuz i never come during sex because there is no clitoral stimulation... and occasionally i have tried to rub my clit during sex but then usually my bf ends up coming before i get that chance to lol ......
> what exactly is meant by "grind yourself against his penis"... i think my mind has been warped by the porn insdustry where u usually just see a girl riding up and down... so i guess in my head its odd to picture a girl sorta grinding.
Hi,
This position favors the woman because it places her in control of:
* penis placement (against a hymen for initial intercourse)
* angle of penetration (somewhat)
* speed of penetration
* depth of penetration
* speed and length of stroking
* speed of thrusting
* and, is one of the few positions that makes it possible to achieve an orgasm during intercourse without help from a finger
In point of fact the woman does not "grind" against the man's penis, rather, his pubic mound. "Grinding" is accomplished by sitting on him in order for your pieces-parts (inner lips and clitoris, and surrounding area) to rest against his pubic mound.
In order to trigger an orgasm we all require continuous friction in one form or another and this is a great position that gives nearly constant and ongoing friction, rather than the touch and go sporadic contact of other positions. The latter being the reason one or the other of you needs to use a finger when thrusting away.
> do a lot of people do that? it seems like it could be interesting.
Absolutely, positively, indubitably, yes!
"Grinding" can be any of the following
* rocking back and forth
* rocking side to side
* undulating in a more or less circular motion against him
* possibly including some gentle and slight bouncing to the other actions
* whatever feels good to you in the moment and heat of passion as this position makes it all about you and your satisfaction first and foremost
The Woman Superior position favors the woman's pleasore more than the man's because the bouncing can be a distraction and the angle of penetration does not give us the best contact against the vaginal wall for the friction we require.
The Woman Superior position is ideal for use for first time intercourse and when trying to penetrate the hymen.
The actual posture can be any of the following:
* squatting facing him
* kneeling
* Kneeling and leaning forward on your arms while somewhat above him
* as above but touching his chest
> its got me thinking that it could be something that i would enjoy.
Ya just might! Be sorta "selfish" and give it a try. If your boyfriend needs some help, later, you can always roll over into the Missionary position or get him off in another position or way.
> i never come during sex because there is no clitoral stimulation... and occasionally i have tried to rub my clit during sex
OH DEAR! Not enjoying a climax from intercourse; it's just not right.
Who says that intercourse is just about a man getting his rocks off? Why not a woman's pleasure and ability to bond one-on-one psychicly with her man?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with fingering yourself while he is bouncing away in utter bliss; however, let's face facts: a kind, compassionate, knowledgeable, skilled, creative, lover will also see to his lover's needs. For your boyfriend (and anybody elses) to adopt this philosophy and role, he should reach around with his finger and provide the fingering you require. After all, making love is a partnership (always joint although not necessarily equal every time, depending upon the focus of the event). All y'all reading this might just want to give your guy a heads up by letting him read this.
As an alternative, he should see to your climax before and/or after intercourse if this is your wish.
> usually my bf ends up coming before i get that chance to lol
This is just not good manners. It's not a matter of who climaxes first, rather, that you both are given the opportunity. (I really dislike "lol" at the end of a statement. This is one situation where proper education, consideration, and attention to the needs of a partner would eliminate the frustration and exasperation of "oh well...." To me, "lol" is the same as the saying "if it wasn't for the bad luck I'd have no luck at all." I'll say it again: making love should be a partnership and joint effort.
ok ok i guess i didnt give my bf a fair chance in what i wrote in my previous post.. i do come with him, but usually by touching myself while he will either usually kiss me or play with my nipples... so its not like he's super inconsiderate, i just have a hard time to come when im not in control (well with him so far anyway)... so because when i masturbate i can make myself come like 95% of the time that is how we do it... he has made me come probably 2-3 times only from oral... its something we're in the process of trying to work on... hence why im curious about the grinding... but again the only position i usually am able to come in is lying on my back so it will be different for me to be sitting up trying to focus on orgasm...
the worse part is that i did date 1 guy for about 4 months who could make me come alot easier than any other guy ive dated (ok not that i dated "that" many people, but a few over the years)... anyway... so i try to tell my bf to do things that i think would make me come (without saying oh by the way thats what so and so used to do and it worked well :P)... but so far no great progress has been made so i usually just masturbate then we either have sex or oral sex or other stuff... but its definitely a work in progress i dont give up that easy... but there are other issues such as my bf is really shy so i kind of pick up on that and find it hard to truly completely let go while in bed... there is a loving connection going on, but i can probably count on 1 hand the number of times i found myself clinging on and screaming for more at the end (meanwhile he doesnt virtually make a single sound)
So to sum up, thanks for the descriptive and useful advice, and its something im workin' on :)
My guy doesn't make a lot of sound either...which is sad because I love to hear him. :)
My hubby is a "silent ejaculator" too!!! I am like you as well--I want to hear him! When he does let a groan or moan slip, it makes me so hot its hard to control my orgasm. I can't figure out why he doesn't make these noises more often. They are so hot.
Being on top can be the most frustrating or the most satisfyling place for women. If we sit straight up, the rising and falling is very tiring, but does great stuff for cellulite! Lean forward a bit and you rock rather than rise up and down. It is much less tiring. How far you lean is up to the geometry of the two of you. Find what feels best.
I find it pleasant to move side to side. That allows me to rub my clitoris over his pubic bone and will sometimes allow me to reach orgasm - I do not usually from thrusting. If wgile you are moving side to side he begins to soften a bit, give it a few pumps up and down and he will firm up again.
The angle of the penis can be an issue especially if he is very rigid. If he angles up, the rocking will follow the natural curve; if he angles down, the pressure will be against the back of your vagina and you need be careful that he does not pop out. A slightly flexible penis, my preference, allows you to move easily and should not put undue pressure on either him or you.
Excellent reply, DancingDoc2! Thanks! :)
I find that grinding on his pelvic bone in a "figure eight" motion feels good for me. Any time I am on top he seems to enjoy the view and the sensations, but he rarely cums unless we are in reverse-cowgirl (me on top, facing towards his feet). I think its a good way to slow down guys who tend to cum quickly.
P.S. My current boy is vocal enough for me, but a previous fling was always completely silent during sex. It wasn't too bad because we almost ALWAYS had sex in the shower which made it's own noise, but still, it's unnerving to have a guy cumming in my mouth without making any noise to indicate that it feels good.
hmmm even when i am on top my guy still does all the work LOL
mainly because i cannot go nearly as fast as i want when i control thrusting...i usually lean all the way forward (also putting most of my weight on him :p ) while biting and moaning in his ear while he does most of the thrusting :D
also i like this position because he can wrap his arms tightly around my waist
Ok a few things to comment on all of the replies to this thread. Me on top of my man is absolutely my FAVORITE position. It is the ONLY one that makes me cum EVERY time! As far as "what to do"...there really isn't a right way or a wrong way. Once he is inside of you and you start moving, you will figure out what feels good and that's what you will do. Laying close to or on his chest will allow you to go longer without getting tired as opposed to sitting up straight. However, I find that when I lay close to him, the angle is perfect and I can cum in less than a minute so usually I start by sitting up straight for a while so I can last longer and he can enjoy it longer. Secondly, as far as increasing stamina, sitting up straight does take more energy out of you because you have to move up and down with your legs instead of grinding with your pelvis. But, try this...position yourself over him in the same way you would if you were doing doggystyle and have him do the thrusting. That way, he can have some control too and you won't get as tired. Then, when you are ready, let him relax and you do some of the work. This works well too if he starts to get soft on you while you are doing your thing, as he sometimes might because "woman on top" is more for your benefit than his. Also, just a side note...my man doesn't make much noise either...which I find strange because he is turned on a lot by dirty talk during sex, so why can he talk dirty to me but he can't let out a little moan here and there. I am NOT quiet during sex and he LOVES IT...so men...START MAKING A LITTLE NOISE...your girl will love it!
Im starting to find being ontop annoying, since I can't make it work. :( My guy likes it when Im ontop, but everytime I get ontop of him I feel like theres pressure inside, like air being trapped or something. All I know its uncomfortable for me, but I do still want to try and make it right since I've only done this position 3 times. Any tips?
the other night i went on top for the first time with someone and i was leaning forward alot and had my hands rested on his chest near his shoulders. i think i had most of my weight on him. at one point i was going pretty hard and fast and he pulled my arms up so they were resting on the bed above his shoulders and said "settle down"
now im wondering if that was because i was hurting him or causing him unable to breathe or something, or if it was just too much and he was going to cum?! i dont know if it was good or bad! any thoughts?
Okay, so I am not the only person who doesn't understand much about "girl on top" ... I did not ask earlier because this could be a silly question ... when he sit on the couch and put me on top of him, I expected that I was the one doing the job, but he actually did everything and he did it real fast. I had to "follow his pace" and in fact, I would prefer taking it slow but I was not sure if I should ask him to go slow. Question: does a guy get the pleasure out of this? We did so for a long time, then he took me to bed, this time, he on the top, and again he come in and out very quickly ... gave me pain but I did not tell because I wanted to please him. Now, thinking back, I am not sure if he got pleasure from doing that?
He finally ejaculated .. after a few short rest. I just want to know if he had a good time, and was I considered "bad in bed"?
[QUOTE=4love;189511]Okay, so I am not the only person who doesn't understand much about "girl on top" ... I did not ask earlier because this could be a silly question ... when he sit on the couch and put me on top of him, I expected that I was the one doing the job, but he actually did everything and he did it real fast. I had to "follow his pace" and in fact, I would prefer taking it slow but I was not sure if I should ask him to go slow. Question: does a guy get the pleasure out of this? We did so for a long time, then he took me to bed, this time, he on the top, and again he come in and out very quickly ... gave me pain but I did not tell because I wanted to please him. Now, thinking back, I am not sure if he got pleasure from doing that?
He finally ejaculated .. after a few short rest. I just want to know if he had a good time, and was I considered "bad in bed"?[/QUOTE]
Sounds like he's the one that should be considered bad in bed...
Thank you for the comforting reply, Oedipussy. If he is the one who doesn't know much about sex, I am the one who know nothing about it. I have the impression that (young) guys have the ability to stay hard and can go real fast, he is young, so it is natural for him to keep it very fast. And I thought women are supposed to like the fast actions -- supposed to be excited by it. But how come in my case, I was not? We both felt very well during foreplay, but then when it come to sex it was not as good (!) for me -- I don't know about him.
Speak up woman! Take control a bit! Don't be the sex doormat for him. If he knows no better both of you read through the stickies and posts here. You get on top of him and he is to hold still, you plug away finding out what feels good--face it; he can get his cookies off you need to find out how for yourself with him as a partner.
You may know "nothing" about sex, but he has the wrong idea about it, which is worse. It sounds like you're still at the starting line as far as knowledge and experience goes, and he's already taken off but went in the wrong direction. It may be natural for him, but it isn't good for him, or you.
I'm not a woman so I can't say as far as liking really fast actions, but from my experience, no, not like that at least. It's more important to start slowly and build a rhythm that satisfies both partners, it can get faster as it progresses.
This is why I do not like young males - they have poor sexual skills and bad sexual manners.
None of you are effectively communicating with your partners.
If it hurts - say so! If it is too fast - say so!
Stop being too accomodating!
TALK TO HIM.
Hope I'm not bring this slightly away from the point, but I've started to rethink my moves on top. So far I've only everbeen up on my feet going up and down with a gently circular movement or I've been on my knees but still trying up and down... I'm just wondering what this is about going back and forth? Doyou mean that you do this at the same time as you are going up and down? Or is it that when you have him fully inside you, that you keep it there and then do the back and forth or gyrating thing??
Circles? Okay - do whatever you want but up and forward, back and down - yes like that, hits the G-Spot (up and forward) and Posterior Fornix (back and down) alternatively. My legs are far too long to have my feet flat on either side of him.
Thank you! I've got it, and it's definitely better for me than plain up down: I think it's best with your hands on his chest, cause you can move way more than if you are closer to him. I do like my whole body leaning against him while I'm on top, but you can't move so much. I'm guessing that for this it's the guy that mostly does the thrusting yea?
Really appreciate your posts. Thanks so much :D
Oh yea, was also wondering if someone could explain what they mean exactly by 'grinding'.. like is what we are talking about known as grinding? And also, was wondering what other moves you can do on top that would be different just so to vary it?
*when I said circles I meant corkscrew motion..* sorry for bad explanation