> i juss jioned cause my bf and i have been going out for almost 2 months now and we r very happy.. but i jus have some ?'s

Welcome! You pose some very important questions.

My first question to you is whether you think two months is a time enough to get to know another person? This is particularly important when you consider that many couples date for years before becoming sexual.

> 1)For being 15 does it seen a little to soon for me 2 have sex?

Please read some very important information from our resident Doc., Brandye.
The title of her article is "Am I Ready For Sex". You will find this information at the top of the 'SEXUAL HEALTH: WOMAN" forum.

My response to your question is that 15 is probably too early to be enganing in intercourse. While your body may be able to reproduce, it has yet to fully develop and mature. This is a process that will go on for several more years in order to fully form your bones and skeletal structure. Another reason is that you have much more emotional and social development to experience.

> Last nite was my first time giving head.. and we kinda talked about having sex... like i kinda talked 2 him.. like i said "ok next time u come over u bring the beer

This is just silly and completely immature. Why would you want to dull your senses with booze for what should be a wonderful milestone experience in a your life? There is much more to intercourse than sex and an orgasm. The vagina is the gateway to your soul. The penis is the essence of man. When the two join, we become one with the other for a moment in time--a bonding or melding of the psyches. For this to happen is another reason to postpone sex for a few years.

> and he goes "protection" does tht reali mean the next time we see eachother @ my house we mite have sex??

CAUTION: Do not play with his emotions or expectations. He has to know that this may or may not happen based upon your state of mind, preparedness and overal readiness. If you tell him to bring the condoms then say not tonight, I can pretty much guarantee he will be a bit crazed.

Also, consider that a young teen boy will say and do almost anything to get into his girl's panties and once he's done this, might very well turn both a deaf ear and a cheek to her the next day. In other words, he gets his rocks off at your expense and could care less about you the next day. I'm not saying this is the case in your situation, however, the liklihood is that you will have several more boyfriends in the next few years and you will want to be aware of how some guys think and behave.

Also, as Brandye states in her message, you should always consider yourself to be fertile. It is extremely easy for a teenage girl to become pregnant, so my advise is to take care of number one, first and foremost. If you plan to become sexually active, then you must also plan to use some form of highly reliable contraceptive beforehand. A condom is simply not sufficient; although it will help to protect his interest in all this. Bottom line: If you are unable or unprepared to be an unwed mother and to have the future course of your life forever changed, then use a contraceptive. The same goes for your partner. If he is unable or unprepared to support a child and does not want the future course of his life to change, then he must also use a condom. You both have an equal responsibility in this. Until you have seen a doctor and have a prescription for a suitable contraceptive for you, do not have intercourse. Limit your activities to oral and handjobs, period.

> 3)wht will condoms do if we do have sex?

Asked and answered. They will partially protect him and you from becoming pregnant. No form of contraception is 100% effective. Learn when you are most fertile and avoid having intercourse a few days before and after. This means you will have to begin charting your cycle, and to know more about what makes you tick. If your cycle has not yet become regular, then all the more reason to take dual precautions and even not have intercourse.

> crazy sophmore

I am reminded that the definition of a "sophomore" is a "wise fool". Be wise, not a fool.

first you posted in the wrong section

okay to your questions. if you think you are ready for sex and you really care about him then yes.
second i really dont think you want to be drunk for the first time with someone, and protection meaning there is a good posibility that you will be having sex.
and condoms will protect you from many std's and prevent pregnancy when used correctly
But it may be a little early for you, and if you arnt 100% sure that you love him then you might want to consider waiting. I am curious has he has sex with anybody before?

I don't know what the laws are like in your part of the world, but here in Australia 15 is below the age of consent.

"The vagina is the gateway to your soul." Please! Stop! The vagina is the gateway to your uterus and nothing more.

Quite likely she still has more growing and maturing to do but part of that process should include mild sexual adventures with males of her own age and status - protected by using both bc pills and condoms.

It is not necessary that she 'love' him and dream of white picket fences with two kids and all is hearts and flowers! Jeez! Too saccharine for words. She should like who he is as a person, and vice versa, and find him physically desireable but beyond that - no - give her a break.

Seriously, it is those 'hearts and flowers' ideas which get women into so many bad and/or abusive relationships 'because I love him'.

Newgirl - if you want to have sex with him, then prepare for it beforehand, take the necessary precautions, and STOP with the beer! If you are going to have adult fun - you had better be adult about it.

as usual you are a misfiring engine we are talking about a teen not a woman with years of experience. for many teens sex is much more emotional than you portray so slow down you

as I read her post she is not even sure of what a condom is for and 15 is young in a womans development she shoulkd wait and learn some more first

"for many teens sex is much more emotional than you portray" which is precisely why I said it. Teens tend to be far too emotional especially when it comes to sex - so one shouldn't say things like "The vagina is the gateway to your soul." as that just feeds into their overly emotional behaviour. Sure she has some growing up to do. I said as much.
As for her education, there are plenty of books and online sources available on this subject.

I have to agree with EEK on this one.

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As for her education, there are plenty of books and online sources available on this subject.[/QUOTE]

Then why not suggest them I say a teen asking what a condom is has some more growing up to do and best not as a teen parent. also bear in mind newgirl thatir is YOUR decision not his so don't say "oh does that mean we will have sex ?" it is up to you and he must stand by what you say because it is your body !

Funny how the meanings of things get twisted and lost thru time....from what I read, there are a few kinds of sex...the "lets just f**k sex" no strings attached, just like the entire animal kingdom does and it doesn't matter how many partners...the more the merry...screw the emotional attachment..too cumbersome..too much work...not enough time to outright f**k all day and all night...then there is the "I absolutely love you sex" where two people have totally connected, are totally attached,absolutely 100% know they are in love and would never consider f**king anyone else,because as they make love and look into each others eyes,there is...for sure..100% a special feeling and bond that takes place when you penetrate....if you have never felt that...my condolences to you...don't get that mixed up with planting a hard c**k into a WET place...totally different...and then there is the typical married couple where they have lost the connection, they have detached,they just don't know it..( about 85% of married couples are like this), they talk behind their spouse about the failings,they have different expectations with regards to sex, always quibbling and sadly using their children to bridge the emotional gap they have created with their partner..this type of sex is "it's like work sex"...oh yah..the guy is always eager to have a wet place to plant it...the woman seems to take it as a chore..and from what I've read around here...that goes the other way also!! ;) ...so really,there are different kinds of sex...I guess it depends where YOU want to be...because really, you have to ask yourself..who is in charge of you?? If you can't make yourself 100% happy, you have NO CHANCE of making anyone else happy in the long run...

You can have some affection for him as a person as well as desire but it is not necessary to love him to have fun sex with him.

Back to the original questions posted...I have to remember when I was 14 and had a boyfriend and we were both clueless. There were no sites to discuss topics on and I was not going to ask the "school nurse" (nor my parents or friends)...this was many years ago. The only concern which I had to face was the possibility of pregancy, now there is risks such as HIV.

1-So although your hormones are raging, it's tough to control them but TRY, 15 is not young these days BUT by the questions you are asking, you are not ready, I believe you know this, and are asking for affirmation. If you cannot wait, know how to use birth control (pills AND)-- condoms! Get comfortable with them (condoms) and know how to put them on him. Do yourself a big favor wait for a bit and visit your local Planned Parenthood and discuss proper use of birth control and STD prevention.

2-Dancing around the topic; put differently, not openly discussing sex with your boyfriend is a mistake. You must clearly know what you WANT to do and WHEN you are ready. Don't be suprised if he shows up with condoms and he expects to use them, CLEARLY define your boundries with him (preferably before you see him in person).

3-Condoms are to prevent sexually transmitted diseases such as Ghonorrhea, HIV, HPV, Chlamydia, pregnancy, etc. If you are not certain what the uses of condoms are for then you should be waiting until you know how to safely protect yourself. I spent 15 years working in an emergency room as a nurse and I cannot tell you how many young women (yes many younger then yourself) have wound up with any various forms of these diseases or preganant thinking it "would not happen to me". IT DOES and IT WILL--I PROMISE. If you are going to be sexually active or think you may be (you are already there) YOU need to now how to protect YOURSELF. If you do not know, please talk to someone to be sure of what you are doing.

And yes cyclefreak...at the age of 15 you cannot consent to sex, he can be prosecuted for statutory rape and registered as a sex offender...

[QUOTE=newgirl2009;160958]hi i juss jioned cause my bf and i have been going out for almost 2 months now and we r very happy.. but i jus have some ?'s about sex and all thanks!! *and no i havnt had sex eyt im juss needing some answers*

1)For being 15 does it seen a little to soon for me 2 have sex?:confused:
2)Last nite was my first time giving head.. and we kinda talked about having sex... like i kinda talked 2 him.. like i said "ok next time u come over u bring the beer and &" and he goes "protection" does tht reali mean the next time we see eachother @ my house we mite have sex??
3)wht will condoms do if we do have sex??

no it means he wants u to bring protection for the beer lol

yes. it means he wants to have sex with u the next time u guys meet.

2 months

too fast

but

its ur choice

and u do what u think is right for u

and i think its too fast

but in the end

ur the one making the decision

not me.

condoms

will help prevent u from getting pregnant

HELP

not for SURE

but they will help

and if ur not gonna have abstenence

u might as well practice safe sex.

wht will condoms do if we do have sex??

asking that question proves you have much to learn and are a perfect candidate for an unwanted pregnancy I take it you know you get pregnant from having sex ? the way you pose your questions makes me think you are not ready and informed enough you must use some protection and alcohol is not a good idea you want to make damn sure that guy DOES put the condom on.

ive been going out with my boyfriend for a while now and we just started having sex....we have tried it a couple ways but like yeah it feels good but its not all its cracked up to be...like i never orgasm when we are having sex...is there something i should do her he should do...like what is going on? lol becuase everyone told me sex is so good and i mean its alright but it never feels as good as people say...i need some feedback...thanks lol

You did not hop on a bicycle and ride away without practice. Sex is much more complicated. Read the sticky's in Sexula Health: Women and then get more specific with your wuestions.