Only you know your boyfriend's temperment. Why not get a catalog or look at an online store catalog and see what is out there. Do some "window shopping" together and open a dialog between you.

There are all manner of toys from Ben Wa balls to beeds on a rope to butt plugs to penis substitutes to vibrators and the list goes on and on.

I will say this about vibrators. Be ware. Most of the battery operated ones do more humming than vibrating. There are a couple of good ones out there but for the most part I am inclined to favor the plug in varieties. Wahl makes a model with interchangeable heads and this is nice. The type shaped like a wand with a softball like head is also good because it can work for general massage as well. You can soften the intensity by cupping the ball with your and and using an extended finger as the probe.

If you do not communicate, you have a onesided relationship.

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I just cant afford one.I go into the sex shops all the time to brouse. i like giving the cleintel a thrill lol. I can use one at night, days, afternoons but settle for the old fashond hand.

Speaking as a guy, I'm toying with the idea of secretly buying one for my fiancee and using it on her as a surprise - she's never used one before, in fact she doesn't even masturbate. I'm not going for a dildo type one though, just one of those finger ring things that stimulate the skin/ clit etc. I used my electric razor on her once ( I kept the plastic lid over the blades, and wrapped it in a thin bit of silk) so there's a cheap alternative for ya. The time I'll use it will be when she's blindfolded.

If money is a problem, I suggest using one of the following household items as a joy-toy:
* candle stick
* English cuccumber
* carrot stick

A natural substitute for a mechanical vibrator is the man's lips!

When his mouth is on your clitoris, inner lips or along the upper vulva where the shaft is, he should pucker his lips and let them vibrate from the escaping air. You know, the sound we let out when frustrated, or that boys make when imitating a motorcycle, lawnmower, or outboard motor. The intensity can be varied depending upon how forcefully the air is is let out and how tight he holds his lips. In addition, if he uses his voice to hum, there will be an enhancement to what is felt just from hearing the drone of the humming.

Either of you can practice and perfect this technique by just placing your lips against your wrist or arm and letting your lips and air vibrate the skin.

Give any or all of these things a try. Have fun!

**** a carrot stick...never used any food or other household items.

Another interesting one (food wise) is a peeled banana dipped in melted choclate and then frozen for a few hours. The shape, the size and the tempreture will all aid in bringing pleasure(plus its great tasting to!) I know this is not a vibrator but is an introduction to "sex toys" with out the discomfort of buying one to find out if you like it!