Hiya.
Ive never had a girlfriend before. How can I engage myself in the world of sex? I am 15 years old and I know this is a little young (its if your ready or not, right?) I have got plenty of condoms. Its just I have never been intimate with a girl and never really talked to one. What can I do?
Cheers. :)
i think you are going about it all the wrong way If its gonna happen let it happen. You just don't want to throw yourself into it. Also if you have never had a girlfriend I would wait on that one and it might take awhile. Trust is usually a time taker.
Girlfriends are for more than sex. Try talking to one before you attempt to get into her pants.
I like your sig Browser :D
his sig is a reminder of being cautios and not jumping into things, just get a girlfriend and start making out and be satisfied with that, then see later what it leads to but frankly 15 is too youg no mater what you think
[QUOTE=m1rkd1rk]I like your sig Browser :D[/QUOTE]
Thanks. I made it when I realized that I was putting an almost identical phrase into most of my posts.
Hey bro... yeah, I'm 15 too. Just lost it a few days ago.
Thats not the important part though.
I'd like to contest the fact that 15 is "too young".
Perhaps for the risks associated with it, namely and nearly only getting pregnant. But.... wear a condom, I hear its a 99.9% success rate there. And if you go by the "well thats still a .1% chance you'll be a father at the age of 16" way of looking at things, then dont have sex. But thats a damn small chance to to deny yourself a fine experience. Why is 15 too young really, then? Because you're told its too early... I started noticing changes when I was 10, and this was my body preparing for what we're all designed to do. Get jiggy. 15 is not too young. Its risky, but then again, so is life. Now you say "Well, why take unnecessary risks?". Well, guess what! All the really exciting things in life ARE risky. Parasailing, cliff diving, skateboarding, mountain climbing, whatever tickles your fancy.
This being said, bro, dont consider it launching yourself in the world of sex. The girl I did it with and I have been going out for 5 months now. And most consider that too fast. Take it slow. They arent a hole to plug. They're a BEAUTIFUL person. I'm very deeply in love with the one I'm with, and thats why we did it. Get to know one, they're EXACTLY like you. Then if you really love her and care about her, all the sucking and spreading falls suit.
WOMEN ARE NOT A MYSTERY. THEY ARE PEOPLE.
[QUOTE=Fragged]Parasailing, cliff diving, skateboarding, mountain climbing, whatever tickles your fancy.
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Welcome Fragged. Unfortunately your other examples of risky behavior lack a notable disclaimer- they are only risky to a single individual. You're not endangering the health of another person.
That said, 15 IS too young. As I and others have often noted, unless you're fully capable of handling a pregnancy, you're not ready. The truly mature 15 year old recognizes this fact.
I, too, was "truly in love" at age 15. We made the mature decision to not have intercourse until we were 18 and responsible for ourselves. And, in fact, our true love had dissolved long before that time.
Fragged,
You are way off on the efficacy of condoms. If 100 sexually active women are protected by condoms for one year, fifteen will become pregnant.
Your life changes when there is a period to sweat out each month. That is an emotional drain. In Chick Chat read "Am I Ready?"
Well if a 15 year old kid like me is ready to do it, then let him do it. If he can be responsible enough to buy contraception then he is mature enough for sex. :rolleyes:
m1rkd1rk, "doing it" is actually quite easy and not much of a feat. That doesn't mean he, or you, are mature enough to handle the ramifications. If you're mature enough to take on the responsibility, have you been mature enough to discuss your decision with your parents and your girlfriend's parents to ensure that they'll stand behind you in the case of pregnancy? Are you prepared to handle statutory rape charges if her parents find out and call the police? Have you even talked with your GF about what you'd do if she became pregnant? I look forward to a thread in the not to distant future- "Is she pregnant?"
The title of this is "Never had a girlfriend"
So I have never had a girlfriend, no.
True. So I hope I've provided you, and others here, with some thoughts to ponder.
[QUOTE=Browser]Girlfriends are for more than sex. Try talking to one before you attempt to get into her pants.[/QUOTE]
well, thats just what some people (especialy in the age of 15) dont know..
no worries, it will budge somehow.. sooner or later.. :)
15 pyisically is not too early but emotionally yes there are exceptions true but I think a 15 year old will have a big problem seeing the difference between infatuation and true love that can last all your lives and withstands all of lifes woes. also in todays social system at the age of 15 you are still at school and learning to face lifeso if a pregnancy occurs you have a big problem there. Are you willing to go out and get ANY job going just to support yourselves and potential child ?
Girls certainly are people and not mysterys (well to some they are) but that is the very reason why sex is a weight on them and the younger the heavier after all she is going to have that baby not you infact it is her choice what happens so if she wants to shut you out of her life then thats up to her.
just think a bit before finding easy reasons to go against wise advice.
Edit: did not show as having posted, so I removed one after posting a second time.
It all depends on the individual, New.
Look at the practical and legal aspect though, with the assumption that the person in question is emotionally ready for sex. [url=http://www.coolnurse.com/consent.htm]This site lists the ages of consent in the U.S. Make sure you follow those. Stat rape is never a good thing... for anyone involved.
The practical side: if you cannot legally hold a full-time job, you have no business having sex in my opinion. If you get a girl pregnant (and there's always a chance), you should be able to hold a full-time job to support your new family. Cut and dry.
[QUOTE=Browser]It all depends on the individual, New.
Look at the practical and legal aspect though, with the assumption that the person in question is emotionally ready for sex. [url=http://www.coolnurse.com/consent.htm]This site lists the ages of consent in the U.S. Make sure you follow those. Stat rape is never a good thing... for anyone involved.[/QUOTE]
I quite agree infdact I would recomend just making out this guy wants to find a girl and have sex all in one go, if you are curios I personally am 23 so well of age but would still think twice before having sex with a girl as it could tie us together for the rest of our lives and I am surrounded by marriages that are not the happiest because people got themselves into bother even when of age, here to have a child and be unmarried is very frowned upon.
[QUOTE=Browser]The practical side: if you cannot legally hold a full-time job, you have no business having sex in my opinion. If you get a girl pregnant (and there's always a chance), you should be able to hold a full-time job to support your new family. Cut and dry.[/QUOTE]
This is exactly what I meant
When our powers combine...
[QUOTE=Browser]When our powers combine...[/QUOTE]
...hopefully we bring light to those of short sight and thought
That works, but I was going for Captain Planet ;)
yea go get him need all the help we can muster
[QUOTE=m1rkd1rk]Well if a 15 year old kid like me is ready to do it, then let him do it. If he can be responsible enough to buy contraception then he is mature enough for sex. :rolleyes:[/QUOTE]
hm I like that responsable enough to buy contraception, ok I admit that I am not looking forward to going to the condom machine in the midle of the towns main square or our local chemist with all the gosippers watching on but in most places you need no more "responsabilty" to buy condoms than a box of chocolates just hand the money over and get a box of condoms in return