go down on her first

Okay wait first, you guys have had sex but no oral? Okay to be totally honest, I look at it as, you have to hit the stepping stones, make out, feel up, undressing, manual stimulation, oral, then sex.

Try just bringing it up, be like hey you know ive been thining and i thin that it would kinda make things a bit more fun if we tried to add some oral in the mix.

Dont force the issue, and dont just randomly ask in the heat of the moment, because she may do it because she doesnt wanna turn you off and it turns into a guilt sort of thing...not good....you have to bring it up in a calm non sexual environment....lets say your snuggling after sex, or just cuddled up watching a movie...thats a good time to do it.

I have been talking to this friend for awhile and we have been close but one day we took it to the next level by kissing for the first and it was more than I thought it would be so then he said he had never had a bjob so I did go down on him not because he ask but because I wanted too. It was good for me as well as for him so when he goes to get on top of me he cums within 2 mins. I was mad but he said it was because I had turn him on so good but this is the second time this happen this way. I give him pleasure and then he don't touch my body at all and then when he cums that quick its over. I think he's selfish and then I thought about maybe he's nervous because I'm a little older than him but he flirts and talks all this big talk but when we are undress he has a excuse not to put out. what could be the problem is he turn off from me or could it be nerves. I decided not to get together with him again at all and since we have gone this route he acts differ we can't look at each other and I feel he avoids me when we are out but he calls me and want to get together all the time but I said this time when he calls if he does I'm going to tell him about hisself and say goodbye, Help!:(

[QUOTE=2beloved;195519]I have been talking to this friend for awhile and we have been close but one day we took it to the next level by kissing for the first and it was more than I thought it would be so then he said he had never had a bjob so I did go down on him not because he ask but because I wanted too. It was good for me as well as for him so when he goes to get on top of me he cums within 2 mins. I was mad but he said it was because I had turn him on so good but this is the second time this happen this way. I give him pleasure and then he don't touch my body at all and then when he cums that quick its over. I think he's selfish and then I thought about maybe he's nervous because I'm a little older than him but he flirts and talks all this big talk but when we are undress he has a excuse not to put out. what could be the problem is he turn off from me or could it be nerves. I decided not to get together with him again at all and since we have gone this route he acts differ we can't look at each other and I feel he avoids me when we are out but he calls me and want to get together all the time but I said this time when he calls if he does I'm going to tell him about hisself and say goodbye, Help!:([/QUOTE]

WHAT?...you really should have put this in another thread....cuz well it is the OP's thread lol....its simple...he gets off and he loses interest....tell him to please you...most women cant come from sex so make him go down on you make you cum like twice and then you finish him however you want....oral, manual or intercourse.

Oh paradox to be honest...thats not it...that guy just does what 99% of guys do...the finish and they lose interest....be it the endorphins and the (i want to say triptophan but idk) men become tired after and its just like ok time to sleep...they dont care to do anything else...women on the other hand...the finish and are sattisfied (not all but some) and they are willing to still finish there partner since they are usually wide awake. luck them they get oxytocin.

[QUOTE=Ducy;195521]WHAT?...you really should have put this in another thread....cuz well it is the OP's thread lol....its simple...he gets off and he loses interest....tell him to please you...most women cant come from sex so make him go down on you make you cum like twice and then you finish him however you want....oral, manual or intercourse.[/QUOTE]

True.
Also, are you just giving him a BJ as part of foreplay and him NOT cumming but cumming when he enters you??
Or do you give him a BJ to orgasm... wait a bit and then have sex??

If its the first option then yea it's understandable he might not last very long.. but that he should finish you off in some way like manually or orally.

If its the 2nd option.. guys tend to last a little longer the 2 round than the first.. so not quite sure what's going on there?!?! :confused:

To the OP
It is kind of odd that you've managed to have sex multiple times but skipped oral all together.
I agree w/ Tommy
Just during foreplay just start kissing her all over and start making your way down there... if you don't already.... then is she says something or like like "whoah" be like... I just wanted to try it.. or something?!?!

Remember, some people are opposed to oral sex and don't like it. It doesn't have to be part of everyone's foreplay in the lead up to sex. When I first started with my gf, she hated the idea of giving oral, and it was my first time so I just stuck to finger, it was a few months before we started oral.

My girlfriend turns to jelly at times when I do it, But she actually doesnt like me to go down on her. I dont know why but thats how it is.

Umm katie this is actually a girl asking the question...I was using a guy as an example cuz I am a guy...i figured she would understand it.

you right thanks alot. I like him alot and its not easy to say goodbye and forget him so I just will take it a day at a time.

I don't give for orgasm he ask me too and then I get turn on and do it but I do expect when he climb on top that he wants to satisfy not cum within 2 seconds, he the type that knows he's cute and he is and alot of girls like him but I told him if they knew how " he can't keep it up" he is they would change their opinion. I think he is scared because he's young and not as experiences as he want everyone to think he is.

[QUOTE=Paradox_Mc;195436]ive never had a blow job but i would like to make as comfy for my gf as possible, i dont want to force it on her but i would like to try it what can i do[/QUOTE]

Just be sure to keep yourself clean down there, and try to time it so it doesn't take place after a long sweaty day. Post-shower would be ideal.

The two of you shouldn't both be horizontial, like you on the bed or in a chair/couch and she's kneeling on the floor. That way, assuming she has long hair, she doesn't have to worry about constantly flicking her hair to the back out of the way.

Also, be sure to sound a warning before climaxing.

How old are you guys? Is she young and/or inexperienced with sex? That could explain her discomfort. Man, I remember the first times I was having sex and they were awkward and uncomfortable. I had self-esteem issues, I thought my body was ugly, I didn't know what I was doing when I felt like I had to be a pro, I was pretty much terrified about everything. I wanted to impress my BF with my "skills" (ridiculous), which of course I didn't have because what did I know about sex at that age. I have found that many young girls have this same train of thought, it's part of being young. In my opinion, these are big signs that you shouldn't be having sex at all yet. But it's easy to say that now that I am older and look back on it - hindsight is 20/20, as they say.

The only thing you can do is be sensitive to her feelings. If she is uncomfortable - don't push her to do things that she doesn't want to do. If you focus instead of creating an atmosphere where she is very comfortable with herself, her own body and with knowing that you will not make fun of her, or expect anything from her, she may lose some of her inhibitions over time. On the other hand - she may never want to give you oral sex. Some women hate it. You may be with one of them and that is something you'd just have to live with. It can go either way. Communication is key, if you are having sex, you should be comfortable enough with each other to talk about sex. Keep talking to her and trying to find out how she feels about things, and why she feels that way.

[quote=Ducy;195801]Umm katie this is actually a girl asking the question...I was using a guy as an example cuz I am a guy...i figured she would understand it.[/quote]The OP is a male!

WTF?!?! Man thats it im going to the doctors cuz this is the second time I have mixed up threads....ugh....sorry about that paradox...

Oh and yeah usually...I mean your not all uptight about it, your relaxed enough to talk.