k, hope I didn't sound like I was harping on you. but good idea though, better to be safe than sorry.

Greendale

Group: Senior Member
Posts: 192
Joined: May 2004 Posted: July 03 2004,13:12

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Do you guys believe in "love at first sight"? Well it just happened to me. I just immediately fell secretly in love with a woman at where I work. She's a single mom with 2 kids. She may be a little older than me. But hey, age is just a number right? I'm 27 and she may be between the age of 30-35, but this woman is beautiful. Everytime I see her, I can't help myself but look at her, smile and talk to her a bit. Like say "hi" or get into a little casual conversation about something.

I thought she was very cool, and I love her personality too. Very down to earth and I love her sense of humor. She makes you feel like you've already known her for years.

A funny thing happened at work. I've told some other friends that I had a crush on her. So they gave me some advice on how to hook up with her. They told me to invite her to lunch with me. I keep trying to ask her out for a lunch but she is always busy with the position she is in. With her job position she has different lunch break times than me and a different schedule than I so we don't get to talk much as I'd like to.

So I left a note in her office while she wasn't there, saying we should be friends and all, call me or e-mail or whatever. Instead of calling, she e-mailed me saying that she isn't interested in dating anyone right now. I replied back saying, that's okay, I wasn't asking for a date, I was asking if you want to be close friends to get to know each other more. Now she agreed with that and agreed to be close friends.

I know this woman is single. She has never once told me if she was married or have a boyfriend, because if she was married or currently in a relationship, she would have told me right off the bat. To me it's sounding like she just got out of a bad relationship, like she just got out of a divorce or breakup. That what happens when singles just get out of a bad relationship, they stay single for a long while because it does take a long time get over an emotional breakup.

But the weird thing is, after I told some people that I had a crush on this woman at this building, I'm now having friends and other co-workers in the building, saying that I should spend more time with her around the building. They keep saying things like "Hey, why aren't you with this woman you like?", "Shouldn't you two be spending time together in and out of work?", etc. Things like that.

The thing is since me and her hardily have any time to talk, we'll just talk by e-mail and ICQ at work. Because at my job, they allow employees to chat by e-mail and ICQ. On Christmas week, I gave her a Christmas card with an Elvis refrigerator magnet, on Easter I gave her a chocolate bunny rabbit, and since I'm a musician I gave her a CD with my music on it. She's been liking me more and more because of those things. I can tell she likes me a lot by the look on her face and everytime she saw me she's always excited. I know she wants to date me, I think she is afraid to admit it.

I'm going to ask her for a lunch next week after 4th of July weekend. I'm not going to ask her out on a date yet. I want to get to know her more like what she is like outside of work and all that. I want to ask her out in front of her face, not by e-mail or ICQ chat.

The thing is, I try to move on and forget about her since she reportedly stated that she isn't interested in dating anyone now, but still don't hurt to be friends with her until she is ready to start dating again. I tried to look for other women that I may be interested in, but to be honest, I'm not really interested in anyone else but this one woman I'm talking about here. Her connection to me is really amazing and I may actually have a chance with her in the future. I'm actually trying to save myself for her.

She has a son and a daughter, and I wouldn't mind being a future stepdad. I like kids. I think she would be a perfect woman for me. I think she is the one I'm looking for.

I'm sure all of you experienced "love at first sight" at some point or another. You can't help yourself falling in love with someone even if you just met the person on the first day. Actually, I've known this woman at work for over a year now, and I've had a crush on her for a long time.

Any advice on how to get me hooked up with her will be appreciated. Thanks.

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Okay Greendale, first of all don't shoot me, and sorry about all the above stuff (I haven't figured out how to get the quote thing to work.

Just some advice from a woman's perspective (assuming you still have feelings for this woman at work) If you are still wanting a relationship with her and are trying to draw her out into the dating world again, do you think it would be a good idea to sleep with someone else? If you are showing an interest in this woman at work and then turn around and sleep with someone else, well, if it were me, that would pretty much kill any thoughts I would have of hooking up with you, but that's just me. Something else that just occured to me, is this woman at work the one that you are thinking you may potentially sleep with? Or are you thinking of someone else. Sorry if I drew the wrong conclusions and am way off base, just giving my opinion.

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don't be embarrassed or anything, u can't do nothing about it. don't be one of the ppl that buy a small & large pack then put the small condoms in the large box to make the girl think you're big .

i'll shut up now cuz i posted a lot today, lol.