I am eighteen years old and have been with my boyfriend now for a year and five months. We took things really slow at first, I was his first kiss, and thats all I had done when I met him. We didn't have sex until nine months into and only ever tried oral until after. But after having sex, I opened up alot more to sexual stuff. (I had never been that into it) Anyway, I can get really horny but have never had an oragasm, it drives him INSANE. I can't get one by myself either. I recently bought myself a vibrator, but still no luck! I masterbate, but after a minute or two my body really tightens and i stop. Then when i go to try again, its just not that exciting. My boyfriend fingers me and it feels good, and he tried to eat me out...but i still get so nervous about that that i cant fully relax. since im the only girl he has ever been down on...its just weird. hes told me he thinks it smells, whcih makes me MORE self concious. i wash, and sometimes use like a flwoer sented feminie spray, but i just get too nverous to enjoy it. But even sex!!!! sex feels okay, nto great and certainly not amazing. we have tried tons of positions and he feels bad all the time, like he is using me since i dont get anything out of it. Im thinking either, my clit is somehow unfunctional, or there is somethign i havent tried???? i am dying to know what the fuss is all about and i am off to college in a month and i would like to figure it out before i go. ANY IDEAS??? ill try anything, im desperate!!
Wed, 08/02/2006 - 22:11
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NEVER been able to achieve orgasm! :(
Ok babe its your turn to be in control. First of all no love making until HE BEGS YOU FOR IT. GOT IT? You two need to play with each other for at least an hour before he enters you. Strike the head of his cock, kiss him passionately, let him do what ever he wants to you, BUT NO SEX!(YET). Kisss him without your tounge, several times for at least 10 minutes, tell him how much you love him, and how lucky you are to be his girl, and how much you want him inside of you. Tell him everything he wants to hear WITHOUT ****ING! Dont let him go down on you until he begs for it. (You know youre gonna get it, but teasing is a powerful weapon!) Remember, no sex for at least an hour, lets get him begging and moaning and sobbing like a schoolgirl first). Keep teasing ang stroking his cock(Dont make him cum, and dont let him jack himself off, period). Lets keep that warm cum inside him untill later.Both of you are naked, lay on your side and demand that he holds you from behind, BUT DONT LET HIM ENTER YOU! He needs to suffer a while longer. The ultimate goal of us men is to slide inside our lovers, by you denying that privilage, he will become more hot and want you even more. Feel free to kiss, fondle, touch, and whatever you want for at least an hour. When the time is up he will want you so badly that it will hurt. Dont let him come, and wjen the time is right, tie him down, dont let him touch you, blindfold him, ans at your leasure sit on his dick after you feel he's suffered enough. Go up and down SLOWLY! and dont let him touch you as to give him the satisfaction of squeezing your tits, kissing you, and what not. This is YOUR TIME! You are in control. If he disobeys the rules Ive mentioned here, and he wont behave, get off him and tell him that he is lucky to be with someone like you, and if he doesnt do what you demand, then NO SEX FOR THE NIGHT! I promise this will work and I wxpect you to write back, GOOD LUCK!