I personally find it a turn on, the very first time I seen one was when I was giving my first blow job to my ex, I didn't think it was ugly then, very interesting and unique the first time you see something different. Now when I see one it can turn me on, I guess because I know something is about to happen lol. So I guess seeing a random guys penis wouldn't be a turn on for me but not nasty.

Just some options. Maybe you could shave or trim. I keep myself shaved and smooth otherwise I think I look ugly down there. I've never been with a guy with hair down there, which is only two. So maybe I'm just use to not seeing hair down there. But some women find a hairy man a turn on. To each there own.

First time I saw a guy's "buddy" (that's my nickname for it), I wasn't repulsed by it, but nor was I turned on. It was just there, a part of his anatomy. Then I just wanted to giggle. I found it kind of funny looking.
I gotta tell you, though, size does matter a lot to me, but maybe not the way most guys think. They seem to all think all girls want guys with huge buddies, and maybe some do, but most girls I know, including myself, don't want that at all! I want a guy with just a normal size buddy. Even a smaller one is okay. I'm not a small girl, but I'm not a big girl, either, and I know I can't "accommodate" a big buddy. It would hurt too much.
Now, I'm no expert on anything, but I think if she loves you and you can talk to each other, you'll both be okay.

what is the vulva, just some sensitive skin right? yet the sight of one and the thoughts that go through your mind your "buddy" lol stands to attention in seconds, and youre ready to get down. when you find a girl you really like and she really likes you back a good amount of your nerves will go away. so just keep reading the forum so you can have some knowledge before hand. i would second the trimming down there, our generation doesn't really like hair too much.

Dear _One,
Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you will enjoy participating, actively.

[QUOTE=Nervous_One;268464][COLOR="blue">Hi. I'm quite new to this site (though I've been lurking searching for ideas for some time). [/COLOR]

If you have not already done so, please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about. In addition, if you click on the site's Home Page you will find even more information.

Because knowledge is empowering, I recommend reading each of the articles in turn and adding the information to what you all ready know.

[COLOR="blue">I'm a virgin and don't have a girlfriend yet, but when I do, and assuming she starts to want sex, I'd like nothing more than to give her a good experience that'll make her want to stay with me. Hence why I spend so much time here.[/COLOR]

There is a distinct difference between striving to become a world class lover who is able to pleasure his partner to the 'nth degree, and, keeping and maintaining her interest in you as an individual. To become a great lover, requires that you study and learn about the physical, physiological, psychological, and emotional differences between the genders, then learning how to address each other's needs and desires. It is important to learn how best to make love by understanding the gender differences and how to gain a person's emotional interest, anticipation, physical excitement and arousal, first and foremost. Simply put: what you know about sexual arousal for yourself is not going to be the same for women.

You can begin this part of your enlightenment by reading the articles that discuss dating, kissing, and the how-to's of making out that are presented in the Index.

Being a good or great lover will not guarantee that a girl will want to remain with a guy or maintain any sort of relationship. It's not all about your penis and whether it is long, longer, short, or in between, or whether it points up down or sideways. Similarly, it is also not about your "stamina".

A couple can have sex for sex sake, yet for the most part, making love is about outwardly expressing the love each of you has for the other. This is an emotional matter, not one of physical prowess. If you want a girl/woman to stay with you, you have to be willing to round out and complete your character. This means seeing to her emotional needs, as well as looking after her daily needs and requirements and helping her with chores and obligations, etc. She needs to know that she can place her trust in what you say and do, and that you will look out for and protect her well being. She must know without doubt that she comes first and is not a trophy for some horny young buck to display before his friends.

[COLOR="blue">To that end, though, I'm scared sh**less. [/COLOR]

The English dictionary is quite large, particularly the unabridged version. Please do not use expletives that should be deleted. Our standards on the site are higher.

[COLOR="blue">To be quite honest, ever since I was in middle school I've believed my penis made me ugly because, well, IT is ugly. Not that there's anything wrong with it medically, it's about as normal as a circumcised penis can get. [/COLOR]

You are not alone. Guys and gals, both, usually have one or more parts of their body that they are unhappy with. Many are irrational concerns, some are legitimate and can be dealt with. When we fall for a person, we generally fall hook, line, and, sinker, including those places as yet unseen. Stop worrying yourself. You just said that it is about as normal as can be. Me thinks that what you are really worried about is your perceived lack of skill and ability. There is an article you must read that discusses experience levels. When you first sat upon a bicycle, did you ride it perfectly?

[COLOR="blue">I'm just deathly afraid of the moment when I have to take my clothes off for the first time in front of her. It's not a size issue for me, I simply do not care what size it is anymore than girls say they do. I'm just worried about what she's going to think when she sees it.[/COLOR]

When desire overcomes apprehension, you will be ready and all this will not matter. Girls in the know like to handle a man's penis for the power and control they can have over his arousal. Consider it a throttle and a brake all in the same "joystick"! As long as it is big enough to grasp and functions as designed, this is all that concerns most. So focus upon her and not yourself and you'll be fine.

[COLOR="blue">Which brings me to my question: do you girls out there like looking at it? I mean, does the sight of it turn you on? I wouldn't want to force anything like oral sex on her, nor would I want her to blow me if she didn't enjoy seeing my package.[/COLOR][/QUOTE]

Hmmm, I don't know what you've spent your time reading while lurking.... In my never to be so humble opinion, some do admire her man's endowment, some like what it can do for them, some are neutral. What if she has the same apprehension and concerns about you regarding her breasts or some other aspect of her anatomy? Have you ever wondered about what a couple sees in each other when you see a petite woman arm in arm with a short pot bellied man, or some other combination?

Please change your outlook and attitude. We never force anything on our partner, sex, oral, or, anything else in life. Foreplay {b/j &/or h/j) should be desired and welcomed, not forced.

It is not whether she likes your package, it is whether she wishes to pleasure you in this manner and to strengthen your bond.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?
-doc

Well i felt like before I had my girlfriend this is my first one and now I take my clothes of so fast and comfortable she does it to. I think I'm a little fat and chubby but she doesn't care she joust like me and love me. If you find some one that loves you and you love her you well feel good and not be a shame. Intimacy is for you two no one is going to see and you will feel good about each other

[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;268477]It is not whether she likes your package, it is whether she wishes to pleasure you in this manner and to strengthen your bond.[/QUOTE]
The above quote is important to remember! You're not in a beauty-contest ;)

As for my first experience with his; I found it fascinating. Especially the way it grows to erection. At first I was a bit nervous about it. He helped me on how to handle it. Soon I went for closer inspection. I have at times lay on my stomach just watching it. Got him a little giggly, but he let me. As I explored it more, I was much surprised of how soft the skin is and how there's actually not much of a particular smell about it, it just smells like "him" :)

> I'm just deathly afraid of the moment when I have to take my clothes off for the first time in front of her.

Please read the articles that discuss making out. You will learn that you do not have to drop your drawers or strip naked all at once. If the two of you fool around and make out following the guidelines you will learn, having sex is not all about orgasms, it is more about turning each other on from the beginning. Learn about Necking, Petting, and, Heavy Petting, that all come before Foreplay. Learn how to emotionally prepare her before doing so physically.

You do not have to begin opening your shirt (or hers) until you are well into the Heavy Petting Stage (#3) and by this time you will have become quite aroused and turned on and your inhibitions will be starting to wane. By the time you are ready to move on to Foreplay, you will probably be exploring each other thru each other's clothing. Soon after, and with her OK, you can expose your penis thru your fly, and still have quite a bit of cover and modesty remaining. Staying at this stage like each one preceding this, for as long a time as necessary (read: days or weeks or even months in some cases). You will be appreciated more as a guy who takes his time and does not try to have an orgasm as quickly and/or as soon as possible. Take it very slowly and build trust and confidence over the next several weeks after deciding to go past the first kiss and holding of each other's hand.

This is why I have asked you to read every article listed in the Index and add the information to what you already know. You are to be commended for asking questions and showing an interest. Kudos, yet please understand that you do not yet know what you do not know.

> ever since I was in middle school I've believed my penis made me ugly because, well, IT is ugly.

This is nonsense. What persons or classmates have seen it, other than a handful of guys in your P.E. class? None? Then how can you make such a conclusion? If you have a pleasant personality, a nice smile, a twinkle in your eyes, can converse well, and dress nicely (not with the crotch of your pants down around your thighs, or making people think you have a bad hair day, then these are the first impressions you will be presenting to others who will then decide whether you are ugly or a cool dude and worthy of their time in getting to know you better. That said, now go back and read what I said, earlier, about falling hook, line, and, sinker and about those body parts as yet unseen.

The male penis comes in a variety of shapes and sizes for the Glans and shaft, and two configurations, circumcised and natural to include variations in the Foreskin. What is so very different about yours than say those you have looked at while showering at gym class? Truth be told, and from all the comments by boys concerned about their size, your concerns are unfounded. Just know that like faces and stature, each of us while generally the same can be somewhat different. If it functions as designed, be pleased as you can be. Learn to use it as best you can --and to do so is this site's charter.

Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other in partnership.
RELAX.

> If I may, might I continue to use this thread if I have further questions?

But of course, as long as your questions are a continuation of the theme. If you have another topic, please start a new thread in the most appropriate forum.

Four letter words are not prohibited, just that we are self policing and have set the bar higher.

> I'd like nothing more than to give her a good experience that'll make her want to stay with me. Hence why I spend so much time here.

Oh, I knew what you meant, yet because many other people read the messages I want to cover all bases, and for the o/p as well just in case s/he is not considering the more important aspects of a conversation. No harm, no foul.

> I'd also like to apologize if I seemed selfish with regards to my initial post

No problem; asked and answered.
You're among friends, so keep on keeping on, as the saying goes.

I find penises very attractive but part of that is based upon what I think of him as a person. If he's (insert disparaging decriptive term here) then his penis is less attractive. If he's wonderful, then his penis is yummy!

hey there... i want to randomly ask, what may u came up with that screen-name "nervous-one"? if u ask me, how i came up with mine? lol easy... because, i always keep myself busy "in a good way or a naughty way". just to be clear.

Wonderful & wish you da best in your future! In everyone there is always a feeling of being nervous, but then again being prepare for da future is great. Just we both know u can only be a virgin once & it's better to loose it in a sweet, gentle, romantic & so on ways. Beside getting done with college is way better. Because I see that your a Junior & me I'm just living da free life. Beside sorry for da late reply. Been busy lately & that's why I got my name. Because I'm always keeping myself busy & you have a wonderful day.

[QUOTE=Nervous_One;269715]I came up with that screen name because, well, I'm nervous. I'm a total virgin in every sense of the word and I haven't even had a girlfriend yet (not that I haven't tried). I'm trying to prepare for the future. It seemed pretty accurate to me. :)[/QUOTE]

if you have had your first kiss, you are way farther than me