When I was with my girl friend for the first time I was brand new to it and she had only done it once. We were very open and upfront about how nervous we were.

Yeah I had heard that advice about a woman knowing what other women will like because we have the same parts. Not!! The first time I went down on her I had no clue what to do. I know men and how they work and how to please them. I know how to respond to being done. But doing a woman is a whole new ball game.

I tried to be gentle, and I did a lot of reading on the subject. But we both knew we were new and it was cool. I would look up at her and say "just tell me if I am about to do damage or need to go harder." Communication is the key word and to relax and have fun. Our first night we laughed so much and so often and that is our fondest memory. Technique will come with more practice just like everything in life does.

Well, you know she is interested and you will not be rejected. The tough part is over and she took the risk. No one expects a partner to be perfect especially knowing she has never been with one of us before. Women seem much more accepting and comfortable with themselves and each other.

I love men. I came very close to marriage and was a bit loose in my younger days. My first experience with another woman was an accident for both of us. After she was married and divorced and I went through two long term heterosexual relationships, we are back together.

Women have an innate understanding of their female partners. We seem to read each other better and respond more naturally to what the partner needs. And are more forgiving, I believe, of each others mistakes.

Tell your friend you are, in fact, interested. Follow her lead and, if in doubt, do for her what you would like her to do for you. Incidentally, that is about the way I go making love with either sex. Then relax. You are likely in for some happy surprises. And, if you do not like it, do not repeat it.

As you become more aware, you will probably be surprised at the number of us who are actively bi-.

Enjoy.

Well, I, like oberon, don't really know specifics. I'm a straight female and I don't really know where to begin with same sex stuff.

However, I will state that this is generally be like your first time with a guy (if you were ever with one). You didn't really know what to do and it was probably awkward.
You do however have one advantage. You are female and you know what you like. Now, not every female likes the same things, but as a female you pretty much know your power spots and all women have them.

So, I guess what i'm trying to say is just develop off of that.

I think I can help in general... I'll leave any specifics to Brandye...lol.

First of all, calm down. You don't have to be worried about being perfect. No one is. First rule: Sex is suppose to be fun! So relax. Pleasing anyone just involves being sensitive to their needs and paying attention. As a woman, you probably already have a good idea of what feels nice to you, so just start there. You would have to learn the other person's "triggers" no matter what sex they are. Let her guide you as to what she likes. You should do the same for her. If something feels good... let her know.

Mainly, just enjoy the situation.

First, welcome to the board, and thanks for posting!

You're new so u probably don't know that i'm a gay man in an 8 year relationship..but that i was married to a woman for 12 years and have a 14 year old son....so i konw a bit about the str8-bi-gay thing!

It sounds to me like you're more nervous about your sexual performance then you are about your sexual identity...which i think is a good thing right now.

As far as being new and not knowing what to do, if i were you, i would TALK to your friend about it.....casually....not too directly.

You dind't say if your friend was a lesbian or not. If she is NOT, then you probably are both in the same boat..so you don't have to worry to much about it!

There are MANY books and videos now available for you to read..the joy of lesbian sex, etc. I would definatly get some of those if you really are nervous....but the bottom line is no matter how much u read or watch..u still have to actually DO IT!

Just go with the flow, follow your instinct and embrace the "newness" of what you are doing. Be honest and open with her during sex ....it's best to start that way then to just keep it inside for fear of hurting her feelings.....if it feels good..tell her..if it hurts, tell her....just be open..communication makes sex SOO Much more intense!

Good luck...andlet us konw how it goes!