So, I was told by a female friend that she senses a "sexual tension" between me (male) and another female. I need more clarification from her but I am really curios from a woman's perspective what does "sexual tension" look/feel like for you. I think I missed the signals but would like to understand what they might look like. There is more to this but lets start here.
Thanks
Usually a woman will show certain signs when interested which MAY include:
mirroring your posture
playing with her hair
stroking (up and down, you know) the stem of her wine glass
looking at you when you're not looking and glancing away when you look her way
holding your gaze for at least 20 seconds
taking opportunities to touch you
Then there is the more subtle sign of subconciously increasing the output of her pheronomes which the 'clued-in' will vaguely smell - gives them an inkling that 'this one's into me'.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;256331]Usually a woman will show certain signs when interested which MAY include:
stroking (up and down, you know) the stem of her wine glass
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I once made the mistake of doing that trying to guess the makeup of the cup by the cooling rate along it's length, followed by a group of gay guys coming over to say hi, heh.
"I know it when I see it!" Most women would recognize subtle, coquettish behaviour in our sisters. Evil lists some of the more obvious indicators but, at its most subtle, it is a female sense - time to move in or move on or scratch her eyes out - as appropriate.
Gad, fun, how romantic to be sitting with you in a dim, upholstered bar and you doing heat transfer experiments! I'll take the gay crowd you attracted.
Haha, it was not at a bar on a date but at a restaurant with colleagues across the street immediately after a guest lecture on heat transfer through manufacturing flaws and impurities! While I do enjoy work and am constantly thinking about it, a pretty smile in the room certainly clears those thoughts quickly and offers something else to focus on!
Regarding the OP,
That tension can sometimes been seen where two people obviously having a good time together frequently have pauses gazing at each other followed by them snapping out of it and returning to something else while a pair that was spending time together would have proceeded more smoothly. Some people also tend to glow towards another - it's difficult to describe but is distinguishable apart from normal beaming and enjoyment.
In a restaurant with friends one evening another woman and I watched two men trying to out-do each other for the attention of a young woman who was sitting betwen them. It was amusing because we two older and more experienced women could tell, just from her body language, that she wasn't going home with either of them. Here are the signs:
all three were facing outward from the bar, the guys were taking turns talking to her and while she would reply to each of them, she never looked at them, her arms and legs were crossed, she made no physical moves towards them - no wave of a hand, no touching at all - nothing. She didn't talk much either.
My friend and I were silently laughing as the scene played out. And yes, the lady left - alone.