Iused to be exactly the same. For me, I think it was my life experience that lkead me to be this way. Other people dominated me and I just went with it.

The only thing that has honestly helped me overcome a lot of my submission is my partner. The way he treats me and the way he understands and doesnt put any pressure on me to do anything.

I couldnt have done it by myself.

Its all I can really say other than maybe time and experience might also help you

i have the same problem, i want to be more dominant but when it comes down to it, i just cant. my other half kinda understands, and is trying to work with me, but i cant help but feel that im making him tired of me.

Wake him up (my fiance prefers I do this when he doesn't have to be at work in the AM but sometimes I'm just that horny). Lay ontop of or next tp him and massage him and kiss him and then get on top. His tiredness and just waking up willp make you dominant by default because he's too tired to take charge. You might also want to make sure your on top. I once layed next to him and he rolled over and started but wasn't quite awake and fell asleep on top of me. That was a little awkward and ego deflating.

Are you submissive in other aspects of your life, or just in bed?

[QUOTE=nottooblushing;178541]Wake him up (my fiance prefers I do this when he doesn't have to be at work in the AM but sometimes I'm just that horny). Lay ontop of or next tp him and massage him and kiss him and then get on top. His tiredness and just waking up willp make you dominant by default because he's too tired to take charge. You might also want to make sure your on top. [/QUOTE]

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