Okay, so here is the deal, my girlfriend and I have been going out for about 5 months. We're both really happy, we talk about sex all the time and we both decided that when it happens...it happens. I am a virgin but she has had sex before. Anyways, I am generally pretty shy and am just starting to open up and do thigns I have never done before. Pretty much, I have went to second with her. She dosen't like fingering and she definatly dosen't like being eaten out. Now for me, she has given me head, and we have alot of dry sex(which btw, I can't seem to bust after doign it for a long period of time, I can feel it coming, and sometimes I feel as if its just the matter of finding he right position but still no luck? Is it nerves maybe? pyschological?)
Back to the main question, I was driving her home and I am open with her and I was like 'what can I do to make you 'feel" as happy as you make me. She says she knows plenty of things besides fingering and eaten a girl out lol but she wanted me to find them out on my own, and not to worry about that stuff. She said to ask one of my friends who has had sex before what they might do to get a girl aroused?
So here I am asking, what can I do to get my girlfriend aroused besides making out, nimbling on the neck, going to second, and fingering and eaten out?
Romance, I am new at this but from what I hear around a couple forums most, not all, women love romance. Take her out and g obowling and flirt a little, make some sexy comments that turn her on. Hold hands and occationally kiss her fingers nibble on her ear, brush up agenst her thigh/brest and act shy or that it was an accident. Have some chocolate and and feed it to her using your mouth, my GF and I do that often we even share gum. Just sit down somewhere hold her hands one on one of your laps and one across the others sholder and let her or you rest your head on the others sholder. Kissher occationally, lick just below her ear and blow on the saliva kiss her up her arm and just make her feel as there is no other women in the world and she is the Queen. That night cuddle with her trace your finger lightly around sensitave places and kiss her in others maby play around and tickle her if she is tickleish. After a while play with her brest if she wil let you, rub them light ly or firmly depending on what she likes more, then lick her nipples and suck on them, that is if she likes this kind of thing, keep tracing your finger lightly around sensitave spots on her back as you do this, and as you are sucking a brest and tracing a finger around use your other hand and Lightly drag your hand down her front/side to her vagina and then keepgoing down towards her thighs and lightly move around down here, then use other hand and play with the brest you arn't sucking/licking. She may want you inside now if she does don't for a bit longer just to tease a little and then go down and light ly finger her and lick her clit and surounding area. Insert 1-3 fingers and stroke near her G-spot with one of the fingers and if you have more than one inside use the other so stroke elsewhere in there. and listen to her body language do what she like most. If she will kiss you after you have been licking her then kiss her use a little toung and continue increasing/decreasing the speed/pressure of the stroking till she is done. I am new at this so I may have a few things wrong but that happens, Learn from what is wrong and try again. Good luck.
O.F.F.S does every date have to end with g-spot inspections? what a bunch of jokers
Good post shy!!!
Good post shy!!!
[QUOTE=HardNgood;166447]O.F.F.S does every date have to end with g-spot inspections? what a bunch of jokers[/QUOTE]
I have never had any experience as I have said so I am only saying what I think might be good for him to try. If you don't like any of it Please give your thoughts and don't flame because you don't like the idea.
"hardngood' (i can jus sense the humility) that 'joker' seems to be alot more sensitve to how to please a girl than you are - if it ain't broke dont fix it and i dont no any date that's every been ruined by the g-spot!
Any luck bamf123?
Stroke her. When you hold her hand move up her arm to stroke the forearm. Stroke her back & her neck. Touch her face & stroke her legs. Stroke her butt.
Stroking does a lot to both males & females.
When you go furhter stroke her chest & such.
Having married my, then virgin husband, last April I hope I can be a little helpful.
I do have to say one thing though about your girl, she needs to understand that you will have to try things on your own but when you two start having sex you will need to be able to communicate, this is not the best way to start that off. Coming from experience if I'd done that with my husband our sex life would not be of the quality it is now.
Everything we did was new for him, aside from making out,he was completely in the dark. I had to teach him through trial and error what I liked versus what he thought women liked, so you definitely need to make it personal. Meaning this: You have been dating for 5 months you know what makes her smile, what makes her laugh and what makes her irritated. If heavy breathing is something that annoys her, avoid the ears, at least with your mouth.
Try running your fingers through her hair, gently massaging the back of her neck or just running your fingers along her neck and ears.
Suspense is a great thing that you should actually take advantage of, don't make sex the topic of discussion all the time. As painful and impossible as it may sound why don't you try to avoid thinking about sex and just focus on being happy with her.
Looking at a woman as this beautiful creature who loves you is a very intense way to stir up emotions in a woman. We are predominately emotionally driven so making us feel happy, loved and sexy can stir up the hormones that you are looking for.
My husband says that he listened to what I told him and that he was very aware of my body language when we did make out or go to second. Listening to my breathing or watching my body arch, moans etc. These are all very important if you don't actively like to talk about what you like.
Another thing is if she is giving you head does she look and sound really excited? She may enjoy the act in and of itself and not be wanting instant return on the favor. It's a feeling of power and control that some women like. I always did.
As far as some other techniques why not give her a massage? It doesn't have to be a full body get naked kind of thing, a simple neck, shoulder arms thing will work wonders. It allows us to relax and also to enjoy the feel of your hands on our bodies making us just feel good. If you do work your way up to a sensual massage every touch becomes an arousal.
Hope this helps you out.