ive been with my girl for alomost 2 and a half years now and we started haveing sex about 10 mnths ago she was a virgin i wasnt but we have had the same problem since the start shes alwas been worried about something during sex usedto be the fact she wasnt on birth control now she is on birth control andits something new and it gets to the point wher she gets realy emotional ive even seen her cry during sex it bothers me and im alwas very supportive and understanding . on top of this all sex is very inconsistant sometimes she can have an orgasam but most of the time she is just in discomfert ive tryed everything every postioni can and nothing works evry time ive never had a problem with any other girl befor and im realy starting to wonder if alot of it is not mental with her any help and insight would be a blessing at this point thanks
kyle
Your g/f needs to find out WHY she is crying, why she is so emotional over this. Orgasms are not a guaranteed "hit" all the time. Sounds as if she has some psychological issues happening which you need to find some answers to.
I got so confused by your terrible syntax that I have no idea what your question is.
brandye,
my question was basicaly could the mental hang ups my g/f has cause her to not be able to reach orgsam she has alot of issues with sex and ther is often hangups that come up during sex ive tried evrything i can to help her out with her issues and ive tryed all i can to get her to reach orgasam but i think its beyond anything i can help her with its very upseting and i feel like thers nothing i can do
Overall does she enjoy sex? I am not talking about like.. 1 day she does, 1 day she doesn't.
Did someone abuse her? Don't ask her, unless you know.
to answ your question honestly she was never abused to my knowledge her issues have alwas been in the fact that her whole life she has been told that sex befor marriage is wrong and people that have sex before marriage are bad people and even tho she thinks diffrently i think she constintly thinks her family will hate her if they find out i dunno im just guessing but as far as her likeing sex i thought she enjoyed it and she told me she does but everynow and then she will tell me she hates it and dosnt ever wana have sex agin
Who's idea was it to start having sex.
Was she the one that pushed for it, or was it you?
[QUOTE=njfisher0326;179119]to answ your question honestly she was never abused to my knowledge her issues have alwas been in the fact that her whole life she has been told that sex befor marriage is wrong and people that have sex before marriage are bad people and even tho she thinks diffrently i think she constintly thinks her family will hate her if they find out i dunno im just guessing but as far as her likeing sex i thought she enjoyed it and she told me she does but everynow and then she will tell me she hates it and dosnt ever wana have sex agin[/QUOTE]
i think i kind of know where she's coming from. I was also raised with the same mentality regarding sex before marriage, and although I want to do it, I still feel like I'm doing something bad or wrong (especially if we're doing it like on my bed - in my parents house where I was born and raised.... and you don't know if parents might drop in any second - even though they told you they'll be out long!) ....so yes it can be quite confusing mentally when you're in this state.
When I started on bc pills I went even more hay wire.... as you say I used to sometimes hate sex and my bf all together and used to send him home... and as soon as I close the door behind him I feel a huge amount of guilt. It was a matter of my body getting used to the bc pills (it is also possible to change bc pills perhaps to a lighter dose).
I used to just randomly cry also - although not really during sex - mostly after perhaps because I would be feeling so confused about my emotions.
IMHO, if she's just started on the bc pills...stick with her...wait it out until her body adjusts - or consult with the doc to change to a lighter dose. It might just all pass.
But regarding the 'sex before marriage' issues...I don't think that will really pass (till you're married I guess). I'm still never 100% there - there's always a small nagging feeling that I'm doing something wrong - and it is because of this that I guess I tend to push my bf away sometimes - sort of I try to control until the urge is really bad.
anyway hope this helps!!
gluck!