My fiance and I are very sexually active. She often admits that she feels she initiates sex way more often than I do and she is probably right. My thing is that I will initiate caressing and kissing ect. but I won't go anywhere further until I know that she is into it. I come to that conclusion when she touches my cock. Not sure if it is a fear of rejection kind of thing but that has been my m.o. for the past year and a half. She has told me that I am more than welcome to "try" every night and the worst that is going to happen is that she is too tired or not in the mood, no big deal. My question to you ladies is this: what are some fresh ways or tricks that would help me get her into the mood and then know if she is actually in the mood. Thanks.....
I need to further qualify this by stating that my fiance and i are in a very good place together. before meeting her i was in a 9 year marriage with a friend, not a wife, or at least it ended that way. sex did not occur. I'm really hoping for signs that advances are welcomed, what to look for, how i can read her body language to know whether or not to proceed or to pack it in. i know that i could always ask but i can only imagine that it would get old pretty quick always hearing "do you want to have sex tonight???" or something along those lines.
I'd also like to state that i don't mind getting shot down. I would love to have sex every night, truly, but that is pretty unrealistic.
All you have to do is walk you behind her while she is in the kitchen, on the couch [insert place] begin with your arms around her and kiss her neck...let you hands move!
We are easy to keep happy! Or draw her a nice bath...lead her upstairs and take her clothing off for her...help her wash/or get it too.
JUST DO IT!!!!
The only bad time to initiate to me is: when I am getting ready for work, dressing to meet people out or an event, or my family is on their way over in 2 minutes.
I agree with sera, even if I don't think I'm in the mood, once hands start caressing and kissing... then all of a sudden I'm very turned on.
I'd say the only time not appropriate would be when I have to get ready to go somewhere and there's just not enough time to do it!
Don't you dare underestimate what kissing that neck will do for her libido! LOL
Sounds like you're looking for specific examples....One thing you can watch out for is audibles-she might 'mmm' or sigh or something similar. She might gently protest but in a playful tone('Hey now...' type thing, maybe with a little giggle in there). Also look for physical moves though too. Does she melt into you when you start? Green light. One thing I have this tendency to do when he comes from behind is, I'll reach behind and start to rumple the hair on the back of his head.
You are missing a fundamental principle in relationships: Women set the limits or boundaries--men test the limits and proceed on consent being implied. If she has extended the previous limit you will know because you are not stopped at the previous one. In other words, make your move and continue making out until she says or indicates that you have gone far enough. If she is not in the mood she has stated she will inform you at some stage. If she is in the mood, go for it.
If you need information on how to make out and the various stages of this along with other tips, please read the articles on this subject listed in the Index.
Why is having sex every night unrealistic? Making love need not include intercourse. It can simply be hugging, snuggling, kissing and caressing before going to sleep. It can also stop anywhere up to and including oral sex, so Necking, Petting, Heaving Petting, are all part of what can be done in order to demonstrate the love you have for each other.
You have the wrong idea on how to proceed and are stopping way too soon without even trying.
I am a guy. But I know how to get my girl going when she may not be into it. All you have to do is starting using your hands while your kissing. Rub her back, pull her close, rub the back some more. The gently let your hand rub a lil lower, and a lil lower. Gently rub across her butt, her thighs. Move around your hands alot, rub her stomach, her back, her butt, eventually rub down the front of her thighs, and in her vaginal region. When you hit that region once or twice, oh yeah, it is gonna happen!
That is good for a start, and may work for your girl, however, there is much much more to this than that. You have much to learn and to put into practice.
The sooner you begin learning more about the art of Eros, the happier both of you will be.
Yay, someone that posted that is old like me! j/k. Same story hear about being married to your friend. We live and learn. So this will obviously be things I like guys to do
Anything remotely helpful around the house and not asking for credit for it counts as foreplay for me. ;) Seriously, if we are sitting by each other rubbing my inner thighs, whispering that I am beautiful/sexy, telling me what he fantasized about me, I love it when he just puts his arms around me in a way that I know he is in the mood, taking me in the shower with him. It doesn't have to be anything fancy--attention, and if we look annoyed we are probably not good to go at that second. Waking up to oral sex is always nice.