Imagine a few years down the road. Perhaps time to move on.

she might just be bored of it try to like make the first move of sumthing more then kissing like play are u nervouse
or just move on

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Quite possibly her feelings for you and the relationship have cooled. Regardless, I am a firm believer that teens and people in their twenties should not date exclusively until Mr./Ms. Right definitely comes along. You should also be dating lots of girls in order to learn what humanity has to offer in the way of a potential mate. Dating should be all about learning about others, yourself, and, in having fun all without ties of exclusivity.

I agree. Time to move on and begin dating more people.

Use another approach give her a new way or reason to be intimate. Maybe she is just too busy or sometimes could be so tired make her more relaxed for a while then start giving her a seductive kiss to start the heat up.

The opposite of love is NOT hate - it is INDIFFERENCE.
The lady is NOT interested in you.
This does not mean anything in particular other than THIS relationship has run its course.

Move on.

This relationship needs a hero. Step up and exit gracefully.

Dating is all about learning what humanity has to offer us in a potential mate.
Dating is all about going out with lots of people and maybe a couple at one time.
Dating is all about having a good time with lots of people while you learn about each other observe compatibility, likes dislikes, ideals, goals, quirks, morals, values, etc.
Dating is all about recognizing that most people we go out with will come and eventually go, some sooner than others.

Dating may be as short as one time, two, three, or much longer, yet over the course of a few years all will go except for "the one". You won't necessarily find that Ms./Mr. Right by stopping the process with the first warm body who expresses an interest in us.

I understand your desire to want this to work; however, you must understand that the process is not to hang onto someone beyond reason.

> her respond was i honestly dont know.

If she wanted the relationship to work, she would be asking you for ideas.

> how can i get her back to making out with me ?

If this is all you are interested in then you are asking the wrong question. It has been stated that when a relationship is working well, sex is 10% of the reason. When a relationship is not working, sex is 90% of the reason. Your concern should be what can I do to make the relationship better and most likely the sex will improve as a result. Keep this in mind for the next time.

Not everybody is going to be a match. This would seem to be your indication that it is time to do more searching. It is better to learn this now that to get married and then end up in divorce court a few years later. Inform family, friends, coworkers, that you are interested in dating and to help you find someone who is also interested in dating--then go on dates. Do not go into the next relationships with the idea of being exclusive. A couple can have exclusivity simply by acting that way if they desire without the declaration. Go about dating with the idea of having fun with as many different people as possible all the while learning about each other. Do not be surprised if sometime down the road you are the one that is saying to yourself: "Self, this person is not a match for me." So, exit and move on and let her do the same.

I completely agree with dancing doc that dating should be a nice learning experiment but i do not agree that it shoul de with more than one persone at a time but anyways that is just me personal opinion so lets ignore this...but the rest of what was said is true if this person doesnt know about making out wich is one of the best things ever well i dont think you should continue wasting you time. I'm sorry if you think that wasting is harsh but you are only young younce and if your significan other doesnt care about your wants or needs you should not continue and move on to the other wich will probably be better than the later since you will have learned from the pas experience

Possibilities
Kissing always leads to sex... if you have stopped kissing except when you want sex she may not want to do it because there is now an expectations pined to it.
If this is the case you need to talk and start kissing just for kissings sake.

Freshness... if you have morning breath or just stale breath it could be a turn off for her try cleaning your teeth before you next approach.
i love making out with my hubby and will do it for hours after we have cleaned our teeth

If its not one of the above than i agree its time to move on.

Well, hdchris, that may be so if you have all the time in the world to spend 3 to 5 years dating each person before making your decision to commit to one of them. And then what if your intended ends up saying no and leaving you - all that time is ... GONE.

So now you're 30 or 40 or 50 and you want to begin a family - have a few children, which requires you to woo a fertile woman in her 20's and 30's. Just think of the competition you'll be facing here: active, dangerous edgy young men in their 20's who are so full of life.. and then there's you.

Dude, chase them all until one catches you.
Once you're afianced you can be exclusive.