Well…I am 18 and up until last night I was a virgin. I am the last of all my girl friends to have sex, and all of them have said they wished they had waited (they are all older than me and did it around the same age that I did)…well anyway…I did it with my best friend in the world (it was his first time too) who I am more in love with than I thought possible. It was by far the most amazing experience of my life up to this point. But I did something quite unexpected…I cried…and I’m a lil embarrassed…it wasn’t a bad cry not in the least…I wasn’t in pain and I wasn’t sad…but when I had an orgasm I just started crying (I feel like a HUGE dork) but I had never felt anything like it (don’t get me wrong it wasn’t the time I had ever had an orgasm but it was WAY different) I was just so over whelmed…I have never felt so many things at once, and it was like at that moment the love I had for him multiplied by 100…akkk…I must sound so lame….well anyway here’s what I’m getting at…when I stared to cry (I wasn’t sobbing or anything) he got a little freaked out asked if he was hurting me…I told him no...but now I think he’s a little freaked out cuz I cried…and I am too…I wasn’t expecting it…I mean this was amazing…I had always thought first times we’re uncomfortable and never any good…but this was so much more than anything I could have imagined and I CRIED…I have never even heard of someone doing that…haha…well sorry about this kinda pointless post….I guess I just need a little reassurance or something…and I can’t really talk to my girlfriends cuz they all had horrible first times…so I dunno…am I total freak for crying? Should I talk to my boy about it and make sure he knows it wasn’t bad crying but really, really good crying….blah…this is all so confusing.
Mon, 08/30/2004 - 04:40
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need a little reassurance
Well...I talked to my boy...it went good and ended up in more, less tearfull but just as good, sex. So yeah..I'm a happy camper...thanks for responding guys
[QUOTE=Quote (Cate @ Aug. 29 2004,21:40)]Should I talk to my boy about it and make sure he knows it wasn’t bad crying but really, really good crying….blah…this is all so confusing.[/QUOTE]
that is nothing to be embarrassed about. Sounds like you had a good time, if you are truly in love with him and want it to work out keep this in mind, Communication communication communication….communication is the key
well not a lot of people know how to act after there first time my first time was when i was 13-14 years old and after i hade no idea wut to feel the the only thing i can say is that you should talk to him about and tell him how you feel.
Hi Cate.
Yes, I would explain to him that it was a good cry just to make sure he understands. And it's quite alright that you did. Cry, I mean. Overwhelming emotions can be released in many ways and this is just one of them. So don't feel bad. I'm glad your first time was so good as to induce such a pleasant response. Take care.
yeah i would just tell him it was a good cry...an emotional cry. not a physically painful cry.
i don't think thats weird.
some people are like that, if they feel overwhelmed...whether it be w/ pleasure or anger or happiness...they'll cry.
i dunno, maybe its getting close to your time of the month too..lol.
i know like the week before i start my period, i cry at all kinds of crazy shit... like commercials and my soaps..lol.
but yeah, tell him you are ok and that he didn't hurt you and you weren't scared.
he probably feels guilty...just reassure him as well.