Bottom line I seem to have serious issues using condoms, and I don't know why. When I have sex without a condom with my girlfriend who is on the pill, everything feels amazing, everything goes great. (I probably finish a little too soon, but whatever).
When I put on a condom, for the first maybe 2 minutes it feels good, then after that I kinda get bored, and I don't feel much of anything. I also kind of feel myself getting less hard.
Additionally, when I pull myself out and LOOK at the condom, it has moved so that the empty tip that normally catches semen is now strangling the head of my penis, giving it no room to breathe. Now, normally I would think this is the result of a penis that is too small. But I'm 6.5in at least.
So, I'm lost. Help?
Get unlubricated condoms and a bottle of water-based lube. Put just a little lube on your penis before applying the condom, then generously use the lube on the exterior.
The above recommendation is a good one; HOWEVER, the lube should only be applied to the Glans, NOT the entire penis. Doing that will invite way too much slippage. All you want is a little "maneuvering" room for the Glans to receive more friction thru the membrane.
Good suggestions, both. You and your partner may also want to try female condoms. Though more expensive, the WHO dispenses these in the third world with instructions for cleaning and reuse. Men move within the sheath rather than with the sheath as regular condoms. Reportedly a more realistic experience.
Good catch, Doc!
Can anybody explain the condom slipping down issue? And I've heard the lubrication on the head before, but have yet to try it. I will.
The condom is experiencing more friction against the vaginal walls than against the penis. On each thrust, the condom is pushed farther onto the penis until it has stretched itself tight. This could be a function of inadequate vaginal lubrication or of penis size and, especially, shape. This would be more likely to happen on a thinner penis. You could try a smaller size (not length, but diameter) or allow more space by twisting the tip of the condom before rolling it on. Perhaps more lube in her would help. You should be using vaginal spermicide and Gynol II and K-Y+ and Koromex are good lubricants in addition to being spermicides.
The lube on the head will allow you to feel more rubbing UNTIL the condom slips and begins to tighten. Try a smaller condom. And, one more time, a female condom may work better for you. In checking this out with cooperative male friends, they have said that the female condoms allows them to move more and get a more realistic feel. This from men who have been in me bare. Other, real studies have elicited the same response from men. With a female condom, spermicidal lube should be in the vagina AND in the condom. They take a bit of getting used to, but they work for overcoming problems such as you describe.
I don't think a smaller condom will fit... I'm almost 7in in length, and I would imagine I'm no less than average in girth although I havent measured. Thanks for the other tips, I'll look into them.
Do not "imagine" or guess. Condoms vary in size by manufacturer so not all small, medium, and, larges are the same. You have to purchase a couple of different packs and try them out for real, then select the one that works best.