[FONT="Palatino Linotype"]Hey everybody, I'm new to this board and also new to sex ;)
I'm a 20 year old female who just finally started having sex (ha la lu ya); sex with my bf is great and enjoyable, but I can't seem to achieve an orgasm. This was the 3rd time we had sex, and he reached his sexually peek, but I have not. Don't get me wrong, it feels great and he can pound the holy crap out of me, but no orgasm. Sometimes I feel like my mind is just focusing on pleasing him, but I'm cheating myself. Like I feel like I might have one, but then I don't; ladies how do you know when your about to reach that orgasm stage? I don't know how and what to tell him, I don't want him to to feel like he's not doing a good job or want him to feel bad.
Ladies and Gentlemen, please share some advice for me ^_^[/FONT]
Hi and welcome....
Check out the threads in the "New to Sex" section you will find answers in there..
After reading those if you have questions come back and ask
Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums, I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about. If you click on the site's Home page you will find even more information!
I recommend that you read the articles in the Index that address the many aspects of female orgasms; there are several articles. These articles will teach you all about your physiology as well as learning how to masturbate, first and foremost, and then teaching your boyfriend how to mimic your techniques. There is much you have to read and learn about you--and, women in general.
As noted, above, after doing the reading, please do not hesitate to ask questions, this is why we are all here helping each other.
BTW - you DON'T achieve orgasm by him pounding the crap out of you.
Thrusting does NOT do it. CARESSING your hot spots is what he should be doing - but having the orgasm is YOUR responsibility.
We have done this topic to death. Please read the INDEX to find out the answers you're looking for.
Evil is spot on. Only about a quarter of us frequently reach orgasm through penetration and thrusting. About half of us require additional stimulation - oral or digital - in addition to what Evil alludes to. Perhaps your expectations, and focus on him, are getting in the way. The ladies first movement is on to something important.
[COLOR="SeaGreen">GREAT! Thank you guys so much for the advice. [/COLOR]