I admit, I like it sometimes, but unless properly lubed it just creates too many problems. Maybe you could read on here about kegel exercises. You might learn how to give the walls of your vagina more gripping power. It would give him more of the tightness he seems to like and no risk. As far as infections, unless he isn't cut (open wound cut) and you're not ill, it should be safe.....just I wouldn't suggest having him re-enter your vagina after anal...could cause you an infection. I'm not a doctor, just speaking from personal experience.

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Plus there are a lot of Anal Sex threads around

It is suggested the guy wear a condom... you'll see in the thread above.

If you are on the pill... you should be ok. Some have advised that anal sex not be considered "safe" when not on any other type of BC b/c of the close proximity of the anus to the vagina and the fact the semen can run down there.

I don't care for it either... tried it maybe once or twice. I mean just be honest w/ him. Tell him the reasons why you don't like it... and maybe he'll learn to live w/ it, lol. Or maybe you guys can compromise on how often and such.

I have no difficulty saying no to that. If it is over your limit, learn to do the same.'

If you go along with it, a condom is a must for the reason you cite. All of us, men and women, are subject to urethritis but with bare anal, it is being asked for. Thresher is a bit off on that part.

I agree with above. I to enjoy a bit of anal but would not make a point of it if my wife said no!

If it is beyond your comfort level just tell him, maybe there are other things that can be done that you will both enjoy which are "different" to the "norm".

Tell him that it is not as pleasurable for you as for him and that you will rather and feel more comfortable making conventional love the way nature intended it to be