Ok, I'm going to explain my situation so you know exactly what I'm asking... oh I hope you can help me out!
I've been seeing this guy for around a year, and we have sex quite often, but it's always the same.
Sometimes it's hard because we're both drunk and he can't get it up or I'm not wet enough, but that is the easy problem.
He doesn't like hand-jobs or blow-jobs, but he will go down on me - which is always great. Foreplay is really good but it's when we get into it that the problem arises.
Quite often it's missionary, or me on top. But he lasts forever.... & I'm not sure exactly how i can initiate any change in our routine.
He says he enjoys it, and when he's on top, it can go on for half an hour or more. When i try and roll over or change positions he says he's just having fun and he'll come soon, i don't need to worry. But it's not him I'm worrying about! I get bored, and penetration for that long in the one position isn't that great to me...
I do worry that even though he says he is enjoying it, it's not "Exciting".
So can anyone help me? What can i do to change it? would he really be enjoying it enough? If it takes him so long to come does it mean he's not turned on enough or just that he can outlast? And if we are in the missionary, what are some things i can do to make that position a bit more interesting?!?!?!
Thanks!!!
[QUOTE=Quote (Fluffer @ July 30 2005,22:38)] To me, it's sometimes a turnon that the guy CAN'T go that long...makes me feel like I turn him on so much that he can't hold it back.[/QUOTE]
Amen to that! I totally agree.
you may want to have sex when you are not drunk more often. alcohol oftens subdues sexual feeling and it is often much harder to orgasm for both parties.
Hmmmm...there are so many other good positions to try! If he insists on missionary, you can always pull your legs up and put them on his shoulders. He can then come over top of you a little more and get some good penetration. That feels GREAT! Also, you can roll onto your side, with both legs to one side of him, with him still in the regular position on his knees.
I think you already got a good tip on how to approach the subject. He might think he's supposed to go a long time for you. To me, it's sometimes a turnon that the guy CAN'T go that long...makes me feel like I turn him on so much that he can't hold it back.
Good luck!
Sit him down and tell him that you want to try different positions. He is probably using the missionary position because he CAN last longer. Maybe he has it in his head that he should be able to last a really long time and that is the best position for him to do that.
Doggie style or something can sometimes make men cum very quickly.
Tell him you would like to try different positions. Also tell him that sometimes you get sore from going too long in the same position. (even if you don't) That may influence him to try a different position, since he thinks you are uncomfortable.
Ask him outright if he chooses that position because he can't go longer. Tell him he doesn't last long, that it's just fine, you just want to try some new and different things.
Maybe get a cosmo and tell him you want to try some positions out of there or something?