lol soulmate, im with you on your LAST statement.

peace

But that's you.
Yes, exes are a part of everyone's past but it's STILL a touchy subject and to me, if you're gonna sit there and bring it up, you better be prepared for the outcome. That's how I feel.

I don't really believe in sugar coating things all the time and I don't feel as if there's any way to sugar coat the whole "bigger and better" thing. If you're going to mutually bring up the subject, you can't fully blame either either person.

exes are a part of most everyones past. just another one of the people who've come and gone out of our lives. im not sorry i have a history or that i lived a life before meeting my mate. i simply can not wipe the slate clean and exclude all the prior memories i made.
absolutely NO reason to keep things a secret but some things best remain unsaid. you dont have to hurt peoples feelings in the process of telling them your lifes stories.
when my mate asks for details i wont lie about the truth but if the truth is gonna hurt him, i dont go ramming it down his throat even tho he asked for it. like the song says "spoon full of sugar helps the medicine go down".

But to me, if you're gonna go as far as bringing up the exes, then you better be prepared for the worst.

The "ex" topic is and always will be a touchy subject and if you're not ready to go there, don't, because you may wind up with statements like she told him.

[QUOTE=Quote (soulmates82 @ Oct. 06 2004,21:36)]usually best to just let them say what what they choose to say and dont ask too many questions.  if you do ask questions you have to be prepared to deal with answers you might not want to hear.  [/QUOTE]
I totally agree w/ this statement. If you ask questions, you better be prepared.
also, its one thing if he asked outright if the other guy was bigger and better, but its another if she just came out and said it... thats pretty hurtful.
I usually don't ask my b/f much about his exs... just to avoid this sort of thing.
we all can't be the BEST in every department.

well then you ask yourself, if this other guy was so GREAT then why isn't she still w/ him? apparently there is more important things to her than just sex and maybe you fulfill the other aspects of a relationship that she finds more important like friendship, trust, commitment, etc.

lots of far better ways to tell a guy he is not as good in bed as someother guy and that he has a smaller penis than someother guy....
why not just say something more in the lines of: i dated one guy for close to six months. one guy went out with we just had a few dates and things just didnt work out.... i just do not see the point in telling ALL the details. if he did ask her if her ex had a bigger penis, might have been more tactful if she had said: i have no idea nor do i care to even try to remember. why dont you just forget about him like i have cuz you and your penis are all i care about and honey what you got is all i need.
if she felt he had to know the ex was bigger maybe something like: if it matters that much to you then well yeah he was bigger. 'bout all he had going for him and sure wasnt good enough reason to keep going out with him....
awful low blow to be so blunt as to tell her bf all about how her ex has a bigger penis and was better in bed

[QUOTE=Quote (soulmates82 @ Oct. 06 2004,23:36)]how RUDE!!!  first thing i thought to say to yu was dump her and let her go back to mr wonderful!  oh my gosh i am sooooo mad at her and feel sooo bad for you and practically speachless of how insensitive is a person who would ....  [/QUOTE]
Well, I wouldn't go that far. They did mutally bring up the old relationship thing so all the blame can't fully be put on her.

how RUDE!!! first thing i thought to say to yu was dump her and let her go back to mr wonderful! oh my gosh i am sooooo mad at her and feel sooo bad for you and practically speachless of how insensitive is a person who would ....
anyway - well it is said and done and if you're gonna continue seeing her well - she IS with you instead of him, despite his endowment and sexual abilities.
usually best to just let them say what what they choose to say and dont ask too many questions. if you do ask questions you have to be prepared to deal with answers you might not want to hear.
when you bring up exes in a general way : i use to date a guy who drove a mustang or went to great america with a guy i use to go with.... it tends to blend in better with the conversation.
do the best you can to forget she said what she did. just be yourself and do not even try competing with the ghosts from her past.

Nothing wrong with you... unless you let this eat away at you. She probably thinks she was being honest, but she was also being a bit cruel in the process... she in effect attacked you in an area that most guys would be a bit sensitive about.

Remember, she stated her opinion and that's all. Sometimes memory is selective and the past often seems better than the present. Put it into perspective and remember, she's with you - so you must be doing something right!

Talking about relationships is great, but when it becomes comparisons of these type not much gets accomplished. Make future discussions about your relationship together and what's good about and how to make it stronger.