ok in this case.. all u can do is talk to her.. during sex.. ask her what she likes... and ask her what can u do to please her more and more.. the second option and this important option is to do lots of Foreplay.. foreplay is the best way to start.. read sticky threads about foreplay.. i am sure this will help u...

I tend to believe it is better to have these discussions at a time when you are not about to become romantic. Of course, when you are in the throws of passion you can ask about likes and dislikes or preferences with regard to technique.

Foreplay. This has become a generic term for what used to be and what I try to separate from the term "making out" or fooling around. These terms consist of Necking, Petting, and Heavy Petting that all come before Foreplay. I know what you are saying, however, when a person/couple is having trouble with some aspect of the preliminaries and states that they are having trouble with "Foreplay"--are they really?

Necking consists of kisses and caresses above the shoulders
Petting consists of kisses and caresses everywhere else except for the breasts and genitals
Heavy Petting includes all of the above and includes these erogenous zones and the (partial) removal of clothing.
Foreplay adds manual and/or oral stimulation

In order to help with a particular problem, it is important to understand specifically where in the process the problem occurs. "Foreplay" is simply to general as would a reference about trouble making out would also be.

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[QUOTE=Tom87;228688]Hi,Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 10 months now and we have sex quite often,but one problem lately is that she doesn't like getting fingered:confused: and sometimes now is dry more often than not.
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The amount of mucus does vary from day to day both in quantity and consistency. Make sure that this is not just a time of the month when she is normally less productive. The other thing to consider is what has been stated, above. How turned on is she? Are the two of you devoting half an hour or more to making out in all its various facets? If not, this is likely the reason she is not becoming very wet. Women require more time to turn on and warm up than do men. If you are spending the time, she may have an issue that should be discussed with her gyn.

There is also no reason why the two of you cannot use a commercial lubricant. This is one reason these products are made. They work well for the vagina as well as the penis. Use them.[/COLOR]

when we have sex she is very quiet like doesnt moan or groan,does Penis size matter in this?but she says she is still enjoying sex

[COLOR="Blue">No, penis size does not matter. It has been said time and again that it is not the size of the boat that matters, it is the motion of the ocean. Learn to use what Mother Nature has given you. Normal is a range, some of the world's population are normally on the short side while others are in the middle, etc.

How a woman or a man expresses themselves is based not only on their inhibitions or the lack of as well as just how expressive s/he is in everyday life. Some people feel comfortable shouting, others are rather quiet. It is a range. If she is happy, then be content that you are doing a good job.[/COLOR]

anyway I want advice into how to get her to moan and how to give her good oral sex[/QUOTE]

Talk to her sometime when the two of you are not about to become romantic and ask her about it. Maybe she would like to be yet feels embarrassed. Maybe she is just not that demonstrative. Maybe she finds the verbal expressions distracting. Who knows? She does. In the final analysis, don't make a big deal about this. It is not a deal breaker or reason to be unhappy.

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Moaning and groaning has nothing to do with sexual satisfaction. Many women make no sounds at all. If she does not like to get fingered, do not finger her. Too many (young) men think fingering means jamming fingers into us. The sensitivity is not in there, it is at the front. You have too many misconseptions. Educate yourself.

hmm....... makes sense to me Brandye

" my girlfriend and I" - you always put the other person first.

Now then - pay attention to your partner, noisy responses are not to be trusted. There are several involuntary indications that orgasm has occured such a flushing, dilation of the pupils, heating of the skin, engorgement of the facial lips, nipples becoming erect and flexing of the cervix. But if the lady says she is enjoying herself - she's enjoying herself.

You cannot MAKE someone do anything in particular, you can only INVITE them - usually by being a generous and fun lover who gives a lady what she wants and doesn't do manual if she doesn't like it. How would you feel if she did something you didn't like and demanded that you enjoy it?