Hopefully one of the medical people on this board will come and reply to this. It is my understanding that if he cannot pull the foreskin back, that is a medical problem. It should glide over the head easily. If it's painful for him, he should see a doctor. A quick google search brings up articles on a condition called Phimosis. Perhaps you should get your BF to look up this condition and see if it fits.

Go under the search function type in "Uncircumcised penis"...much info there for you.

He can't pull it back?
So **************

If you really want to, you could just say "babe, If you get circumcised...well lets just say you'll look forward to me waking you up in the morning" lol.

when it is hard the foreskin is still over the head? i think he should see the doc's. im not circumsized and when im hard the foreskin goes back, if i pull the skin back the whole head comes out. maybe you could gt him to start streching it back then he has a wank.

Is he actually unable to pull it back? As in, he can but it hurts... or he can't do it at all?

> He doesnt plan on getting it surgically fixed. It doesnt hurt him to have sex or anything, it just hurts if he tries to pull the foreskin back because it is too tight to fit over the head.

"Surgery" as in a minor way is not necessary. Our resident M.D., Brandye, often answers this question by stating that a simple nick of a scalpel in the doctor's office is all that is required to widen the "straw-like" protuberance in order to slide over the Glans. This done, if he then has to work on freeing the foreskin, he can work on this, although, it most likely has already detached from the Glans.

> I have never been able to make him come from a blow job even though Ive been able to make past boyfriends come quite easily. He told me that other girls have made him come, but it took 30-45 minutes.

This is not at all unusual. Here is an informative article to read:
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

At the heart of this would seem to me to be a lack of feedback. When a person masturbates s/he benefits from internal feedback that lets us modulate our movements, make tiny "mid course" corrections, etc., as we progress upward along our arousal curve. When we turn the reins over to our partner, we loose the internal feedback connection. The cure is to provide information on how we are responding to our partner's touch and caress by verbal or non-verbal communication. Verbal can be in the way of a word or other utterance; non-verbal can be the squeeze or rubbing of the hand, all of which convey specific meanings that the two of you work out.

> Does anyone have any tips or suggestions for what I can do to better please him and get him to come?

Keep in mind that while each of us masturbates in essentially the same ways, there is more to the basics that I refer to as the Fine Art. This defines the movements, rhythms, and pressures that each person adopts that become specific and unique to each individual. If this stimulation is not what we have come to rely upon to move us to the brink of an orgasm and beyond, it just won't happen. What does happen as a result of oral stimulation is that we become much more highly aroused than when just masturbating, yet because the stimulation is not right for an orgasm, our sexual excitement just becomes greater and greater until we can't stand it any longer. In and of itself this is very pleasant and a worthwhile endeavor; to achieve a climax, it is necessary to pause, let him slide back down his arousal curve and then either give him a hand job that mimics his technique--or better, combine oral and a hand job for what I call the "Dynamic Duo".

> Most of the usual tips in terms of stimulating the head dont help.

Of course; however, the foreskin does contain a lot of sensitive nerve endings and combined with the nerves in the Glans that are much more sensitive and reactive than they are in a circumcised penis, you should have more than enough to work with.**

Even though the foreskin will not retract, he should have enough "wiggle room" (assuming that the foreskin has become detached) that stroking the shaft or even just the foreskin will permit the skin within your grip to move back and forth over the Glans thus stimulating it further.

> Just a sidenote, He also does not want to go into any anal stimulation so I cant really add that for pleasure.)

OK, but just what aspect of anal stimulation does he not want? "Anal stimulation" does not automatically mean penetration by a finger, dildo, or toy. More often than not it just refers to external caresses. These caresses that consist of licking, or fingering the outside of the anus by tapping or rubbing with a wet or lubricated finger are best accomplished when a person (male or female) has become extremely aroused and turned on. It is then that these nerves turn on and become reactive. When they do, they act like an afterburner to a jet engine or a turbo to a gas engine and significantly boost or intensify the sensations of other caresses going on at the same time as well as the resulting orgasm! Is he aware of these benefits??

You might want to sit and talk to him about this at a time when the two of you are not planning to become intimate. It may be that he has formed an initial dislike either because of some misinformation, or a prior experience performed poorly. If this is just a notion, then encourage him to broaden his horizons and experiment (correctly) as noted, above.

You may also learn that if the two of you shower together washing each other (using SOAPY hands only that roam and perhaps dally in certain places) that he will get over any squeamishness he may have to having his anus touched. Later, you can bring him to the very brink of an orgasm yet not so close that he will loose control, and then let a finger roam to his anus whereupon you can begin to gently finger it. Unless he is so up tight and prudish about his body, a touch there, then, should produce such intense pleasure that the results will overcome his objections or inhibitions. If not, well--you tried. What remains is that you either have to wait for him to mature and evolve and acquire more information, continue as you are, or, move on.

If you do get him to talk about this aspect of your love play, you might ask him what he knows about prostate massage. This massage will provide an even greater boost to his orgasm. The key, again, is not to do this prematurely. As with the above, wait until he is very very turned on and nearing the brink of an orgasm. For more information on this that the two of you should read is this:

"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.

Between these two forms of anal stimulation is the middle ground. If he comes to accept and welcome your outside caresses, you can try venturing further by inserting a finger to just between the first and second knuckle and rubbing the sphincter muscles along the passageway. Use plenty of lubrication. You can stroke (move your finger in and out), and/or wobble it in addition.

Lastly, because all this is good for the goose as well as the gander, you can try moving his finger to your anus when his fingers are in the general vacinity and guiding his movements with your hand. By guiding his movements, you will be teaching him. By responding favorably and vocally you will also be demonstrating how much pleasure you derive from this form of play. The intent is that this will teach him a thing or two, and mainly, that this is not somehow dirty.

** Ask him if he is aware of any hot spots? Having a Foreskin he may not have discovered them. If he has, then encourage him to point them out. The A#1 hot spot is the Frenulum {Y-shaped ridge of skin extending from the cleft on the underside of the Penis and connected to the Foreskin. One or more others are randomly distributed around the Corona Rim. Rubbing the Frenulum (in combination with some oral stimulation) will pretty much guarantee a climax immediately if not sooner when he is on the brink. Any one of the others will help intensify and build his arousal.

NOTE: Even if he is successful in eventually being able to retract the foreskin, the two of you may learn that the Glans is simply much too sensitive to do much with unless touched with the very lightest wettest contact.

In conclusion, and to answer your question about what else you can do to pleasure him. My suggestion is to read through the Index. It is listed at the top of the screen on the Main page. The Index provides links to many informative articles that provide information, tips, and techniques for a myriad of common concerns.

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope this is of help. Got questions?

I think i have phimosis, always thought it was because i was un circumsized but after i read this i googled it and i'm realy worried, i'm 17 btw and i cannot retract my forskin atall and it has hurt in the past if my gf pulls to much when giving me a hand job.