My boyfriend and I have been best friends for years. Over the years we feel in love and are finally together and we are over 50 years old. Our sex is the best. :) He is more experienced than any man I ever met. Our sex is perfect and just gets better, we are having sex twice a day:) . Today he asked me if I would swallow, he doesn't want it all over him. I need some advise: because I want to do it right. He makes me so hot I could get off without him touching me. Is there a easy way to get past this or something that takes practice?
Mon, 03/06/2006 - 03:02
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Need advise oral sex- Swallow
Congratualtions on your happiness.
To swallow or not to swallow, that is the question. The rule is that it is a woman's decision. If the guy wants his partner to and she prefers not to and maintains that position, so be it. He'll have to live with her decision. If she trys it and does not want to continue, so be it.
Semen, like vaginal mucus, is an acquired taste. It tastes salty even though it is mostly sugars and some protein with a calorie or two. I am sure you are aware of this, so I what I am about to say is for those new to sex who may read this with interest. Semen is sanitary unless the man has a UTI.
The correct method for handling semen is to raise the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth immediatly prior to his ejaculation so that the semen squirts against the bottom surface of the tongue. This keeps the semen from flying to the rear of the mouth where it might contact the uvula triggering a gag reflex.
At this point you can swallow or not, your choice. If not, then you can deposit the "load" into a tissue when convenient. If you want to swallow, then you can do so directly or along with a mouthful of saliva. An alternative is to take a sip of water and then swallow.
Because you do not mention whether or not you are giving him oral, let me include this: More often than not, it will take a combination of oral and manual stimulation to trigger an orgasm. If you can bring about his climax with just oral stimulation, great. The most sensitive spot on his penis is the Frenulum {Y-shaped ridge of skin extending from the cleft to the top of the shaft). Rub a finger along it when he is at the brink and you can pretty much guarantee that he will ejaculate then and there. Of course, stroking and a deft tongue and lips works, too. He may also have one or more additional hotspots around the Corona rim. Ask him, or go exploring to see if you can find it/them. Rubbing one or more of these just prior to his climax is nearly as powerful as rubbing the Frenulum.
Regardless of technique, you should insist that he give you a moments notice of when he is about to climax so you have time to raise your tongue (or to remove the penis for those who may not want to). There is another reason for giving a warning and that is to be able to pause the proceedings while he can still maintain control so you can get into position for intercourse.
Some women complain about experiencing a sore jaw after so long of sliding the penis in and out. You do not have to open wide, just enough for the penis to slip between your moist lips that should also cover your teeth. The latter is important because you do not want to scrape him. It isn't harmful, just annoying and distracting. Play around with how you use your lips and tongue and ask him what you do that feels particularly good.
This about covers it. Got questions? Enjoy.
that is like a very detailed description of swallowing if u ask me... its pretty much exactly what i do, but probably worded better then i could lol... yes the moments notice is SO important... my current bf if kinda shy in bed so he doesnt really talk much or anything during sex.. so once he didnt give me a warning and the semen ended up really burning my throat and a little even came out of my nose because when he came his penis was like way in the back of my throat...i managed not to gag but it was rather unpleasant.. omg i cant believe im actually writing this lol... anyway so yah since then i keep reminding me of the importance of warning me first... at best he'll usually just say "ok" or something like that when he's about to come, but its something... so that i can position properly :) ...its normal to be nervous the first few times, but i think with time it gets even more enjoyeable, i think its another way to be close to someone (not that women who dont swallow arent close to their partners, its just one other way of being close, for those who like it).
i really enjoy swallowing, i just think its a nice thing to do... wouldnt say its kinky or dirty per se, but lets just say its not everyones cup of tea but i do think it makes a guy feel good (again depends on the guy, perhaps some find it degrading or something but i dont think so, but this isnt the current post to discuss that).. as long as you're both comfortable... then as dancingdoc said... enjoy!
Cheers, fluffy.
A slight variation on Doc's description. Protect that gag reflex, as he says. Lithly rest a thumb on the bottom base of his penis. You can then feel the ejaculate moving (rapidly) outwards. I know it is happening as soon as he does. When I feel it, I press the back of my tongue against the hard palate. This accomplishes the purpose os the raising the tip of the tongue with less tongue gyration.
OK, I had to learn (many years ago) as all women do. Sometimes I am up for it and sometimes not. My position has always been that we extract the semen from men. Now it is ours and we can do what we please with it.
i cant say that im fortunate enough to feel the ejaculate moving outwards... i can definitely tell when my bf is getting close, its kind of a throbbing sensation i guess, but i cant say that i can tell specifically right when he's about to ejaculate... sounds like i got me some skills to sharpen.... alright...
Fluff,
Place the pad of your thumb against the base of the penis on the urethra. Gentle pressure and you will the bulge as it disgorges. It happens very quickly.
ill be on the lookout for the pressure bulge next time ;)
Thanks for all the tips. I think I have to get my mind ready as well for all this. I have read all of the tips and I will let you know how I do.
we'll be here weare ;)
Inquisitive minds are anxiously awaiting......................
ok maybe we sound too desperate doc? lol ;)
so i gave my bf a blowjob on sunday, and i DID notice the pressure bulge under the urethra ... but i have to say i dont find it for me to be a particularly good warning tool of when he is about to come because its basically simultaneous to when the semen is coming out so you dont have much time to properly place your throat and what not... altho anyway that time he did warn me a few seconds in advance by actually saying he was about to come (well really he just said "ok", but i know what that means lol), so the whole experiment is quasi tainted anyway, but it was fun as usual nonetheless :)