okay, i lost my virginity on saturday, and just now i noticed that my vulva doesn't look quite the way it used to.
things aren't as pretty and compact.
my labia are like stretched or something. and the right side seems bigger than the left...
at first i thought i was just swollen, like on sunday, but looking now... i don't like it.
is it normal? is it just swelling? will i look like this forever?
Tue, 05/06/2008 - 21:17
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my vulva looks funny now
i looked at it a little better after a bath with a mirror and the right labia is defnitely swollen. if you need a picture i don't mind posting one.
is it okay to post pictures like that? if it's strictly for medical reasons?
i suppose i'll do some research and try to figure what could be the problem..
oh, and will it get worse the more sex i have?
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from what i'm reading it could be gonhorrea.
i need advice!!!! can i please post a pic for one of the doctors?!
maybe bacterial vaginosis? man, i have to go to family planning, huh.
Okay vodka....take a deep breathe and BREATHE!!!
Heres the thing, I am not a doctor, nor am I female, so I cannot give you any definite answers. But judging by what you had posted on another thread (tipsy while losing your virginity, and having sex for a good while) I would have to guess that if it is swollen it could just be that you are still a bit sore from having sex. Injuries always seem to heal slower down there. (Once caught my member in a zipper and even though the cut was small it took 2 weeks to heal)
I know that the resident MD should be here soon, she does live in the UK which means major time difference.
It's probably nothing, my lips change the size/shape a bit over the length of my cycle, depending which clothes I wear, and how often/how rough I have sex. If it doesn't hurt, its probably nothing to be worried about.
As I suggested before you need to go see a doc. There is no substitute for real medical care. And yes, you might look different after you loose your virginity; however, the outer labia...one is always slightly larger than the other.
Most women awaken the day after loosing their virginity thinking, "My god, I am pregnant." You added to this, "My god, I am diseased." Not uncommon.
There would likely be a bit of swelling because your body is not accustomed to the bumping and grinding. We all experience that and, no, it does not contiue getting worse.
I shall not dissuade you from seeing your doctor because all women should have a gyn exam BEFORE becoming sexually active. Assuming a condom was used, there is little to worry about disease but it is always a good idea to know everything is good to go before going.
well, i spoke with a nurse and she didn't check me out or anything but she said i was probably irritated due to lack of lubrication cause it burned a little when i tried to masturbate.
eh.. no condom..the pill.. but if he was aware of having something he probably wouldn't still be talking to me, right?
that's not to say he has something he doesn't know about.
the swelling is all but gone today.
oh and it was kind of rough. i've got rugburns on my knees and down my back... lol
[QUOTE=alittletoomuchvodka;214980]if he was aware of having something he probably wouldn't still be talking to me, right?
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Unfortunately, this is not something you can rely on, because boys/men will say anything to get down a girl's pants. Still, theres probably only a small chance you need to worry, just get a PAP smear and let your worries be eased.
[QUOTE=curious_woman;214982]Unfortunately, this is not something you can rely on, because boys/men will say anything to get down a girl's pants.QUOTE]
And this is what makes me so depressed...why do we suck haha
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And this is what makes me so depressed...why do we suck haha[/QUOTE]
Well not all are like that of course, but its better to be safe than sorry. ;)
true. family planning does that right? i'm still 17, i'd rather not have my mom knowing. i might be more honest with her if i was in a relationship or something, but this is too.. embarrassing i guess.
she had a baby when she was 17 and i don't want her to have to relive memories of that by constantly thinking i'm out there getting pregnant, you know?
alittletoomuchvodka.... Id be more worried about the STD's you are going to get from not using condoms and having sex with random guys
before worring about pregnancy....Time for you to grow up I think...
Hey there lunch lady..........:p;)
Seriously, good advice. Boy, I am silly today.
[QUOTE=Ducy;214983][QUOTE=curious_woman;214982]Unfortunately, this is not something you can rely on, because boys/men will say anything to get down a girl's pants.QUOTE]
And this is what makes me so depressed...why do we suck haha[/QUOTE]
meh its prolly cause 90% of us WILL say anything we can to get into a womans pants, thank god we're 2 of the good guys lol but ya id worry more about STDs than pregnacy, especilly if u used the pill
Ducy:
Remember, it takes two to tango! Men can get only as far as women allow...:)
Okay Sera Officially Has The Best Advice, Information, Whatever You Want To Call It!!!!!
nuttychick.. i didn't plan this and am pretty damn ashamed of myself. i'm trying to fix what i've done and be responsible, and if there's a way to fix it without hurting my family i'd like to go that direction. this is not something i plan on repeating.
You are only 17, so you can get free birth control from Planned Parenthood. There is no shame in seeing a gyno, you really should get on BC. Even if you aren't being sexually active on a regular basis, if you ever do decide to take on a new lover, then you can.
As far as guys telling you whether or not they have anything - no, do not count on that. Unless you be sure to bring it up before you have sex and ask them when is the last time they were tested, then I really wouldn't count on him not sleeping with you if he knows he's got something. And even still, the only people I would trust to have sex without a condom (even though I've been on BC pills for over 10 yrs) would be close friends or boyfriends who have gotten themselves tested before we get sexual. People you barely know are not to be trusted so much. You should use condoms unless you know you can believe your lover.
Don't beat yourself up over this; you did something you aren't proud of, so learn from it and move on. Your doctor said you are probably fine, so you probably are. Just, next time be sure to assert yourself more - don't think asking a guy to wear a rubber will turn him off. Most guys expect it and if they whine about it, I tell them not to let the door hit their stupid ass on the way out.
i am on birth control...
Right, I'm sorry, you already said that you were in fact currently on BC. Just remember that BC protects you from pregnancy, not STDs.
And as far as worrying about what your family will think, well, what you do with yourself is really none of their business. Your sex life is yours and yours alone.
i know how BC works. and my sex life becomes their business if i get pregnant and they have to support a pregnancy and a stupid pregnant teenage daughter and deal w/ all the scrutiny that comes with that. it's also their business if i have to use their health insurance to cover medical for any STD's i happen to catch.... so, i think it's very much their business.
but thank you for responding nicely to all my posts :)
[quote=alittletoomuchvodka;215301]i know how BC works. and my sex life becomes their business if i get pregnant and they have to support a pregnancy and a stupid pregnant teenage daughter and deal w/ all the scrutiny that comes with that. it's also their business if i have to use their health insurance to cover medical for any STD's i happen to catch.... so, i think it's very much their business.
but thank you for responding nicely to all my posts :)[/quote]
If you know how BC works you will not put yourself at risk as you did last week. And if you become pregnant--you are responsible not a parent. Always use caution since this is you body. As far as STD testing; there are tests which can be performed without their knowledge. Use caution and be smart.
Never, ever again have sex without him wearing a condom.
I shall repeat that to make sure you see it.
Never, ever again have sex without him wearing a condom.
If you are so worried about what your parents will think etc, then make SURE you do not run such stupid risks again! Sex is for adults and that means you have to be adult about having it and being responsible. Care enough about yourself to demand that he wear proper protection.
As for the labia - nevermind that. Tis nonsense. No doubt displaced guilt and wanting to punish yourself for doing what almost everyone else on the planet is or wants to be doing, which isn't terribly bright on your part - the feeling guilty and need to be punished for being human. Sex is your birthright and if engaged in responsibly with the right men - there are no negative consequences. None.
So BCs, condoms, regular gyn exams, learning how to select the right men, and keeping your mouth shut about your sex life - and you're good to go!
Got it?!