I was having sex with someone new on Halloween night. He ejaculated and had to pull out for a moment to change the condom. When he got back in, my vagina had tightened way back up and wasn't quite so wet anymore. It made sex quite uncomfortable from that point.
He wasn't out for a long period of time. Maybe 30 seconds? I didn't appreciate the lack of cooperation on my vagina's part. I was really enjoying myself up until that point.
I couldn't seem to get it back into the mood. It was really quite frustrating. Is there anything I can do about this?
i know from being a guy, if you walk away for a minute, the cock goes soft and you need to kiss or do things which aren't sexual which cause it
its normal i think for both genders to go soft with a guy and not wet for a female
i have it before with a female with had to fix up the bed or get something, its easy to fix with just more kissing and foreplay.
hopefully doc or EEK will know more about it, im interested in why it happens
We did try some things I really like, like nipple play and purring. I also can't seem to do top positions, either.
When the penis is removed, it draws a lot of lubrication along with it. Even with a lubed condom, you need more. The friction, then, from inadequate lube caused the further tightening. When swapping condoms, more vaginal jelly is often needed.
The vagina does contract and all you need to do is add more lubricant.
Using condoms requires lubricant in all cases and if you interrupt the moment, for whatever reason, you will need to apply more. Just how it is.
No, your vagina is not acting wierd.
Similar thing happened with me and T the other night. After I had orgasmed a few times by hand and by oral, we went to penetrate and I mean I was TIGHT. Tighter than I've been in a long time. He was a little bigger than typical too, and also said I was already bigger than he'd ever seen me by the time I climbed onto his face. We've done stuff in that order before and never had it happen though.
My guess is it's partly due to that having been our first sex after a big fight.
Why fight? Seems a total waste of time you could be spending more 'productively'.
Really? Post-fight sex is normally ridiculously hot supposedly..
Well....fight isn't exactly the right word. But it was a near break-up. Call it differences that could have been insurmountable if we were willing to give up and stay stuck in our rut. Which after much talking and tears on both sides, we've decided we're not and we need to focus in on what made us go for the past two years to begin with.
Shake ups are not always a bad thing in a relationship, and we are now more 'us' than we've been in weeks.
Naaah! Post-fight always leaves bad feelings - so we don't do them.
It's good to clear the air occasionally.
Clear the air?
Why not just TALK like adults?
or:
HER "You snapped at me!"
HIM "I didn't."
HER "Yes, you did!"
HIM "I can't snap at you, you're too cute."
HER "grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr"
HIM - laughs teasingly and scampers out to the garage
HER "MEN!"
Perhaps you people just need to LAUGH more.
for example, this is the exchange between my husband and myself on our way back from his exam when his eyes had been dilated and he couldn't see. I had him by the arm, very snugglingly, and led him to the truck.
"Come on, dear."
"Where are you taking me?"
"Don't worry. I'll take good care of you."
"Got the insurance company on speed dial, eh?"
"Yes, dear, now get in the car."
"Putting me into someone else's car won't get rid of me."
"Yes, dear, I know. She'd only hunt me down and force me to take you back."
"You're my favorite wife."
"Out of your hundreds of wives?"
"Yes, dear."
Some of us aren't afraid to use the full range of our emotions, from anger through to laughter, sadness through to elation and so on. A good argument CAN clear the air without resorting to childishness. There's also moments when acting the complete immature fool and having a good laugh is just what we need. We were born with the capability to feel these emotions for a reason. It's how we use them that matters.
(BTY I laugh so much in real life, one could be forgiven for thinking I was reincarnated from a hyena.:p)
Anger at one's beloved? NAAAH! Save that for your true enemies.
One's beloved is merely misconstruing something. There's lack of understanding or a communication problem, neither of which requires anger.
I say this as a woman with a ferocious temper but one must always remember to NOT use a howitzer to swat flies.
Very angry son: "I'm going to run away from home!"
Dad: "Promise?!?!"
Mom: "Stop teasing your father, dear."
And here I was thinking that her vagina was doing something really strange like being the colour commentator to the sex or lighting up a cigarette in the midst of the action.
Boy was I wrong! :D
Nah just doing the old "lock-out" thing.
Hrmmm. I got to spend some quality time with my partner the other night and after about a couple hours of sex, about 35min penetration, and quite a few orgasms from different types of stimulation, we stopped to get some water. Shortly after the brief break her vagina went on lock down and was uncomfortable for her and penetration of even a finger was impossible. We tried massage and kissing for a bit but it only made it worse so decided to just go to bed as it was quite late anyway. Lubrication wasn't a problem at any time and she wasn't sore at all. We're just curious if that was the muscle cramping from possible dehydration and lots of clenching from the orgasms or if it was her body telling us it was enough, even though there wasn't any discomfort until it locked up. Any thoughts? Thanks!
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;247632]Anger at one's beloved? NAAAH! Save that for your true enemies.
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Nah, the true enemies aren't worth the effort.
Let the record show(Claire Huxtable had such class), there was no anger. There had grown the proverbial 800 lb gorilla in the room, from a topic that at its core should be more than workable. In order to AVOID said anger, instead of conversing, we settled into a routine of each doing our own thing to avoid the topic. Which kept us a thousand miles apart in the same room, too focused on the gorilla. We decided we can shrink the gorilla if instead of allowing ourselves to focus on it, we put actual effort into focusing on each other and our relationship. We forgot that even the greatest relationships take work.
Meanwhile, back at the ranch. Fun, my guess is it's the clenching from the orgasms.
Funin - both, hun, both.
By true enemies, I mean those people who would be the first to stone me if they knew how I live. Those people.
One must be ever on alert, the enemy is always near... Sad but true isn't it EEK?
:(
<--cha cha cha-ing
The doc has pronounced the results of all of those tests!
So damn healthy - he was impressed!!
Once again I have defeated the forces of doom!!!
The enemies can go fuck themselves sideways, it is now party time!!
AHAHAHA!!
You're a charm EEK!
:D
Where's the party!?!?
I'm not going to tell you where the party is!
Bwahahaha - all of the teddybears are MINE, I tell you, MINE!!!
Meeeee-ow!!
Hahahahahaha should have known xD