get him to do you first. i know after my turn im to tired to do anythink

Do you know his level of experience in past relationships?

I was much like that in my first relationship. Even though I wanted to give him head I made excuses becuse I thought I would do it wrong. He asked me up front if I was scared and I told him that I was. He showed me what to do and assured me that it was ok if I didn't get the hang of it right away.

So, talk to him if you are still having problems because that might be it.

i've been giving my guy head since the beginning of october and he hasn't gone down on me yet...but it doesn't really bother me.

yea, i'd like to receive it, and maybe i'm just strange or something, but if he doesn't want to give it to me, that's ok with me. i'm not gonna force him or anything and i'm gonna continue to do what i do to him. it makes me happy to please him.
and while i don't get oral pleasure out of him (or haven't yet. it's not something he does..but he's been hinting on it), he does please me in other ways, some not even sexual. just talking to him or seeing him brings happiness and pleasure to my life. it sounds stupid, but it's the truth. i haven't talked to him all week and i'm moping around like a lost child and i'm in a cruddy mood. but if i talk to him for just like 5 minutes on the phone sometimes, it can completely make my day and sometimes more than one day.

but like i said, maybe i'm strange or something.

Thing with my friend is she doesn't fall in love, She has a few play things, and she's happy like that. BUt it is frustrating if the guy refuses to please you, you can handle it for a few weeks, but after a few months it gets too much.

hmmm so basically if your friend falls in love and the guy just has a big problem with oral, she will refuse to even have sex?

wow... seems kinda stupid if you ask me

But then there are also those who don't want to return the favor. I begged my ex-fiance for months, I'm not kidding you, to give me oral, and not once has he done that. One of my friends has this rule, "if the guy doesn't give me any oral sex, he's not getting anything at all". Which is I believe relatively fair, unless there is soemthing wrong and that is just imposible to go down on the girl.

sexykitty has a good idea try having him do it to you first because after a guy cums alot of his views on things...including you may change....it may not be such a pleasant thing for him to do to you if he is not horny himself. or it could be that he is just uncomfortable with going down on you as mike said

One crappy thing about men (if you are a woman) is that they do get really tired after they cum (there are biological reasons). My husband always pleases me first, that way when his turn is over, he can go to sleep and not feel guilty for not pleasing me enough. It works out good. Plus one crappy thing about women is that we take much longer to get warmed up, so if he pleases you first it works out for everyone.

heres a link to a post very similar to yours
i hope this helps

Well from the "he's too tired or not in the mood" part, I assume that you've been attempting to get him to return the favor. Those are sound like obvious excuses to me, especially if he's in the mood to let you please him, but not return the favor. Maybe he's uncomfortable going down on you or fingering you or whatever y'all do? Try talking to him about it.. as always communication is the key.

If you're pleasuring him, its definetly not selfish to expect to recieve a little pleasure in return! I don't see how anyone could honestly expect their partner to do all the work with nothing in return... it's a two way street. Hopefully thats not the case with him, but if it is, I dunno.. thats moving a bit out of my league.

Hope y'all can work it out

Because I get so much pleasure doing it I ask myself why others don't. He probably was brainwashed when he was younger & thinks it's demeaning or dirty or who knows what. If you can't entice him with sexy panties & perfume & promises of a night of love after he gives you oral pleasure then I think unless you are willing to stay with a man that says, "Not tonight. I've got a headache." you should consider looking for a man that can appreciate you fully.