Until you have exchanged vows and have a legal contract, what the two of you do or do not do is up to each of you. You do not "let her" have sex with someone else.

That she is your finance and has declared her intent to marry you and now wants to covert with some other guy is troubling to me. Where's the love? This is what I think is crazy.

> i think it turns me on but all i want to know is why does it turn me on.

For the same reasons seeing a mannequin turns a person on.
For the same reasons watching X-rated videos turns a person on.
For the same reasons seeing a provocative ad turns a person on.
For the same reasons smells, taste, and sounds turn a person on.
For the same reasons risky behavior turns a person on.
For the same reasons imagination and daydreams turn a person on.

Stimulation.

Glad you took that one, Doc!

I've questioned a lot of things in my life. Some things are
Just the way they are. Go with it and have fun, just always be honest with yourself. Doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, and really it's none of their business. Plus, how do you know that's what they think? They may think you think it's crazy too :) good luck

[QUOTE=jjkool24;262117]she going to have sex with our neighbor. people will think thats crazy and stuff that i would let my lover have sex with a different man. yet i think it turns me on but all i want to know is why does it turn me on. when most people would think its weird. All i wnt to know is that could there be a different sign of love or no love.[/QUOTE]

I'm assuming he means "let" as not getting upset with her.

Nothing's wrong with you or with her. There's this idea that love = jealousy = possessiveness = only for one man/woman but that's now how humans evolved and that's not all modern cultures are arranged. Face it - you two are Lifestyle/Swingers and there's nothing wrong with that.

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ENJOY!!