Hi everyone. My significant other has no problems getting an erection. It's maintaining an erection that he has problems with. Would an erection ring help with this or does he need to go to the doctor and get put on some kind of medicine or something? :confused:
Wed, 08/20/2008 - 03:00
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My significant other can't maintain an erection
Rings can cause more problems than they solve. I would not recommend them. You can do an advanced site search using Brandye's name and cock ring to read more about this.
If he can achieve an erection then there is not likely to be a physiological problem. The test is if he can maintain an erection while masturbating home alone. If so, there is no physical problem. I am not aware of any meds that will keep a man from loosing an erection. How old is he?
Before even considering one of the three ED meds, you should look at how the two of you make love and experiment with technique. If this does not fix the situation, then he should go to a urologist.
Erections come and erections go. I've addressed this matter about three times in as many days. Having a penis go soft does not mean that your lovemaking is over. Rebuild it! by going back to basics and starting all over. You can have lots of fun getting it to return after a few minutes of down time. Also, many guys nowadays operate under the misguided misconception that the way to a climax is through lots and Lots and LOTS and LOTS of stroking and thrusting. WRONG! This is the why of all that fooling around called Necking, Petting, and, Heavy Petting that come way before Foreplay or intercourse. Intercourse should begin after he is primed and at the ready, not a lot before.
If you are not yet to the intercourse stage and are just sticking to Foreplay so far, then if his erection subsides, rebuild it; or, get him to climax sooner than later.* Men can have multiple orgasms, although, they are generally limited to between two and four depending upon age and drive. Also, the refractory period or recovery period is much longer for us than for women, and typically between ten and thirty minutes between any two--again depending on age and drive.
*If you are having trouble getting him to climax from a hand job and/or oral stimulation, then read the article listed in the Index that addresses the how-to of all this.
So, experiment and try working within these parameters and see what happens. If the two of you are stretching your make out session out for an hour or so then this can have a definite affect on his "staying power". This, again, is poor technique. Shorten your lovemaking to forty five minutes or so and then if you want to prolong it, do so during his down time. If it doesn't correct itself from a change in technique, then make doctor's appointment.
If necessary, please read the articles listed in the Index that discuss the how-to's of making out. If your technique is lacking, these articles will give you much needed information.
[quote=dancingdoc2;221505]Rings can cause more problems than they solve. I would not recommend them. You can do an advanced site search using Brandye's name and cock ring to read more about this.
If he can achieve an erection then there is not likely to be a physiological problem. The test is if he can maintain an erection while masturbating home alone. If so, there is no physical problem. I am not aware of any meds that will keep a man from loosing an erection. How old is he?
Before even considering one of the three ED meds, you should look at how the two of you make love and experiment with technique. If this does not fix the situation, then he should go to a urologist.
Erections come and erections go. I've addressed this matter about three times in as many days. Having a penis go soft does not mean that your lovemaking is over. Rebuild it! You can have lots of fun getting it to return after a few minutes of down time. Also, many guys nowadays operate under the misguided misconception that the way to a climax is through lots and Lots and LOTS and LOTS of stroking and thrusting. WRONG! This is the why of all that fooling around called Necking, Petting, and, Heavy Petting that come way before Foreplay or intercourse. Intercourse should begin after he is primed and at the ready, not a lot before.
If you are not yet to the intercourse stage and just sticking to Foreplay, then if his erection subsides, rebuild it; or, get him to climax sooner than later. Men can have multiple orgasms, although, they are generally limited to between two and four depending upon age and drive. Also, the refractory period or recovery period is much longer for us than for women, and typically between ten and thirty minutes between any two--again depending on age and drive.
So, experiment and try working within these parameters and see what happens. If the two of you are stretching your make out session out for an hour or so then this can have a definite affect on his "staying power". This, again, is poor technique. Shorten your lovemaking to forty five minutes or so and then if you want to prolong it, do so during his down time. If it doesn't correct itself from a change in technique, then make doctor's appointment.
If necessary, please read the articles listed in the Index that discuss the how-to's of making out. If your technique is lacking, these articles will give you much needed information.[/quote]
Thank you DancingDoc. :) You asked how old he is so here it is. He's 24.
Hi, and thanks for the reply. Please thumb through my response, again, because you quoted an earlier unedited version. I sometimes edit online and you caught me in the act! :eek:
Please get back to us with the results of you "testing" and the varying of your methodology.
I hope this is of help. Good luck. Remember, making love is a partnership and as one of the two team members, making love is not what we do to each other, it is what we do with and for each other. Explore and learn together. If what you are doing is causing him to loose his erection, then try a different technique perhaps along the lines of what I suggested.
* Make out lots and lots
* Try keeping it to 3/4 hour before moving on to foreplay and when you do, continue to do all that making out stuff along with the h/j and b/j.
* If you want to prolong your love making, let each other enjoy and orgasm sooner than later and once he has, go back to cuddling and making out while he is recouping and regrouping. After this period, he should be good to go again, so build his arousal and let him enjoy another orgasm, and, repeat as desired. AS FOR YOU, if you enjoy multiple orgasms, then you have a couple of options: one, is to string two or more together in rapid succession; two, is to stagger them to coincide with one of his. Whatever works in the moment.
-doc
[quote=dancingdoc2;221509]Hi, and thanks for the reply. Please thumb through my response, again, because you quoted an earlier unedited version. I sometimes edit online and you caught me in the act! :eek:
Please get back to us with the results of you "testing" and the varying of your methodology.
I hope this is of help. Good luck. Remember, making love is a partnership and as one of the two team members, making love is not what we do to each other, it is what we do with and for each other. Explore and learn together. If what you are doing is causing him to loose his erection, then try a different technique perhaps along the lines of what I suggested.
* Make out lots and lots
* Try keeping it to 3/4 hour before moving on to foreplay and when you do, continue to do all that making out stuff along with the h/j and b/j.
* If you want to prolong your love making, let each other enjoy and orgasm sooner than later and once he has, go back to cuddling and making out while he is recouping and regrouping. After this period, he should be good to go again, so build his arousal and let him enjoy another orgasm, and, repeat as desired. AS FOR YOU, if you enjoy multiple orgasms, then you have a couple of options: one, is to string two or more together in rapid succession; two, is to stagger them to coincide with one of his. Whatever works in the moment.
-doc[/quote]
Well doc, I would get back to you on this but him and I live like 600 miles apart and so we rarely see each other. Therefore, it'll be a long while before I can get back to you on how things worked out. Thanks anyway! I'll try the tips and advice that you gave me next time I see him.