Ive been seeing my guy for a month now and i love him to pieces.
Im not a virgin but he is. We have got pretty physical and now i want to move on further and have sex with him...
Thing is i dont want to make the first move. I would rather the guy.
How would i get him to do this?
Amy xxx
Buy a dozen condoms and tube of vaginal jelly with applicator and then make the first move. Have no expectations and do this for him. You will have plenty of time for reciprocity later.
What my girlfriend first did when we were in a pretty hot makeout session was whisper "you wouldn't happen to be one of those guys who carries a condom in his wallet, would you?"
See how he reacts to this, and whatever he responds, he likely wont have sex with you on the spot, considering he is a virgin. But he should take the initiative for the next time you two get comfy.
Thanks for your replies,
After i posted this i talked to stewart on msn.
We talked about sex and his worries etc.
He seems pretty clued up - his only two worries are:
1) His mum walks in on us
2) The condom splits.
Today though we got some condoms - im going round his on friday so it may happen then!
xxx
Do not forget the vaginal jelly. That improves protection greatly and is what works when the condom splits.
The best thing to use is KY Touch Warming Lubricant. It is latex-condom safe and really feels great and works at getting my girlfriend to a great orgasm.
The only thing is your boyfriend can't go down on you with it because it tastes nasty - they should make a flavoured version...
Thanks for the tips.
I will be sure to follow them - although i just saw that the condoms we got are lubricated ones!
xxx
Most condoms are lubricated, but it is usally not enough if for a long session, or if you are not very aroused.
Also, why not do it when no one is around? If someone walked in it would totally ruin his first time, and you would both proablly be very embarrassed.
Anyways, if thats not possible, I hope you two have a good time!
Don't force it Friday night. Let be what will be. If he suddenly decides he's not as ready as he thought, that MUST be okay. If you go for it and he gets performance anxiety and softens, the attitude is 'no worries, it happens to everybody, it comes with learning of technique and learning of relaxation'. Remember the nervousness, etc of your first time and be sensitive to that.
Don't forget: wrap it before you tap it.
"Lubricated" condoms are not very.... It is better to have a lubricant handy in order to make the condom as slippery as possible and to add to the mucus you produce. Make sure the mucus or the lube is distributed around the vaginal opening. Ya don't want any dry spots.
Also, he (or you) can apply some lube to the Glans only of his penis before rolling on the condom. This will give more "wiggle room" that will transfer more friction.
I do not agree with the recommendation to use a warming lube. Several people have reported that these produce a burning sensation and are quite irritable. True or not for the two of you, better to find out later than sooner.
And my guess is, the vaginal jelly recommendation was for spermicidal purposes, which was why it was described as helping if the condom splits. Lubes just lubricate and spermicides just kill sperm, don't they? Admittedly I have little experience with either (I have an iud and get wet easy) but I would think they're not interchangeable.