Your situation is not uncommon when using some forms of the pill. I suggest having a chat with your doctor and explain the situation. Even though you have evaluated other formulations, it is most likely that there is still one out there that will provide protection and not mess with your libido; however, you have to be willing to do more evaluating.

Alternatives would be a diaphragm/spermicide duo, sponge, or an IUD like "Mirena" that you can remove within the five year life of the device if you wish to become pregnant.

> I tried searching for this topic but couldn't find anything helpful.

The following articles are listed in the Index, have you read any of them?

Birth Control Failure Rates

Contraceptives

Advice on birth control

> After reading some post from Doc it would sound like I need to spend more time in foreplay, but it doesn't help any.

Thanks for reading. Because many couples (read: men, specifically) operate under the misguided misconception that because he can be UP and ready in a matter minutes, so too his partner. Other than the proverbial Quickie, not so. Most women require much more time and attention involving kisses, caresses, and general making out. I recommend that if the two of you devote at least half an hour to all this--more within reason, time and interest permitting.

> I can be on top for 2 hours and nothing.

This is overkill, tiring, most likely boring, however, your point is well made. All the more reason to investigate some of the other highly reliable contraceptive methods available other than the pill.

Your chemically altering your sex drive. You need to talk to your doctor and let him know what's up. I'm willing to bet that there are other doses, brands, or even types of birth control you could try. There is the Nuva Ring and the IUD's. Everyone I know with the copper one experienced no loss in drive since its copper and not a hormone. But they had heavier periods. My current partner has been through 14 different pills before finally finding one that allowed her sex drive to stick around (this was in the last few weeks). Now she won't leave me alone.

I was put on welbutrin at one point in my life which usually depresses sex drive. I had never wanted sex so badly in my life during that time. My girlfriend was worn out, my forearms both grew several inches from all the solo times and if the wind blew I was ready to go.

Then at one point I was taking an anti aromatase and I couldn't get hard if my life depended on it. I literally went to a strip club and had two girls dancing on me and I was so uninterested I wanted to currl into a ball and die when I overheard 1 dancer comment to the other how I was either super small or gay as they walked away.

My experience with Paxil was just as bad as the OP and worse, my hair started falling out in clumps, I got severely ill and literally freaked out. I switched several times and found out that the side effects of these pills were worse for me than the depression I was taking them for. For me, the side effects of these pills which include suicide/death proved to be near fatal. Good luck finding something that works for you OP!

From what I've read during my time researching various contraceptives, I would NOT touch the Nuva ring. It just sounds way too risky. I decided against all forms of chemical birth control (which I wanted for my menses mostly, it's killer). After consulting your doctor, try to see if you like the idea of doing it the natural way. By this I mean finding out when your ovulation starts, checking your temperature, and even using a condom. If you don't like the condom, then you'd have to suffer with using a pill that drops your libido. It's sacrificing one for another, but which would you prefer in the end? I'd sooner play around with different styles of condoms that feel good than worry about a pill. Condoms with spermicide have been proven to being perfectly effective as long as it's put on correctly and changed frequently enough, like after each ejaculation.

trglvr,

Please qualify your responses when giving response and you missed the point of the original post which is combining a hormone with an anti-depressant giving lowered libido.

Seasonique, or other multi-cycle hormoneal contraceptives, appear to have a greater depressant effect on sex drive than the regular monthly pills. Add to this paxil, clearly demonstrated to have this effect, and you will run out of sex drive pretty quickly.

If 100 women use condom protection every time for a year, fifteen will become pregnant; of 100 women on the pill for a year, taken properly, 3 will become pregnant. There is insufficient spermicide on spermicidal condoms to be effective. 100-150 grams of active ingredient of the spermicide must be in the vagina to afford adequate protection. The spermicide on a condom should be used for lubrication (with a little protection), not for protection.

OK, you would not use the Nuva Ring. That is your choice. The ring has been demonstrated to have the same effectiveness as any other hormonal system with lower hormone levels in the blood. Your advice against the ring is bad, wrong and should not be posted here. That is your opinion "based on researching various contraceptives." Try prescribing them for a few decades before you make recommendations.

Brandye, are you trying to troll all my posts or something? I've went through several medical articles, most if not all written by actual doctors who did prescribe contraceptives for decades. I think I'll trust them over you, dealing with the Nuva Ring. Everyone who posts here are posting opinions, many of them varied, so I think I'm allowed to post here. Yes, I forgot that she mentioned Plaxil being taken with Seasonique. But instead of slapping me in the face and behaving very rudely, you could have gone about it in a more polite manner.

> If you don't like the condom, then you'd have to suffer with using a pill that drops your libido. It's sacrificing one for another, but which would you prefer in the end? I'd sooner play around with different styles of condoms that feel good than worry about a pill

I am curious why barrier methods such as the diaphragm, cup, and, sponge, have not been mentioned or discussed by anyone during these recent contributions to the thread.

Perhaps you were unaware, tgrlvr, that Brandye IS a DOCTOR?

This problem is that epic has a medical condition that requires certain meds that kill her desire for sex but the cure for the problem is being denied her due to her age.

Instead of worrying about what can be done to cure her, he's worried about being sued later on when she 'might want' to have children despite the sterility of her fiance'.

He has a point so her choices are 1. find another doctor, 2 marry her fiance' right now and then get demanding or 3. put up with not desiring sex until her doctor thinks she's old enough.

Because of your various medical problems, changing the seasonique may not be possible which leaves the paxil to consider. The problem here is that there are so many viable alternatives (including some that have been around for a long time and may now be less frequently prescribed) to consider that you need to find a doctor with a lot of experience with antidepressants. The drawback is that it may take a number of weeks on a new drug to assess its effectiveness and its side effects. Your insurance situation puts you in a hard place with respect to this.