well u see, the vagina is much shorter than the erect penis so maybe u should come from a different angle in to hit the g spot. its all about the g spot and hitting it.

Dont hurt yourself or her

Wrong. It is not all about the G-spot.

What it's about is in understanding that only a few sexual positions make it possible for a woman to reach a climax directly from intercourse. Knowing this, what most knowledgeable, caring, compassionate lovers do is to reach around and finger her while stroking away.

I assume from your comment that she can in fact have orgasms from fingering or masturbation. If yes, then this is the answer. If not, then she needs to learn to masturbate, first and foremost, before you or anyone else can help her have orgasms.

A woman's orgasm is much more internalized than a man's. More often than not we do not always know when she has climaxed unless she signals us and this is why most of us have been guilty of asking the age old question "did you cum"? I think it is good etiquette and manners for a woman to let her lover know in no uncertain terms that she has climaxed. She can do this either verbally or non-verbally.

Try a Trojan Vibrating Ring. It fits on your penis and stimulates her clitoris while you have intercourse. My wife cums multiple times.

Listen to the Doc on this one...

Giving a woman an orgasm is not about crazy sexual positions, the insane hype about the G spot, or even needing toys. There are no easy buttons to press that will give a woman an orgasm, and the VAST majority of women CANNOT have an orgasm by penetration. It will feel good, but it won't be enough.

You need to do a lot of research here, but at least you've come to the right place. Things you should study: the process of warming up for sex (women take considerably longer), fingering and oral techniques, and the clitoris. The G spot to me is more of an 'extra' that should be added after you're comfortable giving her orgasms already, if you listen to this crazy hype nowadays, it's this magic place where you touch and she orgasms immeadiately. In reality it only really enhances the original orgasm experience, you still need to do all the basics to get her there. There is so much to learn, but this is definately a subject you'll enjoy practicing.

Good luck.

Hey you will know if your girlfriend is gong to have an orgasm because her breathing will get louder and she will moan louder!

A good way to give your girlfriend an amazing orgasm is to finger her and rubbing her at the same time... She will love this and she'll want you to do it all the time... For more advice visit my homepage!

Good luck with this tactic...
P.s Ive been there my boyfriend gives me realy good orgasms with that tactic

Don't hesitate to try this!!!!!!XxXxX:):p :D ;)

oops my bad. ah yes i understand now. orgasms are harder than it looks
only about 25% of women orgasm

Please begin saying MOST women need this or that- because not all of us do. There are women who are always idling, women who are predatory, and women who orgasm just because. This can be disconcerting to a guy brought up to expect a certain pattern of feminne behavior and sexual response. There are involuntary signs of orgasm, such as nipples hardening and flushing; learn them. Nothing's tackier than a guy asking "did you cum?'. Shut up and cuddle, man, cuddle! Then, when she's all nice and warm- chances are she'll want to do it again.

[QUOTE=SexTherapy;155937]well u see, the vagina is much shorter than the erect penis [/QUOTE]

How did I overlook this the first read?

WRONG! Here is a direct quote from our resident doc:

[COLOR="Magenta">[SIZE="4">95% of all vaginas can accommodate 95% of all penis'. The rest is in the man's head.[/SIZE][/COLOR]

[QUOTE] so maybe u should come from a different angle in to hit the g spot. its all about the g spot and hitting it. [/QUOTE]

Activively engaging the G-spot requires ongoing massage, not just hit and miss poking; therefore, it's all about rubbing the G-spot, just like the clitoris, the labia, the penis. Rubbing is best accomplished digitally or with a dildo.

Evil is right, in the end its all down to nowing what makes each other tick.
Slow Fast? Hard Soft? with digital stimulation or not?

Ask her what she enjoys, get her to experiment to find out,experiment with her! ;) Just make sure she doesnt hold it back, some women tend to think they need to pee when in truth they may be holding off an orgasm. Once she finds something she likes let her practice for a while, and then suggest that she 'teaches' you or atleast directs you. And then soon you'll know straight away whether your lady has come/orgasm or not, a few keythings to look out for are the reallllly loud groans ;) Haha or whatever your lady may do when it occurs. Almost everyperson man or woman has a telltale sign that occurs when they come/orgasm. And finally remember the two are separate things. Cumming is not having an Orgasm.

OK, heres something to think about then help me with, im nearly 30 and have never ever had an orgasm or come....im at the end of trying now, am sick of it. Very confused about it all...ive had enough!! sexual partners, and have tried everything myself and various other options with boyfriends.......am I abnormal, something wrong. Ive only ever told one girlfriend and my exboyfriend!!!

I wonder if you can read my message at the end of this forum...cheers doc

[QUOTE=Charleey;165651]I wonder if you can read my message at the end of this forum...cheers doc[/QUOTE]

I just now did, Charleey.

> im nearly 30 and have never ever had an orgasm or come....im at the end of trying now, am sick of it. Very confused about it all.

Here is a quote from our resident doc that I've taken the liberty to rearrange:

Only a quarter of all women regularly have orgasms from penile penetration and thrusting alone. And those usually have more practice. Most of us (half), therefore, require some additional stimulation. At the other extreme, a quarter never experience orgasm.

It is possible that you fall into the last category and are unable to achieve an orgasm. If true, then your pleasure and ecstacy will come from all the other physical activities the two of you do along with the emotional connection you have with your lover.

Now, let's look into the possibility that you can have orgasms, although have not yet trained yourself how. I have written about this at length. Here is some reading material for the two of you to study:

First-
For Women Only- Help! Why Can't He Make Me Orgasm?

Second-
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

Going back to what Brandye stated, above, once you make the transition from a preorgasmic individual to an orgasmic woman, you will find that very few sexual positions provide the necessary contact between your bodies to stimulate the clitoris continuously, and this is why she said that you will require additional stimulation. What this boils down to is that a considerate, caring, and compassionate lover, will reach around and stimulate you by hand while stroking away.

Three popular positions that provide decent contact for continuous and ongoing friction are: a) the Woman Superior, b) the "X" and c) "Y" positions. The last two differ only in the positions of your legs while you recline on your sides facing each other.

> am I abnormal, something wrong.

You are certainly not abnormal, even if you find that you are unable to climax. I hope that this information helps to correct what is not going right.