This is a double post...

Well, in the first place if you need to "coerce" her into trying this you are already off to a bad start.

You should not need to coerce anyone to have to do anything, you need to speak to her about it, tell her your fantasy and see how it sits with her, is she open to it etc.

If she is open to the idea she would probably need to make the selection (or at least have the final decision) as to who it will be.

As for my opinion, I think this could be a mistake, are you sure this is what you want? You need to be VERY secure in your relationship to be able to "witness" what could be better then anything you can provide her!!

[QUOTE=snugglysoft1999;170501]ok well let me first state that i am straight and in no way bi or gay. i have been with my gf for 8 years(yea i know, long time for no ring) lol. anyway, i feel that we are rather sexually outgoing. we do a lot of things that are wild and crazy but i recently have an obsession with something new.

Ive had this thought for a lil over a year now and i have only slightly brought it up to her. put simply, i want to see her have sex with another man. not necessarily a 3some, i just want to see her during sex in the 3rd person. (video taping has been tried and not what i yearn for.)

my question i guess is, is this weird? and what can i possibly do to coerce her into doing it? and what on earth would i say to a dude to get him to try this(i dont want any of my friends)

i consider myself to be MUCH more sexually outgoing than her but she can be outgoing at times. im sure this sounds crazy, i mean not many guys wanna see their girlfriend get pounded by another dude, but for some odd reason i really do, lol

any help or advice or even just criticism would be great. thank u in advance and sorry for such a long read[/QUOTE]

An ex of mine had this same fantasy, so I guess you are not alone on that one. He wouldn't let me bring in another women for play time, but wanted to see me banged out by another guy.

This is NOT an abnormal idea - far from it. You are going to have to TALK to her about this; as a fantasy you'd like to try make real - if you've tried videotaping, you can say it wasn't quite what you had in mind. Let her think about it. Go out and do preliminary hunts for your third togather. Ask her if she thinks he is cute.Just do not do anything until she says YES.

This is crazy, I cant **** another guy, not for myself or even if my man wanted me to (though he'd never want that, if anything another girl...id PROBABLY do that) but i cant see my self doing that OR wanting to, and i woulnt want him having sex with another girl, but this is strange, if she's into it then okay if you wont get jealous, but if shes like me she wont do it

What you're having is a fantasy. IMO, if you act on a fantasy, you're going to open MANY doors. Be prepared that they could in fact ruin your relationship & make things nasty. When you start to look outside of the relationship for pleasure, you're bringing others into your relationship, whether you realize it or not, so if you want your relationship to be "normal" and "sacred" then acting out on the fantasy isn't your best choice. If you don't care how it could impact the emotional piece of your relationship, do what ever you want as long as the other people are aware & okay w/ it.

I wouldn't do it, but that's me.

With a threesome you have to come to grips with several issues:

1. how well do you trust your bf/gf?
2. can you understand the difference between love and sex?
3. how well do you trust yourself?
4. does your b/gf understand the difference between love and sex?

You have to remember that the "sacredness" lies in the bond between the bf & gf, not in the sex acts.

I'll help. haha